Would you date a call girl?

Eeeeeeee Eddie Murphy. 😀

Bikebouy no your not a prude. Even good folk make the odd mistake in their life.

Its when it becomes a consistent mistake and they try to explain it as a rationall lifestyle choice does it become dubious.

It’s a funny topic this because what almost everyone has missed out on is the potential emotional connection that people feel toward potential partners.

I’m assuming the OP’s friend didn’t find out that his potential girlfriend was a sex worker within the first 5 minutes. Given that, I’d imagine the question is one of – is the emotional link greater than the feelings about her career and the physical proximity that brings her into with other males. There’s a big degree of assumed possession with the second part of that – although for some people monogamy is part of a relationship. But – if he has no emotional involvement, why would he care. If he has a great deal of emotional involvement then it would hopefully trump any feelings of intrusion into the relationship.

I don’t get all the judgement. Or the mortal fear that something might be caught.

Me? Personally, if I felt a strong enough bond with the person? Yeah, I would. Hell, my girlfriend wasn’t a virgin when I met her and I couldn’t give a monkey’s curse about that. Doesn’t and didn’t make the slightest difference to me. My past hasn’t made one bit of difference to her either.

Being honest, I’d be far, far more bothered if she was a member of the BNP/NF/UKIP than being an escort. Each to their own i guess.

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As an aside, can I remind everyone to be respectful and civil to each other please?

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Quite simply, I would in all honesty probably put my fingers in my ears and start reciting the Lords Prayer once I found out.
Which again sounds bloody pathetic and is more a reflection of me and my moral backbone than the person in question.
I would however feel very guilty inside because I wouldn’t be able to comprehend, in simple terms, the enormity of the situation. And I don’t like feeling like that.
What this has done is made me think about the OP’s situation. Place me in that self same situation and knowing who I am and what I am and what I stand by means I’d steer clear, very quickly.
But as a society, a functioning society, it isn’t cut and dried or simple is it. No, no there are many people who seek out pleasure in some form, some seek out work in whatever form and I should be able to stand by a societies choice to do what it wants and when it wants. I do, well I seem to do to some extent. In this instance I just can’t comprehend the persons choice to do this line of work.
And to say that the person in this situation is “choosy” suggests to me they enjoy doing what they do and there in lies my moral rub.

Just to add background to this.. I have experienced lots of folks in my wide friendship group during my clubbing days who did sleep around, sometimes freely sometimes not. All I saw of that was hurt and pain and nasty bitchy situations. None ended well. My close friends it never happened to, no nope none of them. Yes we’d hear of “high class girls” seeking out well healed blokes for kicks n coke n money, but they were few and far between. And you’d never know by looking at them either.

It’s a varied and fruitful world this, you never know who you walk past or indeed work next to do you? Or do you 😆

Anyways..

For me this isn’t about folks making mistakes about finding life partners, no truly it isn’t. This OP’s situation is very different to that scenario.

Good topic though folks, kept me entertained and wished I’d been able to drop in earlier.. 8)

“high class girls” seeking out well healed blokes

Yeah, I’ve heard some chicks dig scars…

😉

Yeah why not I’m in .wait no I’m out ,naa sod it I’m in again, aww sorry love

Nowt against it in principle, but you just know that the punters would get the heels, basques, stockings and make-up… and you’d get the grumpy frump in a onesie wanting to snuggle on the sofa after a hard day at the orifice 👿

checks sten1’s posting history, strokes chin….

All the comments about STI’s are so stupid. Your are just as likely to get an STI off anyone, not just a prostitute

Worked with a DR who had a part time job manning the STI ambulance, for street girls and boys all adults,to attend and get free condoms, sexual health checkups and the ability to report dangerous customers.

He believed they provided a service to punters, and he provided a service to them.

She’ll smell like Grimsby docks.

100% correct… but no reason not to date a person, many many people have much bigger emotional issue and have never sold sex.

Precisely, half the posters on here are more emotionally retarded than a sex worker. I’ve met far more emotionally screwed up “nice” women. than I have met emotionally screwed up promiscuous women.

Sten1 close to your heart, wallet and/or pleasure circuits?

That’s a pretty dick remark isn’t it Hora. Anyway, I’m going to go out of my way and say that I will laugh my bollocks off if your nice wife ends up divorcing you as marriages are to long for a vast swathe of the human population.

I dated one for 2 years , my moral compass was way off – it worked for me then it was fun, i worked away a lot , learnt a lot about men and money ha ha .A night out with her and her colleagues was eye opening to say the least as was checking and translating emails . Some of her friends earned $4000 a month – wish i had tits 😛

Precisely, half the posters on here are more emotionally retarded than a sex worker.

