I think the thing that worries me is that splitting up was very painful (it was my fault entirely – acting like an idiot) and I think I do still have feelings for her. The acid test for this is that – if she were to suggest another go – I’d say yes
Pretty much the same scenario with me, but much longer ago. Didn’t see her for six months, but when I did, she was really sweet and lovely.
We kept in touch for ages, occasionally having a drink, then some eight or so years ago she sent some books back with a really cold letter after I’d dropped off some photos in passing. I wanted the books back, and she’d said I could go and get them, then phoned back, sounding upset, saying it wasn’t a good idea. Then boyfriend issue, I think. I didn’t think leaving the pics would be an issue, but it was.
Forward to last year, after seeing and hearing nothing, I found she was in a folk band, playing in Lechlade.
I went along, dreading what she would say, and it was great, big hug and smile, she was her old sweet lovely self.
More than anything else, while we’re in no way close, we’re still friends, and that, more than anything else makes me very happy indeed.
As it happens, I’ve managed to stay friends with most of my ex g/f’s, even been to the weddings of three of them.