Lost my son today
Im so sorry, words cant say how much. Im a father to a 4 year old, we were told when he was 2 months old he wouldnt make it through the night, the anguish and pain were unimginable. I remember thinking I had to stay strong for my wife. You are allowed to grieve , try to be strong for your family. He will always be your son.
My thoughts are with you.
ScottPosted 5 years agoSpongebobMember
OMG! I’m very saddened to hear your news and have my sympathy! No need for apologies – if posting here helps you through this, then that’s totally fine. I hope our responses help a little, but expect you’ll be feeling numb for a while and that no words from anyone on here will “touch the sides”. Give your family lots of hugs.Posted 5 years agomarvincooperMember
Agree with richpips, we have friends who lost a newborn and they were, as far as I know, honest about it with their 4 year old son, while of course being as delicate about it as possible. I don’t think they are particularly religious but they have told him that his sister has gone and if he looks up at night she is a star in the sky.
I have no idea how I would cope in your situation except to get my family close around me and just be there for each other. Talk if it helps, get out on the bike to clear your head if you can.
Good luck fella, so so sorry to hear this.Posted 5 years agoMrOvershootSubscriber
Can’t even begin to imagine what your going through right now!
All I can say is your obviously a brave man so I suggest telling your eldest with all your emotion at 11.
I have a friend who’s son is autistic and he had to tell him about his grandfather’s death,he was in bits so just told him through tears and his son calmly walked up and held his hand and said “Dad don’t cry your my best friend!”
When he told me this I was glad I was 180 miles away on the end of a phone as tears were streaming down my face.
Please don’t try to be “strong” I’m pretty sure we would all give you a hug.Posted 5 years agomuppetWranglerMember
I’ve tried writing down some advice but it all seems so inadequate given the pain you must be going through right now.
There is some good advice here, might be worth a read if only to confirm that every emotion you’re feeling is perfectly normal:
Please don’t try to be “strong” I’m pretty sure we would all give you a hug.
And I wholeheartedly agree with this. Just be honest about your emotions with yourself, your family and your friends.Posted 5 years agoboxelderSubscriber
anyone have any suggestion on how to tell the other two kids my eldest is autistic
You don’t say how old, but from my teaching experience, be clear and unambiguous. Give them a few minutes and then check they understand. Grieve together – don’t worry about them seeing you upset.Posted 5 years ago
You’ve got two very special kids and will get through this.igrfMember
I am very sorry to read this, I lost my only son in similar circumstances (Cot Death, sudden infant death syndrome they called it) All I can say is be prepared for a lot of pain and grief, you are in shock now, next comes the inevitable questions that shake any belief you might have to the core and you won’t know what to do with yourself, it is the worse thing that can happen to a parent.
Needless to say you have to keep your act together for your family, neither me or you posting on internet forums is going to do much, suffice to say although it was some twenty odd years ago now, I know exactly what you are and about to be going through.
My email is in the profile, if you feel you need someone to just chat to please don’t hesitate to contact me I’ll give you my cel, it is an absolute hellish experience to have to deal with and one i can’t boast to have ever really recovered from, My Mrs handled it differently to me and wouldn’t talk, still doesn’t and you don’t want to dump on others so you end up dealing with it inwardly which can also **** you up in different ways which I’m happy to chat with you about.
But, like me you probably wont want to and that’s O.K., but I’m sincere in the offer.
What else can i say, all it does is open the wound, you have my very deepest sympathy.Posted 5 years agoKevevsMember
I think for the last hour or so, like many on here, I’ve been having a think about this and how powerfully emotional it must be. If there is anything I can do, even just to chat shite with a complete stranger my email is @yahoo.co.uk">firstname.lastname@example.org I can’t imagine your sadnessPosted 5 years ago
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