When did you find the time to meet them all? Must have been quite a ride (sorry!).

The one I knew said to me “would you rather earn £500 a night or a week?”
I thought £500 a week would be a start!

no

What’s the difference between a call girl and a hooker?

The one I knew said to me “would you rather earn £500 a night or a week?”
I thought £500 a week would be a start!

I’ve met someone who said she charges around £1k an hour, not a bad job I guess.

Yeah, how many of you lot would bonk rich potentially reasonably attractive women for 1K an hour.

I’m sure Hora would!

I reckon my missus would be rather proud of me if women were paying me that to screw them. 😆

I lived in Las Vegas in my late 20’s and my next door neighbor was a woman about 28 or so who was a high-end call girl–articulate & smart (worked directly at the behest of casino pit bosses for high-roller clientele). She had a 4 year old son that I took care of a few evenings when she couldn’t get her regular child-care person on short notice. At her age, she owned her home outright, had a new corvette and most of her son’s college money in the bank. I must say she was stunningly beautiful and yes, the thought crossed my mind quite often.

Yes as long as it stops now ( as has been mentioned by OP)

She sounds pragmatic and careful and she sees, something in you, she likes.

You never know you maybe still together in 30 years and sniggering about it when your kids try to shock you with tales of what they have been upto on Holiday

^^^ Samunkim has offered just about the only piece of wisdom in this thread, life’s to short. Never say never, one day you will be dead for the rest of eternity having never dated that stunning call girl.

Then again, I am an irreverent hedonist.

P.S. Hora, you are Frank from Mash and I claim my two Martinis.

What a lot of prejudice against girls who work in call centres!

🙂

I’ve skipped past five pages of posters calling each other out over perceived insults, etc.

hora – Member
Never ceases to amaze me how many blokes will spend a night trying to woo a woman in a club, chatting her up, buying her drinks, just on the off-chance that she might sleep with him at the end of the night and then never see each other again. And yet, you suggest cutting out the middle man and just giving the drinks money straight to her and those same blokes blanch at the very idea.
Disagree. Its hope- the hope you’d get off with someone really nice, it may turn into something. You may actually meet someone you like longtime. Avoid stereotyping every male in the land as wanting a one-night stand.

When we were single, deep down we all seek the life partner.
This, basically.
It’s the idea of sharing someone with a bunch of anonymous individuals that would bother me most of all, I have no issues with a G/F having friends who she sees socially, but on an intimate basis? Sorry, but no, wouldn’t work
Even someone who’s given the life up, it would worry me that something unpleasant from her past could come back and cause trouble.
And I don’t mean STI, I’ve caught one from a G/F, who wasn’t long out of school, she was unbelievably upset at the thought she had something and passed it on to me, can happen to anyone. (NSU, in this case).

errrr… I wouldn’t currently as I’m head over heels in love with a very loyal and monogamous lady..

As a slight aside though..

Me and a very good mate I used to live with were drunk one evening messing about playfighting outside of the pub when he caught me a beaut and cracked a couple of my ribs..
The next morning I couldn’t move, and he was heading out on the lash again.. being a generous kind of chap he popped his head around the door to see if I needed anything picked up from town while he was out..

In my bedridden state I stated that it was blatantly obvious that I required the ministrations of a naked nurse..
By some bizarre twist of fate, as he was walking into town, two pretty young hookers that we were acquainted with came out of a house he was passing, dressed in PVC nurses outfits..

Now you would think under the circumstances that he would have considered the plight of his wounded friend, but no.. He invited them round for an afternoon of chilli con carne and cider at another mates house in town and regaled me later with tales of a very merry and mostly naked time that was enjoyed by all except for the injured party..

best mate humour can be a bloody bastard sometimes

Has anyone done yes “your mom” yet?

sten1, if she’s for real, is awesome. She sounds to be my type. [FAD – completely straight face]. Brilliant contribution to an often rather saddening thread.

As ever, I depend on Dan Savage for answers to the difficult questions of sexual ethics which I am unlikely ever to have to confront.

Assuming someone is otherwise partner material (nice, fun, attractive, pleasant to be around, not horrendously unwell or unhappy) and assuming that their professional risks were reasonably well-managed, I’d like to think so.

In practice, as nickc said a few million posts back, I’d probably make a hash of it

because of my own insecurities rather than some dubious moral viewpoint.

