Celibacy……….

If you dare let me…

*raises hand*

I've just popped in and had a look.

Is rejection such a major issue? Silly question for younger people obviously but for middle aged people I would have thought this was path of the course. Certainly dating and life wise. You've not been brought up in this ridiculous society so surely you're used it it and understand it's part of life, yes?

sharki – you coming along then?

samuri – it does sound as though it is for some people. As regards "middle-aged people", yep I am one of these apparently and I rejected my now ex-husband. He was devasted after decades of marriage. So, in answer to your question, everyone is affected differently.

My defences are well and truly fortified.

Yup, just say when and where and i'll make sure i'm free single and riding a bike.

Girls are scary, I'm a bit like Rajesh in Big Bang Theory when it comes to talking to women.

Fortunately this is no longer a problem as I'm married 😉

He was devasted after decades of marriage.

Yes, he would be but that's taking my comments out of context as you well know. All the previous rejection worries were based around asking someone out on a first date as far as I could tell.

But surely it's just not about the first date? What about six months into a relationship and cracks appear? I believe people are really quite fragile nowadays.

What I mean is that some people are so terrified of rejection that they don't reach the first date. Which of course leads us nicely to the question of whether we have "protected" our children too much from the knocks that life gives us.

You're agreeing with me now. 😉

Not exactly! I am a woman!

lol

He was devasted after decades of marriage.

How much did you take him for? "Our children" suggests you have some so probably a sizeable sum. I suggest that someone who pokes people's eyes out is leading the blind here.

For those males not lucky enough to have found one of the rare females that shags because she enjoys it and is with you because she likes you I suggest weekend breaks in Holland or Germany where reasonable rates apply. Or are you/would be be a source of status, cash, a flash house/car, the right genes for healthy kids… ?

I'm up for the ride!

Edukator – **** off.

I'm 27 and feel like I'd be past it if I was to be single again. 90% of all my friends are married, or otherwise engaged.

So I have a big fear of rejection, and I also have a big fear of seeing her with another person if we did split. She was my first girlfriend etc etc

And scream..i've experienced you do both whilst having a ride

haha – yes that's true as you know 😆

the male to female ratio will be difficult. perhaps those of you that know any single ladies that mtb but don't frequent on here, pass the message on that there'll be a fun singletontrackworld ride on the go at some point!

27 ha! Hope you still have the magic then, I suppose the danger with your situation is that your guys are just together because you're scared of being alone.. I'm sure you're not though, just, it does happen, right?

Yeah, the marriage/baby crew get tiresome for us singletards (well for me anyway).

Is that a subtle sign of interest or a rejection C_G? Either way you have just lost control of your situation.

By the way, it's very difficult to tell who is a she and who is a he going by user names. Apart from the obvious of course 😉

Magic? What is that? I can do a card trick if you want? 😉

Edukator, harsh man.

Not nice being the rejector or being rejected. It's been worse for me when I've had to reject someone than when I've been rejected. That's only after a year or so, not 'decades'..

Edukator – I've seen your inane postings before.

it's very difficult to tell who is a she and who is a he going by user names

i think it would be in everyones interests to fess up to being a man or a woman…..or the ride could turn out to be interesting 😯

My point exactly. Not that I'd be going on this ride. For two reasons, and one being I'm in another country, just back across the puddle in Norn Iron.

CG – Edukators post strikes me as being very well observed and makes his point beautifully, going straight through the surface flirting and backslapping. Shame it ruffled your feathers, but I imagine it would be a bit of a shock after so much smoke has been blown up yours and aleighs arse in these 6 pages (6 pages!) of desperate teenage hand wringing angst.

Reading this has been like looking at a fatal car crash. Horrible yet morbidly fascinating.

Still, I guess thats what internet forums are for?! 😆

so much smoke has been blown up yours and aleighs arse in these 6 pages (6 pages!) of desperate teenage hand wringing angst.

don't quite know what you mean by that comment scienceofficer! but like you said, it's a forum 😆

Picture the scene

20 blokes and a couple of women turn up in a forest near you. They are all single and self confessed celibate.

