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So….the dog bit my Daughter on the face..!!
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jekkylFull Member
So we have a beautiful little girl who is nearly 2, we also have a standard sized pedigree Dachshund (sausage dog) – I was out for a bike ride yesterday morning & baby jek was in the care of the my mother as mrs jek was away and I had my mum over. Apparently the dog and baby were sitting together on the sofa watching tele and the dog was licking his paw, it’s been a bit sore this week as he had a claw nail come off. My mum said she reached over to pet him and then he bit her on the face. Just a tiny nick and it did break the skin about 4cms from her eye!!
He can be quite an aggresive dog, he’s bitten me before trying to get him out from under the bed, he bit a stranger out on a walk once, my neighbour when he was dropping off some post and he’s also bitten my daughter before, just a little nick on the arm when she was teasing him. We tell her off for teasing him and try to watch them together all the time, but sometimes it’s just not practical.It’s too easy to say ‘just get rid of him’ – quick jab and it’s all done but he’s been our dog for years. My wife moved in in 2004 and baby jek didn’t come along will 2011, so in all that time he’s been a great family dog, country walks, holidays, afternoons and evenings on the sofa, the whole bit If I think about getting rid of him and that moment when I’ll come to put him in the car to go to the vets, he’ll be wagging his tail and expecting a walk because I’ve got his lead out and looking up at me with his little happy face like he’ll be saying ‘we are going for a walk aren’t we dad, you’re not taking me to get me put down are you?’ – the guilt will haunt me for me years I’m convinced.
So…..what shall we do?
wreckerFree MemberTaking him to be killed is a bit strong. What about trying to rehome him with friends relatives or if not, the RSPCA?
I don’t think you can have that dog around your child anymore though. Sorry.brFree MemberTwo choices, keep and worry or put down…
Although maybe as he’s old, you need to accept that he’s getting grumpy and be aware – see above.
atlazFree MemberMy parents had a dog when I was born. My dad saw it snarl at me when I started crawling and went past it around meal time. He said he’d never have been able to live with himself if I was bitten by the dog so he took it to be put down (it had been a shelter dog so unlikely to be rehomed). He said it was one of the hardest things he’s done and cried while it went to sleep but that it was easier than the idea of having me taken to hospital if the dog got me.
So I’d say get the dog put down asap. If you can rehome it instead, great but don’t spend ages trying to do so. Needs to happen in the next day or so or you may talk yourself out of it or give the dog another opportunity to scar your daughter.
MarkieFree MemberHe can be quite an aggresive dog, he’s bitten me before trying to get him out from under the bed, he bit a stranger out on a walk once, my neighbour when he was dropping off some post and he’s also bitten my daughter before
he bit her on the face
The dog needs to go.
FlaperonFull MemberRSPCA?
Though as wrecker says, you’ll never be able to trust him around your daughter and ultimately it’s her safety you’ve got to keep paramount.
He does have history and unfortunately some pedigree dogs can be unexpected and unpredictably aggressive.
Is he neutered?
djgloverFree MemberMaybe dont out source your pet and childcare simultaneously to the same provider?
Just common sense really?
jekkylFull MemberHe has been neutered yes, later in life at aged 9 or so. He was a rescue dog to start with, my wife got him as a year old pup from a home and he is now 12 years old.
andymc06Free MemberIt’s a horrible situation but with dog’s previous behaviour you can’t take the risk. You have to think which would be worse, dog gone (whatever way you end up deciding) or daughter scarred for life or worse. It has to be the former I’m afraid. I have two kids under 3 and a dog we have had for years. You have my sympathies.
atlazFree MemberI seem to recall a lot of dog shelters put down dogs with a history of biting people, especially kids. If you do take it to the RSPCA or a local charity, please don’t lie about the biting in case it becomes someone elses problem. If they say they’re going to put the dog down anyway, maybe it’s best if you take the dog to the vet yourself.
slowmartFree MemberSorry as I don’t see a decision here.
You have a dog that bites people and a young child. It’s already bitten your daughter.
It won’t be the dogs fault if the dog bites your daughter again. It’s squarely on your shoulders.
Grow a pair and get the deed done. Sorry if that sounds harsh but you have a dangerous situation which so far you haven’t addressed.
SandwichFull MemberRehome with breed rescue? They will insist on older/no children household given his history.
Details on rescue are here.wwaswasFull MemberHe can be quite an aggresive dog, he’s bitten me before trying to get him out from under the bed, he bit a stranger out on a walk once, my neighbour when he was dropping off some post and he’s also bitten my daughter before, just a little nick on the arm when she was teasing him.
Is this a troll?
