Hand cramps are caused by vibration, you get the same when using power tools. Motorcross guys tend to fill there bars with material to try and deaden vibrations.
My advice would be to go with carbon bars and slip on soft renthal grips. Who said the Renthal Carbon bars weren’t that forgiving? By all accounts I’ve read, they strike a good balance.
https://www.syntace.com/index.cfm?pid=3&pk=3223
Anyway, my Syntace Vector Carbons were excellent at getting rid of trail buzz and they erred more on the side of comfort. However they were plenty stiff enough. You can now get them in 35mm rise.
You only have a look at sledge hammer handles and modern raquets to see that aluminium is a bad choice for vibration damping. On a bike the effects are not so serious due to tyres and suspension and you not having to hold on so tight so it’s acceptable but it’s still there. You also won’t get a wide aluminium bar anywhere near the weight of composite.
Except Aluminium bars tend to give you a warning before they go, whilst carbon goes bang. I don’t mind carbon frames but the amount of scratches that bars develop puts me off them a bit.