I met my girlfriend on Guardian soulmates, and we’ve been together for 2 and a half years and going strong.
I think the best approach to take, is not to have some prepared strategy based on ill-concieved prejudice of females as so dramatically ‘other’. They’re human beings like you, and – sorry if this sounds ’empathetic’ – but people’s emotions aren’t actually a game, are they?
PS – people who refer to ‘talking about feelings’ in sarcastic speech marks probably aren’t going to help you much.