ScienceofficerFree MemberSounds like he thinks he’s higher up the pack than everyone else does.
Sorry to say, but its very likely to be how the family unit works and what you’ve let him get away with over the years. If you couple that with likely anxiety about his rank now theres a two year old around, you’ve got what you’ve got.
He won’t change unless you ‘demote him’ which is likely to involve some effort and behavioural changes on your part to get the changes from him.
Alternatively, you can have him killed or ship the problem out to someone else.
bigblackshedFull MemberI love dogs. I think the right dog in a family with kids can be special for everyone.
BUT. Your dog has bitten your daughter twice. It has also bitten others. You have a choice. Daughter or dog. Lets be fair here, it’s a dog. You know what you have to do.
By your own admission if you took the dog to the vet the guilt would stay with you for years. Now look at your daughter. How would you feel if you were taking your daughter to A&E to get stitched up after the dog had done a nasty job on her?
PiknMixFree MemberI really don’t understand the point in these posts?
Keep the dog, it may be more serious next time! 🙄
McHamishFree MemberLook at it this way, would you prefer to rehome (or otherwise get rid of) the dog, or explain to people in years to come where the big ragged scar on your daughters face came from?
How would she explain it when she’s 18 and someone asks…would she think fondly of how you decided to keep a dog that had already bitten her twice?
I’d hate to be in your position as you have a strong bond to a pet dog, but as soon as you became a father your pet was demoted in terms of priority.
wwaswasFull Memberas soon as you became a father your pet was demoted in terms of priority
this.
mysterymoveFree MemberI feel for you.
We went through something very similar about 6 months ago. We rescued a springer and he’d been brilliant, a bit of agro with other dogs with possessive behavior but never humans. We thought we had got on top of it so much we let my niece & nephews play with him with no problems (always supervised). Then one day out of the blue he attacked my 3 yr old nephew. Small tooth mark under his chin and another on top of his head both broke the skin.As the other posters have said we had the choice of putting him down or never trusting he’d do it again. We didn’t want a dog we couldn’t trust so made the decision to give him back to the RSPCA (if you get a dog from them they retain ownership so we couldn’t get him put down without there permission).
Disappointingly the RSPCA knew our dog and weren’t surprised about what had happened so we have our suspicions that it had happened before. But because he’d bitten a child and broken the skin they said they had no choice but to put him down. I don’t know if the have a two strikes – out policy or not? They took him away for us but we found out the vet only visits once a week – my other half hated the fact he was on his own on death row so we went back and took him to our vet to do the deed…
If you do decide to give him to a rescue home you might want to try the Dogs Trust as they never put a healthy dog down.
tough decision.
On a plus, we last about three months before deciding to get another, we’ve now got a 12 week old Springer bitch called Willow and my 3 yr old nephew loves her to bits!
horaFree MemberHe can be quite an aggresive dog, he’s bitten me before trying to get him out from under the bed, he bit a stranger out on a walk once, my neighbour when he was dropping off some post and he’s also bitten my daughter before, just a little nick on the arm when she was teasing him. We tell her off for teasing him and try to watch them together all the time, but sometimes it’s just not practical.
When your daughter is 18 and asks you again about how she lost the sight in one eye because of some dog you used to own and why you did nothing until it was too late. How will you answer?
Same situation with my 2yr old son with a dog we’d had from 12weeks to 7yrs.
It was swift and he was rehomed ASAP.
You could keep them apart- for how long? (See my first comment).
You could retrain him? He has a history and see my first comment.
Would you like your daughter to fear dogs for life?
You have a duty of care to your child.
flowerpowerFree Member+1 for scienceofficer
If you really want to keep the dog he has to be moved down a peg or too. That will take time, understanding and effort from everyone involved, not sure that it is something that you can easily undertake. His position has been confirmed by you and your wife for many years and he will be pretty set in his ways.
If you do decide to have him put down then please remember that he is 12 years old and you have given him the best things in life so far. At his age this option may be easier on the dog than either rehoming or radical retraining.
Horrible situation, I feel for you.
therealhoopsFree MemberI have a 2 year old. If a dog bit her in the face then there would be only one knee jerk option.
letmetalktomarkFull Member@ jekkyl – We have two dachshunds. We also have a 11 month old son.
Our two dogs (despite being brother and sister) are very different in their interactions with our son.
Our bitch can b a bit vocal, will stand her ground and tell our son off (with a bark) if he is annoying her.
The other (male) will just remove himself from the situation immediately.
We have met oodles of dachsies and have seen a good deal of behavioral tendencies.
How old is your dog? Has he been socialized?
