Lost my son today

bruders – your kids are amazing. i went on my ride today and spent most of it thinking about your posts and liitle hood who is 5 months old (although he look 5 years old as he is MASSIVE!)
again, thoughts are with you and please please please dont bottle it up, sounds hard but its good to talk.
chin up

Bruders, I’m just posting to show you and your family that there is another young family standing here alongside you in your pain and grief. Words don’t suffice, but I pray you get a sense of peace that goes beyond our physical/mental understanding to help you all through this. As others have said time will heal your heart but it takes time…….

Big love to you and your family

Thanks for posting the pictures.

There is nothing I can add and I cannot even begin to express how sorry I am for you. My email is in my profile if you want to talk to a complete stranger about anything – Serious or bike talk. If you’re anywhere near Staffordshire area and fancy a drink / Chat / Ride with a complete stranger you know where my email is. Keep close to your family they need you too.

bruders338 – Member

Today was strange I eneded up waking hoping this was all a bad dream. Unfortunately this is not the case.

I had a good cry after reading your beautiful replys it honestly helps really strange feeling as I dont know any of you (maybe thats why)

Im never ever going to forget George and each and everyone of your kind words I know im repeating myself but it really does help..

Thank you so so much

Im sure I will see you on a trail oneday

Ride safe. Xxxx
I’m still crying & I’ve never met you, after posting last night I just couldn’t settle as I had a brother 1 year younger than me who died in his first year.
So I phoned my mum who I know still grieves nearly 50 years on, we spent a very tearful but truthful 1/2 hour on the phone.
She phoned this morning to thank me for being a wonderful son at which point I blubbed big style again.

Please keep posting as I honestly think its sometimes easier to open up to complete strangers like us.
I’m struggling even more to keep the tears back since you posted the pictures

Lovely pictures. So sorry for you all. Life is cruel sometimes. Hope you all find a way through this together.

I cant even begin to think what I should write here, I’ll just have to say how sorry I am for your loss.

I’ve been reading this all day, and still don’t know what to say.
As a parent I think I can imagine your pain, but in reality, I doubt I can.
Hugs to you and your lovely family.

When we nearly lost one of our boys this was a song I used to listen too – thinking we were going to have to say goodbye.

It somehow helped me – maybe it will you?

3rd time I’ve come back to this thread, and like everyone else I’m shedding tears for your loss.
Wasn’t going to write anything as I couldnt imagine what words can help you right now. I’d like to echo the sentiment of all the other forum members. look after yourself, by doing so you will be best placed to look after your family.
don’t be afraid to ask for any help off the forum, I’m sure there a numerous people local to you that will drop anything to help in whatever way right now.

Muchos love xxx

Can’t think of any words. Sending you and all the family love and light.

dont know what to say ..other than you ll feel like your the only ones its ever happended to but sadly your not alone.. been there.

get the gen on what to do.. and do it all i m so glad that as a macho bloke i did all the things i’d have never considered doing because now as i look back i can say that i did everything there was to do.

i carried my son into the church .. read the sermon, read a story to him at the service, caqrried him to the crematoruim placed him on alter.. do everything mate you might not feel like it but i m so glad i did

dont know what to say ..other than you ll feel like your the only ones its ever happended to but sadly your not alone.. been there.

get the gen on what to do.. and do it all i m so glad that as a macho bloke i did all the things i’d have never considered doing because now as i look back i can say that i did everything there was to do.

i carried my son into the church .. read the sermon, read a story to him at the service, caqrried him to the crematoruim placed him on alter.. do everything mate you might not feel like it but i m so glad i did

As far as I can see/read, the strength you’re showing is tremendous. You sound like an awesome dad and husband. Stay strong.

Not much more I can find to say sorry.

So very sorry for your loss –
Not much more I can offer other than a couple of ideas of how to help your older kids through this, both these ideas were suggested to us to help my daughter (who was nearly 4) through the sudden loss of a close relative a couple of years back –

A friend lent us a book called ‘Badgers parting gifts’ by Susan Varley – it is aimed at helping small kids through berevement, and is fantastic, i’d highly recommend it.

The other thing we did was buy a helium balloon, write a message to the person your’ve lost on a piece of paper and attach it to the balloon, we then took it to the park and let it go, waving it off into the clouds – my wife and I were crying our eyes out, but I think it really helped our daughter..

Good luck and keep talking…

Sorry for your loss ,my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
There’s a lot of good folk on here so don’t be afraid to talk

Another dad here,I’m in pieces reading this. I don’t have any wise words as nothing in my experience can come close to what you must be feeling right now. Just please don’t blame yourself.

My ten month old boy is getting the hug of his life when he wakes up.

So sorry. x

Anothery teary father here reading the OP’s comments and those of others who’ve suffered something similar or not. Lovely pics, stay strong and my thoughts are with you and yours. Gone but never forgotten.

Sorry for you all. Thoughts with you x

God life is tough sometimes, if his forum is helping then please keep posting, as you can see people care and are thinking of you. You’re a brave man, I wish you and your family all the best.

As others have said, word cannot really suffice.

But my thoughts and condolences are with all those involved

I am so sorry.

I will be thinking of you and your family x

Very sorry for your loss – after reading this I just went to check on my sleeping 15th month son to make sure he was ok.

All my family send their condolences

Being strong.

It’s when you read things like this you realise how often this terrible situation happens to people. My thoughts are with you all.

J

Another thanks for posting the pictures – lovely.

Jeez, what an awful thing to happen. As per everyone else, sorry and sincere condolences. I can’t imagine what you are feeling.

I’ve lost people close to me at young ages (mum and an uncle) and know how hard it can be, but I have no idea what it must be like to lose a kiddy. All I can say is talk to your family, be open and show how you are feeling, although that can be harder said than done.

When my uncle passed away at the age of 30, he left two young girls behind aged 5 and 3. My aunt got some very good advice on how to explain it to them and do things to help them come to terms with it. I can’t remember where she got it from, but will try and find out (I know they did things like let balloons go, up to daddy in heaven etc).

I’m so sorry for your loss. As others have said, don’t be afraid to talk. There are plenty who will listen.

I can’t find the words to help, but you are doing the right thing. You must talk about your boy and let your feelings out.

Love and prays to you all.

Nothing to say other than I’m so, so sorry for your loss.

when my friend died his wife used Winstons Wish a lot. it’s a charity that specialises is helping kids who have lost loved ones. It may be worth getting in touch.

awful news, sorry for your loss

warton – Member
when my friend died his wife used Winstons Wish a lot. it’s a charity that specialises is helping kids who have lost loved ones. It may be worth getting in touch

When my wife’s cousin died suddenly at 33 leaving 5yr old twins and a 3 yr old her husband and kids used Winstons Wish a lot. They have nothing but good words to say about them. Could be worth a look.

Just so very sorry… you have my thoughts.

I’m so cut up reading this. I have no idea how you and your family must be feeling right now. I was lucky enough to become a Dad just 10 days ago and reading this has brought tears to my eyes and I am not an a very emotional person.
My thoughts are with you and your family.

Sad sad news all our thoughts are with you.

very sorry to hear this .

for your autistic son , maybe a social story ?

So sad. Don’t really have the words.

Be strong

..very sorry to read this,shocking post,thinking of you all at this time…

I’m so so so sorry! I simply can’t imagine how you all must feel. Thinking of you.