🙂

Right, I skipped the last few pages because of the arguing. Has anybody done;

OP; Younare Buggy Bear and I claim my £5.

What an astonishing thread.

To answer the OP no. However as most stw’ers are socially awkward I can see why he’d have to.

Also, think of all that undeclared Income ?

Wot?

No one else mention it 😆

most stw’ers are socially awkward

Really? Bit of a sweeping statement. I’ve met a fair few from here and all were fine and not socially awkward at all.

…and I’ve even met Fred!

Yeah, how many of you lot would bonk rich potentially reasonably attractive women for 1K an hour.

It wouldn’t take that long, does she do a pro rata rate? 😀

It wouldn’t take that long, does she do a pro rata rate?

would still be £50 well spent.

Side note / interest. If you booked company for an hour, do you get an hour? Or is it – you know – well you’ve had your chips, that’s that. Because I think I can speak for many here, the prospect of that length of time with a stunningly attractive young courtesan in exotic underwear, with an above average skillset – I’m not sure even listing Susan Boyle’s back catalogue in reverse order would see the full hour being used up.

most stw’ers are socially awkward I can see why he’d have to

On a social ride most of us manage it out the car park 😉
Not really sure why you say stuff like that on here tbh as it seems written to just to get a rise.

Just another quick ‘sorry’ to Junkyard, never meant to set you up for the pitchforks, I just misread your comment and took it out of context (I’d like to think you can see where I was coming from even if that was never your intent).

Interesting debate, I’m genuinely curious as to which component you (general people) find morally repugnant about prostitution on a consensual basis that you find okay about the sexual habits of anyone else? I’m at a genuine loss as to why some people feel they have a right of sovreignty over anothers body in that they feel they can dictate what is and isn’t acceptable behaviour between two consenting adults.

FWIW I wouldn’t be cool with dating an active escort, even if she can pick and choose clients and has no emotional involvement it doesn’t sit well with me. Ironically I’m fine with polygamy, there’s just some component of this situation that seems wrong. If she had given it up then why not? As said, STD’s can be picked up from anyone and if we broke up and she went back to it then if that’s entirely HER choice then I could live with that.

As for undeclared incomes and such, maybe of there was some sort of legal mechanism for declaring those incomes they wouldn’t go undeclared hmm?

Finally, wrecker, this has EVERYTHING to do with me. As a father and feminist I want to do the best for women* to be treated as equals and to live in world where misogynistic* abuse from people like yourself is treated with the contempt from society it deserves. I wouldn’t choose for my daughter to go into such a career, indeed I have NO choice in what she does – that’s for her and her alone to decide, however if she did then I would want the industry to be protected and regulated by law. The sooner industries like this are decriminalised and regulated the sooner wider society stops having to pay the price of an industry (often) run by criminals.

Your language IS sexist, you persecute women for their life choices by labelling them sluts and suchlike. To put it into perspective, promiscuous men are often given labels such as stud, cassanova and, at worst, womaniser. Women, conversely, are labelled slut, skank, slapper, ho, tart etc. etc. Plus they get the amusing “sausage down the alley jokes (but hey, a woman with 150 partners must be like the Channel Tunnel but woe betide the man who insults the womanhood of my wife who I’ve had every night for the last decade) which is based on nothing but prejudice, ever heard the one about the guy who shagged so much his dick wore down to a pencil width? Thought not. There is something very wrong with this that needs to be addressed by society as a whole and the sooner more men stand against their peers who perpetuate misogyny the closer we get to a fairier and more equal society.

*in this context, replace with whatever you feel appropriate.

Interesting debate, I’m genuinely curious as to which component you (general people) find morally repugnant about prostitution

I dont, they are free to do as they wish.

I’m at a genuine loss as to why some people feel they have a right of sovreignty over anothers body

I dont have sovereignty over anything of the sort. What ‘we’ have is to adults that have consented willingly to a relationship involving no others and are quite happy about it.

Cant speak for anyone else, but i doubt such a position is particularly unusual.

Umm, I don’t think you were the ‘people’ I was addressing, should have seemed quite obvious, no?

I’ll never forget one early turn opening the station door to a distressed woman who had been raped. She worked at a pole dancing place, only been there for a few weeks when a guy got chatting to her. She seemed like a really nice girl, she liked the guy and agreed to meet him after work at 3 am. He raped her several times in his flat while she wore a balaclava back to front. In the morning he went out and she fled to the station. She wasn’t a prostitute. When I read these threads it makes me wonder if the opinions on women who work these kind of jobs contributed to this act and no doubt others like it. Hate is easy. Understanding is hard.