Why not give it another chance and just keep the two separated?
Failing that …. where are you as we will come and collect him.
Edit >>> Just seen his age. I don’t believe that at the age he is he will respond to adjustments in the internal hierarchy. Look to re home rather than put down if push comes to shove.
wreckerFree MemberFailing that …. where are you as we will come and collect him.
Top man. 🙂
uwe-rFree MemberI don’t think you owe anything to that dog.
MTFU and get it done before the impact of what has happened starts to wear off.
juanFree Memberhe’s bitten me before trying to get him out from under the bed, he bit a stranger out on a walk once, my neighbour when he was dropping off some post and he’s also bitten my daughter before,
Well, seems to me the dog isn’t the issu, you are, buy not putting him down on the first bite. Funny how when I tell people it will happen they all laught and point to me. If I was the stranger I would have made sure your dog was put down. So you probably know what to do.
martymacFull Memberim not especially a dog lover, i love other peoples dogs as i can pet them without having to follow them around and pick up their deoppings.
so its easy(ish) for me to say get rid of him.
id speak to rspca/dogs trust and ask their advice tbh.
we had a dog when i was a kid, if you annoyed him (by walking past him. for example) he would bite*.
didnt take me long to learn to stay away from him, but i will say its taken until i was an adult to get over my fear of dogs, and im still wary of them.
*gummed is probably more accurate than bitten, in fairness*horaFree MemberSorry with what has happened/happening so far OP I don’t think you owe him anything. Once hes turned, will you really put faith in any sort of retraining? You’ll have to check/gates/worry about where they both are at any one time. Do you want a nervous child?
Get rid. Be responsible. Its stopped being a protector or a pet. Its now dangerous.
letmetalktomarkFull MemberPardon the pun but I am going to bite at this …….
To all those suggesting the dog be put to sleep STFU unless you have been in the same position and gone down the same route.
What the OP person describes is within the spectrum of behavior for the breed. They were bred for a job after all. I am not excusing what has happened but no dog should be lest unattended with a child of that age (no offense OP).
atlazFree Memberwe had a dog when i was a kid, if you annoyed him (by walking past him. for example) he would bite*.
didnt take me long to learn to stay away from him,Emotional attachment to a pet trumps wellbeing of a child; odd attitude from your family. Your parents should have dealt with the dog after the first bite, not have you learn to avoid the dog.
uwe-rFree MemberLetmetalktomark.
Let me get this straight. You have an 11 month old baby in the house with 2 dogs, one of which is happy to ‘stand her ground’ and you are offering to take in another dog that has a history of biting people / babies. And you seem to think this is an understandable characteristic for this breed.
Get a grip?
atlazFree MemberTo all those suggesting the dog be put to sleep STFU unless you have been in the same position and gone down the same route.
Sorry, that’s crap. I don’t have a dog or a kid but I can guarantee what would happen if I had a dog and it bit my kid. Probably the people who are thinking clearer here are the ones who haven’t got attachments to animals that have proved to be a danger to their child.
jekkylFull Member@letme we are in north Staffordshire, stafford way, he is 12. He has been socialised with other dogs if that’s what you mean. My bro in law has a dog and he often stays with him and his dog (a bitch staffy) when we go on holiday often for a week or so and when we have that dog to stay. There’s never any trouble between the two and they play together fine.
Thanks for your offer, very very kind. I think all the posts on here have focussed my thoughts and I agree yes we have to get rid of him. I shall ring round the shelters in our immediate area today and also those pedigree numbers given by sandwich (thanks). letme you would be welcome to have him if you can. He is a lovely dog (obvisously apart from this)jambalayaFree MemberYour dog has to go. It is your responsibility to re-home it, putting it down is the easy way out.
You should not allow the dog to sit on the furniture, the dog believes it is one of the family (reinforced by sitting on the furniture) and in fact probably believes it is above your daughter in the pecking order. The dog should have been better trained.
letmetalktomarkFull Member@ uwe-r – 😆 Guess you are right. But then I guess you have no real understanding of the bread or dogs so you are entitled to your thoughts 😉
Our pack hierarchy is correct/enforced and we take the correct provisions to protect both baby and dogs.
The OP’s dog doesn’t seem to be unfairly aggressive if you look at the situations cited above.
horaFree MemberTo all those suggesting the dog be put to sleep STFU unless you have been in the same position and gone down the same route.
We had ours rehomed to another Westie owner through a Westie charity.
I was very attached to that dog but my heart turned very cold towards him on the second lunge at my son. If I couldn’t have rehomed him within a few days I wasn’t going to put others potential at risk with a family in a general dogs home.
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