OK so I’m having trouble deciding who I would want to have as a best man as a conseqeunce am thinking about having 2! Ive searched on the internet but cant find too much from men on the subject – most of hte comments seem to be from women in wedding forums.
Has anyone does this and if so how did it work? Top table, speach etc?!
My mate did this last year – it was in scotland and it worked fine. Two of them sat at the top table and they shared the speech..
I am doing the same thing but here in switzerland they have witnesses only – there isnt really a thing like ‘best man’. Im having two, one guy one girl. Only one of them can sign the thingy but thats ok for me..
Its your wedding – do it how you want? I dont think we’ll be having speeches like we do in the UK so we’re ‘breaking’ all the rules as it were.. i think it’ll be ok..
I was one of 2 best men for a friend last year. He had one to cover the school years and one for after. We both sat on the top table, did a speech each (but kept them short). It caused no problems and actually worked really well I reckon.
Oh and at the end of it all it’s your big day so do whatever will make you enjoy it most.
I had two and been one of two and it worked really well especially on the stag do as they / us shared the pressure.
In terms of speeches.
On mine – one mate did a speech about how great I am (well that is what I was expecting and hoping for) the other did a multiple choice quiz – where the audience had to shout out the answer – went down really well.
When I was best man we did the whole up to a certain point then the other takes over.
I was at a wedding last year with two best men. All I thought was “what a wet sod, couldn’t he just bluddy well decide?” Still, it’s your day do it how you want especially if you don’t mind folk thinking your an indecisive eejit
I had no best men. My wife’s dad died a few months before the wedding and with no male relative who we wanted to step in for the father of the bride bit, we decided i’d do the whole speech – a bit about her as a kid, a bit about me as a kid, and a bit about us together. I think it worked.
It’s your day, do what you want, would be my advice.
My mate had two best men for his wedding. One did the ceremony bit (responsible for the rings, etc), announcements, etc – the other did the big after-dinner speech. Worked just fine.
Friend of mine had a similar dilema, didn’t want to upset anyone so asked a work colleague to do it instead! First question the best man asked was where would you like to go on your stag do, tgo which he replied I’d really lkie to go to Reading, meaning the festival rather than the place! We had a great weekend in Reading town 🙁
I had two best men (my two brothers). My wife had no bridesmaids (too many people to choose from as she had been bridesmaids to about 6 girls in the past and didn’t want to upset anyone).
It worked fine – as has been said, your day, your rules.
My brother had two (but then he is indecisive and has a reputation as being a fence sitter :)). All three of them were really good mates so the best men speeches were more of a double act.
I had two best men – one is an old school friend who is very funny and writes great speeches but is terminally shy (he was shaking like stevens before his speech) the other was a great friend at the time (unfortunately out of touch now) and possibly the best general mixer / entertainer I’ve had the pleasure to meet. The latter did all the MC stuff (time for lunch, raise your glasses etc etc) and me old pal did a fantastic speech, ripping me to shreads!
Go for it, just make sure they are cool with what you expect.
Depends on what your best man is for. If he is there for organising strippers and making a speech then 2+ is fine.
Mine put me up on his sofa the night before, drove me up to the wedding, steadied my nerves beforehand (he’d brought liquour) told the photographer to piss off and leave me alone, checked that I didn’t want to escape, then afterwards, when it was fairly clear it had all gone horribly wrong, hung about with me at the end of the reception.
I’ve been one of three best men, it worked well, we split the duties – one at the front of the church, one MCing and I did the speech. Seemed to work out ok.
As mangoridebike says – get whoever of your friends too help out in the way thay can do best. I would say no to two speeches tho. At a friends wedding I MCed and acted as usher, someone else did the best mans speech.
Your wedding, your rules. But for god almighty sake please don’t feel the need to stand up and do a song and dance routine with the two best men – that was the most teeth-pulling experience I’ve ever witnessed at a wedding.
My cousin just got married a couple of months ago, she had two best men, her brother and aunt (it’s a long complicated and sad story so don’t ask…) and it went down great – if they know each other and can get a bit of banter going that’d be even better.
Let them share the ‘boring’ bits reading out cards etc.
I had two best mine at mine. Just felt it seemed wrong to have to pick between my brother and my best mate. Worked really well, no probs at all. Mrs had 2 bridesmaids so seemed fair to me anyway!
I was part of a best man double act last year, no problems. Just work together on the speech – we finished ours off on the morning of the wedding before getting dressed up. Nowt like last minute.
I had 2 best men (did th speech half nd half), one bridesmaid nd th bridesmaids fella was a brides boy (for want of a better word) walked down th aisle behind my missus.
the official photographs were done by an old mate from home and all th tables had disposable cameras which were collected at th end of the evening.
I was chosen to be best man with a close friend to another friend who could not decide who to have as his best man.
I went first with my speech and it went down really well but i was shitting myself and glad it was over when I sat down with applause ringing in my ears feeling smug.Then the other best man got up rather sheepishly and congratulated me and said to the baying mob that there was no way he could better that and raised a glass to the bride and groom!
Bastard I will never forgive him or the groom for making us wear these shirts