Anyone had partner cheat and forgiven them

Just discussin this with my mate over a pint. Last weekend his gf got plastered and slept with a female mate. He says forgive I say forget her. What say ye?

Pics, or it didn’t happen

I say get her drunk again and set up a threesome! 8)

The extra angle to this muddies the water for me….

I say forgive and next time can i watch..

depends on how long they have been together, do they have a house / kids / pets etc etc.

I have had some spectacular errors of judgemnet when pissed!

Nope nope and nope. Together oh I dunno 2 years I guess.

I did. Few years later she did it again. Learnt my lesson that time
Some people don’t have the ‘think of others before yourself’ gene

id say forget. from experience.

it being a woman, is irrelavant, its still cheating no matter what sex the other person is, as “cool” as it maybe to have a mrs who bats for both sides 🙄

There will always be a niggle in the back of the other persons mind, that unless your completely satisfied your partner is geuinely sorry and it was truely a one off mistake, will cause future issues. as mentioned above, i think there are alot of things to consider – family etc, however, if the partner was silly enough to make the mistake in the first place, she should be prepared to accept the consequences.

oh and to fit in with the stw massive, pics or gtfo as has been mentioned.

I’ve been there – forgiven and come to regret it. I won’t go back there and it has taught me never to do it to someone else.

Rachel

(forget, btw)

I don’t think some lickylezsecks can really constitute cheating. Never look a gift horse in the mouth. These potential situations don’t come up that often in a lifetime. Besides, you can always kick her to the curb once you have all the photos and vids you need.

How did he find out, if she confessed then give her another chance.If not +1 fourbanger

‘cos it was a woman I think I would find it easier to forgive.

Is this her way of dumping him?

Didn’t you watch Friends? It’ll all end in tears.

Didnt confess, she went home hammered and left her phone on floor with a msg open.

She says she’ll do anything to stay together, so not trying to dump him. 3some may not be on the cards as he says the other bird isnt that fit, ok after 5 pints maybe, but nothing special.

I’m intrigued as to why several people on here seem to think it’s fine because she slept with another woman??? Sleeping with someone else is still sleeping with someone else, you know – there’s no difference I can see.

Rachel

To all those of you laughing because it was girl on girl I don’t expect your missus would find it funny if you got pissed and bummed your best mate one night! Would you get forgiven?

I’m with Rachel – why is that different ? Do gay relationships not count ? If a bloke of mine slept with another bloke I think I would find that even worse…

(not “with” Rachel, I mean I agree with her)

I’m intrigued as to why several people on here seem to think it’s fine because she slept with another woman??? Sleeping with someone else is still sleeping with someone else, you know – there’s no difference I can see.

Rachel

If you were a hot dog vendor and had a regular customer you had developed a little daily banter with over the years you would be absolutely gutted to spot them buying a hot dog from another vendor just down the road. If however the customer was spotted in a kebab shop getting their daily portion you might be annoyed at the lack of loyalty and at missing out on your little chat but might be better able to understand that at least it was not someone elses hot dog and your vending trolley was just incapable doing kebabs and could appreciate the fact that sometimes a change is a good thing.

Or something like that – male minds are weird.

Er, so who is the kebab and who is the hot dog ??

I’m with Rachel – why is that different ?

Because there isn’t the same threat to the mans masculinity that there would be if she cheated with another man. It’s not a comment on gay relationships.

Love the hot dog and kebab analogies, Mr Freud would have a field day with convert 🙂

I agree with allthegear too.
BTW YGM rachel

I’ve been there – forgiven and come to regret it. I won’t go back there and it has taught me never to do it to someone else.

this.
plus, slightly childish male fantasies aside, the gender of the ‘other’ partner would be irrelevant to me. it’s still cheating.

it’s the fault of porn, porn has made it socially acceptable for women to do this, and to experiment with this stuff more then men (with other men)

I am on a dating sight at the moment – where there seems to be a very high proportion of young women claiming to be Bi. I’m not assuming that they are not – but it certainly seems more acceptable to say you are now

Is that a badly packed kebab?

there isn’t the same threat to the mans masculinity

Could be a pretty damning indictment though…

Hmm not so sure, sounds like teritorial issues to me. It’s OK if another woman pees on one of your trees but another man is a threat to your property is that about the size of it ?

(with apologies for introducing more metaphors to an already confused thread)

I’m confused – where does that leave veggies??? 😀

I thought they were all homosexual anyway?

I don’t know what I’d do but… if my wife had sex with another woman I don’t think I’d touch her again. I wouldn’t kick her out but there’d be no nookie. In my days of GFs I’d’ve acted opposite, I’d’ve been asking for more and can I please watch? Why the difference? She’s my wife and she’s mine and only mine. Otherwise it makes no sense to me, the whole marriage mess. GFs are a different kettle of fish, totally.
Would your GF forgive you if she knew you were leaking another man’s juices from your backside hole?

I have been a veggie for years, but recently I have succumbed to a couple of cracking steaks.

My mate’s wife did this, they split and she is now living with the other woman (a mates also now ex wife).

My wife had an affair, I forgave her, she did it again (a few times), I tried to forgive it again – but it just eats away at you to the point that I eventually had to end things. You start living your life wondering not if but when it is going to happen again and things are never the same as they were.

In future I won’t be so forgiving as the effect on my mental health was rather staggering (to be fair there were other things too, but that was one of the big ones!)

All this talk of food is making me hungry….mm hot dog or kebab. scrub that, hairychested has killed my appetite.

“I’m intrigued as to why several people on here seem to think it’s fine because she slept with another woman??? Sleeping with someone else is still sleeping with someone else, you know – there’s no difference I can see.

Rachel”

Well Rachel, the difference is I find the thought of two girls licking each other in places too rude to mention rather exciting, where as I find the thought of my gf getting her back doors kicked in by another bloke a bit off. Yes, its still cheating, but one is good cheating which can be encouraged in my presence and the other is bad cheating which will not be tolerated. And yes, I do speak from a position of experience on the matter. The memories….
Do you need diagrams?

“tis a troll.

Cheating is cheating makes no difference that it was another girl.

I assume we’re hard wired not to want other males shagging our females. My dog would certainly object to another dog shagging his bitch, so it’s not a social convention. If another bitch got all steamy he’d try and shag both of them.

Two women clearly doesn’t register on our primitive brains as a problem – they’re not a threat. In fact it probably registers as an opportunity to add another female to the pack.

So, yeah, whatever. I don’t object to the mrs playing tennis with other women. I’m obviously in touch with my primitive side.