Very sorry for your loss.
please get as much help as possible. When my auntie died leaving two small children, I stayed with my uncle for a couple of weeks to help keep the kid’s routine as stable as possible.... we talked about her loads & informed the school/ teacher &class rep.etc .Maybe some other parents can help? Best of luck to you all.
Very sorry for your loss. Take good care.
So sorry. Nothing I can add that others haven't already done.
Firstly so sorry for your loss.
I've randomly talked about you, in reality a stranger to me, to several people today, that is the kind of impact your truly touching opening post has had on me. I thoroughly wish you and your little ones all the best for the future, im certain things are going to be very hard, but as someone said earlier today, do allow for a little bend so that you don't break. Much love from this small part of Derbyshire. Take care.
Gnusmus.
So sorry for your loss. The loss of your wife when you still have young children must be so hard to deal with.
Take care,
J
Shit, so sorry for you and the kids 😢. Do you have other friends and family for support? I can't imagine what you're going through. Terrible.
Really sorry for your loss.
Please do not be afraid to ask for any further assistance on here if it's required. I'm not sure what support network you have with your friends and family but I'm sure there are various ways members on here can support you if required. Small donation made but would be more than happy to put more in at pay day if needs be.
Be as strong as you can be mate. I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through and offer no advIce other than as previously stated "for the kids" be their rock if you can. You know you have all our moral support. Scant consolation of course but it's yours and, i suspect, whatever you need will be forthcoming. My family is with yours - best wishes.
Very sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry to hear this.
Please, please don’t be afraid to ask for anything on here.
There is help and support in the most obvious, and the most unlikely places.
Just ask.
Please
Gnusmas, my man. I'm so sorry to hear this terrible news. I'm in Carmarthen tomorrow, I can drop off a pizza/ coffee/ or whatnot. Seriously. Let me know. And FWIW, you feel like your world has ended, and it has- but slowly, incrementally, things become manageable and then better still.
All of us are genuine when we say 'ask' if you need some help. Let me know if I can help, even if it's a bit of childminding.
Ambrose
My sincere condolences to you and your kids. I'm afraid I have nothing to add to what has been said above except keep posting on here as it has helped others in times of sadness and loss.
Ow man thats heavy , so sorry to hear about your loss.
Oh shit, I'm really sorry to hear that. Another one sending virtual hugs to you and your kids and condolences too.
I was going to write something earlier, but honestly couldn't think of anything to say.
You sound like a very strong person to have held it together like you have so far.
My sincere condolences.
I wish there was something I could say that would help.
Dont feel you have to stay strong all the time - that’ll break you. Take all the help you can. If your kids feel like talking to someone and they don’t know where to start Childline is excellent (I’m an ex-Childline counsellor and we’re trained for stuff like this).
Take your time and remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve.
My thoughts are with you and your family.
Assuming someone on here is in direct contact with Gnusmas, can you please encourage him to look at his messages? That is the only means I have of getting in touch with him, and I want him to be able to contact me directly if he wishes.
And if you’re reading this yourself, Gnusmas, please accept my and my family’s love and sympathies.
Really saddened to hear about your loss Gnusmas, what makes it even sadder is that I've just read of an ex colleagues wife who passed away suddenly today.
Bugger.
Gnusmas, so sorry for your loss, hopefully the support you'll get will get you through the dark times just ask. I work in Carmarthen if you need anything even from a stranger just ask.
Haven’t stopped crying yet but have managed to break the news to the kids. Probably the hardest thing i will ever have to do. The looks on their faces, the crying and calling out for Mummy will probably haunt me for a long time. 4 utterly distraught kids and a Dad struggling to keep it together for their sakes. It’s going to be a long night. Just managing to get 5 mins to thank you all from the bottom of my heart.
Haven’t read your comments yet, but i wll do.
Awhh ****.
Where do you live matey? If in London, I can pop round and say hello. Posting on the forum at this time makes me think you're dealing with this without much support.
Sorry for your loss.
Deepest sympathies.
Rest in peace, Mrs Gnusmas.
So sorry to hear of your loss buddy. I cannot imagine the pain you’re experiencing right now. I sincerely hope you and your kids gain strength with each passing day.
If you find yourself escaping to the Surrey Hills then I - and I’m sure many others - will gladly hook up with you for some trail time and beer/cake.
Call on any support network you have around you. Life will get better. Sending man hugs bro.
That must be the hardest thing you, or any of us, has ever had to do. Love to the kids… they are so lucky to have you.
We're all here for you mate, don't be afraid to let us know what help you need. xxx
Much happier donating a little to help your family than spending it on beer. You've had a raw deal but you'll have some good times with the kids to come fella. This place does alright sometimes hey?
Sad news Mr G.
Very best wishes to you all.
Can't begin to imagine how you feel. Very sorry for you and your kids loss.
Gnusmus,
i have no idea what to say apart from you are all in my thoughts.
Hug the kids and tell them you love them,
paul
I'm so sorry too, such sad news.
Remember to take care of yourself during this hard time.
Sorry for your loss.
Sorry to hear about MrsGnus.
I lost my mum when I was 4 and remember being barely aware of what was happening. Still trying to cope with it 63 years later.
In a way, I think it's helpful for your nippers to be old enough to understand... I think it will help them deal with it better than I have been able to.
All the best.
So sorry for your loss.
Rachel
Oh no, so sorry.
There are no words that are sufficient.
Things will get better in time, and you will all be stronger for it. Your kids are so lucky to have such an amazing Dad.
We have just found out that the MIL has 4 - 9 months to live, and the condition that has caused her cancer is hereditary, with a 50% chance of it being passed on. Wife and her brother are in bits and we are all hoping that our kids will not inherit.
Thoughts are with you. Keep strong.
Sometimes life is just really shit. You can dress it up as much as you like but it can be unfair and, well just shit.
However, the shittier life gets, the more you can be amazed by the amount of good, loving, generous and selfless people there are around you. You see it after natural disasters, terror attacks and personal life changing events; the good guys step up and, perhaps, help make things just a tiny bit more manageable.
Sorry for your loss.
Sorry for your loss.
Gnusmus, I’m really sorry to hear about Mrs G , you’ve been an inspiration to me especially after we spoke last week as my wife is going through the same issues Mrs G had. Thank you for your advice and kind words of understanding despite your obvious circumstances, I’ve relayed your kind words to my wife as well as your sad news, she sends her love. If there’s anything you need or want to chat feel free to contact me.
Life is really shit. I'm so sorry for you and the kids. They really are lucky to have a dad like you though, things will get better in time.
Words fail me Gnusmus, terribly sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your kids.
There are no words that are sufficient. Terribly sorry to hear of your loss.
Finally managed to read your comments. Thankyou all for your kind words, messages and offers of support. Didn't think i could cry anymore after yesterday, but haven't stopped this morning yet.
14yo is all over the place, 9yo is very quiet and wandering around not knowing what to do, 5yo asking lots of questions and 3yo keeps going to mummy's bed looking for her.
They were all up until past midnight and i think i crashed from exhaustion at around 4:30 this morning.
We did spend a really nice but emotional hour last night looking up at the sky while they were trying to work out which star mummy is shining down on them. We all agreed she was the brightest star in the sky.
All the best to you fella.
