We all agreed she was the brightest star in the sky.
Well thats got me crying at work. Such a wonderful thing to say. Sounds like you’re a great team together.
sorry for your loss.
Well thats got me crying at work
It's fine, just hayfever, nothing wrong here...
We all agreed she was the brightest star in the sky.
Crying at my desk. Not dust or pollen. Crying.
I have no idea who you are, but as a husband and parent I can't imagine your pain.
Heartbreaking 🙁
Welling up here. What a beautiful thing to say at such a terrible time. Thinking of you and your family at this time
db
Can’t imagine what you must be going through. Heartbreaking.
Not sure where you are, but someone I know lost their husband in a tragic accident and a local bereavement charity called ‘Holding on Letting go’ were an amazing support to her and the children. When you’re ready it may be worth looking for similar support as I know it was invaluable for my friend and particularly the children
Take care.
So sorry to hear this.
So sorry for your loss. 🙁
I'm so sorry to read this 🙁
It's really brought a lump to my throat thinking of you all.
Take care of yourselves
Really sorry for you and the family.
We all agreed she was the brightest star in the sky.
Dusty here at my desk today.
Nothing to add but my support for you at this time. Keep asking on here if you want anything doing, somebody will be able to help.
Take care of yourself as well as your kids.
Sat here crying reading this myself. So sorry for your loss. One thing that I'll add: I've worked in education for 13 years so unfortunately have come across a number of children that have lost parents. Kids seem very resilient and whilst it is tough, they have all come through remarkably well.
So sorry to hear this.
echo what people have said about speaking to people - the are organisations that will be able to talk to you and the kids and help you process what you are and will be feeling.
Many condolences.
Si
So utterly sorry for your loss. Crying at the thought and can't imagine being in your shoes. Thoughts are with you.
I read this this morning and have thought of you a couple of times through today. So tough, and I’m sorry for your loss.
I lost my dad when I was 14, he was 43. My friends were amazing, and I spent most of my time worrying that mum was okay. She tried hard to protect me from how she was feeling but I recall vividly that all I wanted was her to open up and unload on me sometimes - I wanted to help and didn’t expect her to be bulletproof.
I appreciate that all circumstances are unique.
I have gnusmas’ permission to let you all know that we spoke on the phone about an hour ago. He wanted to let people know that he is hanging in and that he is deeply grateful for everyone’s responses on here.
He will keep in touch as and when he can, but right now he’s got a lot to work through.
gnusmas, we’re all with you. May you and your kids know some comfort at this horrible time, and may the memory of Mrs Gnusmas be eternal.
FWIW my dad died when the 4 of us were 2-10...we've all turned out OK (the others more ok than me!) ...so it can all be ok.
Thinking of you
SaxonRider, thanks for the update. Gnusmas, echoing the above we're all with you, I just wish we were closer so I could come round and help. Take the time to process things, hug your kids, tell them how much you and they all mean to us here at STW. It isn;t dusty here, I have nothing in my eye, I have been outright crying (more than once - both here at home now and at my desk at work when reading this thread) at the sheer courage and humanity that you and others here have shown. I cannot begin to comprehend the pain you are feeling and just wish I could do more. Manhugs to you and the Mini-Gs
Life can be a right ****.
However kids are resilient I lost my dad at 11 n whilst I miss him I've developed an independent attitude I may not of had.
I've no idea how hard it is as a parent however all I can say is you will find your kids will help you as much as you help them.
Wishing you all the best
the brightest star in the sky
if you're ever going to get a word based tattoo...
Morning Alan. Tune is on here....
So sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you can take comfort from the support you've received from the brilliant people on here.
After seeing this thread I went back and read the one from a week ago..... how fast things can change.
Hug your kids and dont be shy of asking for support.... its one of the best things about STW....
The minister and the undertaker have been round today to discuss the funeral arrangements. Most have been done, just the odd bit to finalise. That was tough. It has made me realise a lot i could, and possibly should have done differently.
Throughout our journey over the past few years, i have had numerous messages and offers of support, as well as the donations of money and physical items. I thank each and every one of you from the bottom of my heart for all you have done for us and are continuing to do to this day. <span style=”font-size: 0.8rem;”>I will be eternally grateful to each and every one of you for helping make Mrs G’s last couple of years a more comfortable one. </span>
I feel as if i know most of you even though we haven’t met, and those i have met it was an honour and a pleasure. I keep getting told our situation has touched all of STW. I don’t know how true this is, but if any help or inspiration has come from my threads to any of you then i no longer need to apologise for our life being shared with you all.