I 100% guarentee that the first thing the 2 girls will do is decide on who is the most attractive to them and latch on. You guys who are pretty ordinary will not get so much as a second's thought. Be prepared for having conversations with similarly placed men on the ride whilst two or three guys get to chat to a girl he has a 'chance with'. At the end of the ride you will be even more confused than before

I cant think of a more unbalanced way of meeting a woman and having the chance to show her my personality than this.

Thankfully i have a wife who i met when i was 15, is sexier 20yrs later than she has ever been, has given me two kids and woke me up for sex this morning before i went to work. Otherwise i havent got a clue how i would manage to get quality time with a girl without having to pay for it.

oh dear…… 😆

Is that to my post aleigh? Do you dissagree?

hobo – you're assuming the females would be considered attractive?

yeah – i just find people on here when they get 'serious' quite amusing to say the least!

as for TC's comment, shallow springs to mind 😆

I think people well over complicate things. Just go out, be sociable and talk to people – you might even find they are happy to talk with you. It's really not that scary.

Kev

Okay, my singletonworld profile
name: neil
sex: male
age: 36
location: London (upper Norwood and Whitehall)
employment: civil service
kids: none
other: Non-smoker, GSH etc etc :o)
looking for: straight female, with no children of similar age and located in London. Asking too much perhaps.

Keen to come on the ride. would like to meet a few new people to ride (bicycles) with anyway, and would like to be shown more of Swinley (my one visit on my own left me thinking it was okay but not amazing – strongly suspect I didn't find a lot of good stuff though)

c-g, yes climbing is better as I said, and those girls that climb are very attractive, but it's still 2/3rds men if not more. I have been doing a few things to meet other climbers and there are a couple of girls that if I meet again I hope to ask out. I'm not good at just asking someone out really quickly though. I need to spend a little time in their company and get to know them a tiny bit first. Which then means I have to bump into them a second or third time before I can ask them out…and I do struggle to find the right moment. shouting down to the girl belaying you when 10m up a wall is probably not the time to ask if she fancies coming for a drink with you!

Edukator – Not everybody thinks quite as you do. Plenty do, but plenty don't.

i agree 🙂

great profile….i wonder what would happen if i posted mine up? be called 'desperate' i suspect because that's what some of the lads on here think about women when they talk about being single!

tribalchief – if some of the stories on here are true i expect a lot of the blokes would find Bella Emburgh attractive!

No offence to aleigh and co but they will find a couple of the blokes attractive and take it from there. Whats the score with the others?

Serious note. If you want to date another member of this site you should be able to go into their profile, look at their picture and send them an email saying you find them attractive. Would you like to meet up. As long as the sender isnt lewd and the recipient isnt gonna take the piss outta them, thats the best way.

AL – is it shallow to want to find your partner attractive? I wasn't passing judgment I have no idea what you or CG look like, neither am I interested. just thought it was a pertinent point.

I disagree with whatever aleigh agrees with 🙂

I've been single for about 6 years now, tried dating a couple of times but i presume i must be a bit scary having had a mental illness. Perhaps i should just not mention this???

keva – If what you say is true why have some of these guys been 10yrs without sex? If being sociable gets you laid then by all means do it. A group ride of singletons would be more uncomfortable than the doctors thread about things being shoved in different orrifices elsewhere on this site.

I wanna see a photo of Aleigh 😉

AL – is it shallow to want to find your partner attractive? I wasn't passing judgment I have no idea what you or CG look like, neither am I interested. just thought it was a pertinent point.

you can call me ali 🙂

attractiveness can be looks or personality. i've experienced both when it comes to meeting/getting to know a man

barnes – you're just difficult!

a pic of me? pm me and i'll send you one……no flithy shot mind 😉