Telling someone that a career is not for them

All credit to you, you have clearly tried to help him see things differently. It also sounds as though you want to have one last go whilst you have some influence. As a rule people don’t listen unless they actually choose to, though in my view that shouldn’t stop you trying if you feel its the right thing to do. All I guess you can do is try and convey the message in a different way, perhaps asking him to reflect upon his time working with you and see if there’s an opportunity to approach it that way.

Qurriel – You’re making a huge effort to try help someone who has made your life difficult. Full credit to you.

So….

I was walking down the corridor, when he approached me to ask for a couple of hours off work to interview, for the same job he has been interviewed for 5 times now.

Passing pleasantries with him and authorizing yet another block of time off, he mentioned that he had told the people he was interviewing for he wasn’t interested in part of the job.

Now to put it in perspective – if he was a baker, and he was applying to work at a new bakery which specialised in bread, croissants and sticky buns, he basically told them he wanted to work for them, but didn’t want to make croissants, but would be happy to learn to make sticky buns after a year.

This was the point that I decided enough was enough. I sat him down, and gave him the cold hard facts – you aren’t cut out for this job, you aren’t flexible, you don’t listen, you haven’t adapted to the needs of us, you only can see your way to do things, and not everybody else gets it in fact the majority don’t get it.

He needs to reevaluate his career choice, why not combine it with the last career. Think of the strain you are putting on yourself, your family and your reputation.

He had the usual clueless expression on his face, there was possibly some computing going on inside his head, then THEN he says – so what you are saying is I should tell them I will make croissants too.

**** useless **** **** stained moron sheep **** close eyed tit.

But at least I gave it one last shot, although in hindsight I should have walked away on his comments about the interview.

1 minute left to edit in case you want to change your comment in case it comes up in a tribunal. Do feel for you though, some people never get it but muddle through somehow because in the end there are a lot of kind people around who make allowances and that isn’t a bad thing

Don’t you love the weird world of android auto text – closed eyed tit? should have been complete tit.

He got the job, told me at the end of year party, it’s either going to make or break him, I hope it is the former.

Loyalty is a strange old thing.

Sounds like someone I used to work with in IT….

The question is – As his boss, do I sit him down, and tell him that he should consider another career, and he just isn’t going to cut it.

I think he’s ideally suited to a career in the civil service..

Hes obviously cut out for a senior management position in the nhs or teaching.

I was genuinely lost for words when he told me he about what he had said to his prospective employer. I had to stop for a few seconds and process what he had said. Had he really just told me that. After I had pointed him in the direction of the company, prepped him on things they would ask about at interview.

All done now and I have certainly learnt from the experience, so I can thank him for that.

A friend of mine owns a small firm in the film industry. He took on a young lad and on the first day gave him a stencil and a paint spray can and told him to stencil the company name on all of the site equipment. When he came back to check progress, he found all the parts beautifully stencilled but back-to front as the lad had placed the stencil upside down.
Marching orders were given the same day. Some people just need to be telt.

He’ll be back as your line manager in a year or two 😆

Sounds like a classic passive/aggressive.