It has been an incredible and unforgettable journey, with lots of highs and unfortunately a lot more lows. Somehow, through your support and kind words i have found strength to get through each day and deal with whatever is thrown at me. Now more than ever.
Mrs G will be greatly missed by us all. We are all devastated and the thought of a final goodbye is ripping my heart to pieces. She always joked about me always wearing shorts whatever the weather and wished i would wear trousers or jeans sometimes. I will be wearing trousers for her one last time and she won’t be there to see it. I can only hope she will be looking down with a smile on her face.
The brightest star in the sky, Lyanda.
If any STWer would like to attend to celebrate her life, any of you are more than welcome. Public funeral is taking place at Llanelli crematorium on Thursday 12th July at 12:00pm.
I won't be there but I will be thinking of you all mate.
What a remarkable individual you are.
Your threads have been inspirational for many reasons, but mainly for your honesty and strength.
Again, can't be there, but I will be thinking of you all.
Love,
Pete.
I will be there, Alan. Thank you for posting the details.
Thanks for the update gnusmas. I Don't know you, and did not know of your situation. I read this recent thread and was truly struck by its power. I have 3 young children, so have been trying to imagine the hurt and loss you have gone through.
It is good that you feel that this place can be an outlet to express your feelings, and hope it truly helps.
It in encouraging that it seems from your last post that you can glean some positivity from what must be a terrible time.
Keep the chin up.
Lyanda. What a beautiful name.
Thanks for updating us, gnusmas, I hope you get some comfort from sharing your news. When my Dad died it was a numb feeling and the humdrum jobs of organising a funerl etc helped keep me going but I didn’t feel any kind of release until the funeral itself.
I really am very sorry.
Gnusmas,
As one of the many that can’t find the right words. I can’t physically be there on the 12th, but be assured, we WILL be there.
Thank you for the update Gnusmus. Your words are very moving...
Take care.
jay
Just spotted the go fund me thread and made a small donation
I don't know Mr g, but it typifies why I come on this place. I disagree with lots of posters, and not a day goes by without some pointless squabbling. But when push comes to shove, when stuff that actually matters is involved, everyone on here has each others backs. It's a fantastic community to be part of...
Very sorry for your loss.
I received a book through the post via amazon from dirkpitt74 yesterday. I cried my eyes out at the note inside and the book itself titled Always With Me by Tamsin Wood. I was extremely touched.
I will be reading this to my kids when i feel i can without crying too much.
Thankyou
gnusmas - you are a remarkable human being.
I can't be there at the funeral, but be sure that I can speak on behalf of many others that we will be thinking about you and your young family.
One day this will all be a bad dream and there will be some happiness back in your life.
bunnyhop x
So sorry for your loss gnusmas,
Take care mate
Alan, I'll be there on the 12th. Let me now if there is anything I can do to help.
Ambrose
Wish I could be there for the funeral. The family Funk will be thinking about you, your wife and your boys. Take care mate.
All our love to you.
Im just a random STW lurker but my condolences to you sir as with everyone else. Sounds like your family have an amazing and compassionate dad, and your wife knew that doubtless. "When you're at the end of the rope, tie a knot and hang on" Love to you.
I was contacted by lucasshmucas the other day asking for my address as he had purchased a gift for myself and my kids and would like to send it to me. This morning a parcel arrived at my door. When I opened it and realised what he had done, the floodgates opened and I struggled to stop.
I eventually braved opening the presentation box and inside was a small pack of items relating to the framed certificate within. He has named a star Lyanda. It is an extra bright star in Andromeda.
Then I read his note that was enclosed. A heartwarming note wishing us all the best, also explaining how my posts have touched him. The certificate also has on it what has now become Lyanda’s legacy. A massive thank you to him for this unbelievable gesture.
Could I please introduce to you Lyanda, the brightest star in the sky.
https://star-register.org/?search=1461018
That's lovely, brings a tear to the eye..
Lovely for the kids to know she'll be watching them.
