Help needed! Getting out of the friend zone!

In her head, you’re gay. Even if you’re not, you are.

This.

Walk away. Find yourself someone else my friend. Too much history with this one. There will be plenty of other partners she hasnt told you about. Your dream ending is about to become a rude awakening. Sorry, but real life isnt a rom-com mate.

If you must go through with this, at least be prepared.

Walk away. Find yourself someone else my friend. Too much history with this one. There will be plenty of other partners she hasnt told you about. Your dream ending is about to become a rude awakening. Sorry, but real life isnt a rom-com mate.

Funny how people can make statements like this as if they were fact, based purely on nothing but their own assumptions and preconceptions. 🙄
The same goes for a number of other people here as well. Somehow, I really think the OP knows this young lady better than all of you, and, based on that make his own mind up.

From the number of people who believe that the possibility the lady may have had a number of sexual partners is an issue, I assume there are a lot of virgins or religious nuts on this forum.

Funny how people can make statements like this as if they were fact, based purely on nothing but their own assumptions and preconceptions.

That’s what we’re here for!

Exactly what I was thinking. I wasn’t aware picking a partner was like looking for a car and more than a couple of previous owners spelled alarm bells. I hope the blokes saying that this would be a problem for them are all following their own advice and have had a lifetime of keeping it in their pants.

crankboy and atlaz + loads.Why would you worry,other than about STDs?

I’m not sure as I got bored during sex education in school but I thing STD’s are passed when you have unprotected sex with an infected partner . So the number of partners is not the issue.

crankboy, you are right ….to a point, herpes for instance,flares up intermittently, yet the carrier will not always know when they are ‘glowing’–also lead-in time for some STDs is a few months…..but if she has only had four ‘partners’–and only two have been ‘permitted’– its unlikely he has much to worry on that score….

I was always taught one partner was enough to get an STD and actually, unless you’re going out with a virgin, it’s irrelevant how many people they’ve slept with really, just whether they care enough to be tested after partners. Surely these days, everyone gets tested from time to time?

So the number of partners is not the issue.

Unless you have a winkle like a pencil.

Surely these days, everyone gets tested from time to time?

err no, that is big part of the problem,most only come forward after catching something,and infecting others (usually inadvertantly)– but once they are ‘cured’ carry on regardless….education is the key really,and a sense of responsibility.

Just ask

I’ve learnt one thing in the last few days and that is to seize every chance you get to do something you want. Skip work today and go and find her, tell her how you feel, don’t wait another week for a date, just go and do it.

It won’t matter a toss if it’s awkward just tell her how you feel.

Can I just congratulate the STW Massive on evolving a post about someone telling someone they love how they truly feel, to her inevitably giving him Bad AIDS!. It took 4 pages, but we got there 😆

No one has suggested showing her this thread yet. Standards are slipping

My god, why do so many of you assume she must think he is gay? An interesting but sad insight into the minds of men.

binners – well I think the other fork in the road was a prolonged discussion about the promiscuity of any woman who has slept with more than one man and particularly this young lady. I think the STD discussion was positively civilised and reasonable by comparison 🙂

Can I just congratulate the STW Massive on evolving a post about someone telling someone they love how they truly feel, to her inevitably giving him Bad AIDS!. It took 4 pages, but we got there

I blame the nazis.

Don’t recall the OP asking for estimates of how many sexual partners some of you believe his friend has had. Probably doesn’t matter to him anyway as he already seems relaxed about her relationships and the fact that shock horror she has had four long-term relationships that have and may have not included sex. Why do some of you think this is relevant or helpful?

OP only a couple of things matter in my mind. Explore the option with her – if you don’t you will never know and always wonder. If she is a true friend either way this won’t matter – you will either be in a relationship with your best friend or still friends. If she cannot maintain a friendship after you discuss this then you were not such good friends as you thought.

Best of luck and remember this is not the end if the world if it doesn’t work out and a dream come true if it does!

J

I blame the nazis.

Thatcher, surely? 😉

“Bad AIDS”? WTF? Is there such a thing as ‘good’ AIDS?

jamj1974: Bad AIDS is a Chris Morris / Brass Eye reference

I know… I was un-characteristically joking! Almost as good as ‘cake’ and “Shatner’s Bassoon”!

The Edinburgh Defence?

No one has suggested showing her this thread yet. Standards are slipping

It’s worse than that. I don’t think anybody has asked for pictures.

My god, why do so many of you assume she must think he is gay? An interesting but sad insight into the minds of men.

You’re taking us too literally.

He’s not gay and she knows he’s not gay.

But in her head she has him in the same pigeon hole as the gay guys, ie “men I can tell stuff to because there’s never going to be any action there”.

Anyway there are no certainties. OP, go prove us wrong. Me I’d just give her a snog and see what happens. You’ll know soon enough if you’re on.

Any news?

Hora that’s not very nice

Edit

That hand..

Lols at Hora

I have a friend who fancied a chap. Somehow she thought he was gay so they just became friends.
A year or so later, he mentioned a girlfriend who had recently finished with him, so said the correct soothing words, while thinking wow! I’m going to make a play for him.

Luckily there was a good outcome and they are very. very happily married (or so she says) 😉

or so she says

😆

Come on OP,keep up,did she say yes?,and if so,what to?

Hora, that’s inspired 😆

I have a friend who fancied a chap. Somehow she thought he was gay so they just became friends.

I thought this when i first met nbt as well 😉

Aye mincing down those trails 🙂

🙂

c’mon, what’s happened?