Has it grown to the size you want yet?
If so, I would take out the ends now, then prune off all the unwanted growth, remember to do it in stages as they can bleed apparently.
If you still want it to spread, let it spread where you want it to, then trim and remove where you don’t want.
Once it leafs up and you see the fruit appear, trim off all the leafs a shoot past the fruit, I take off any none fruiting shoots to two leaves.
Nov-Dec is the time to hard purne them back, but I prefer to prune mine once they start to shoot so you can see and plan where you want them to go.
I have six different vines in my garden, never killed one yet 😉
Watch out for fungal disease if you you are growing in a greenhouse, never had much luck with them inside tbh.