Would you date a call girl?

??Mods?? if i put a link to my work page on here will i get in trouble..??

it comes from the fact that some men view their women as well their property.

I do feel the need to possess my partner. That’s kind of why we got married and I am sure that she feels the same. She’s mine, and I am hers and we are a unit and I like it. I’d be mortified if she ran away with some other bloke. Or a woman. or a TS m2F.

The only reasons I can think anyone would become a prostitute are because:

1) They couldn’t do anything else
2) They were forced to do it
3) They want to do it

Being unable to extend your career beyond the basest of humans urges isn’t particularly impressive and victim-hood requires help somewhat beyond dating. If they are doing it purely because they enjoy it, I think it would be pretty hard to get ones head around.

So no.

Has anyone asked Mumsnet what they think?

Or is this a Mumsnet troll?

Not expressing an opinion, just asking. 🙄

@muppetWrangler, interesting distinction…certainly more interesting that some of the gratuitous name calling.

??Mods?? if i put a link to my work page on here will i get in trouble..??

No idea, but I do know it will present a wonderful dilema on whether to click on it for the office workers on the forum! 😈

Hang on, I haven’t labelled anyone as a commodity. I identified a few slang words for a prostitute and stated that I find the profession sleazy and morally repulsive (not just the sellers but the buyers too). It’s nothing to do with sexism at all. I have also taken issue with the comparison of prostitutes with black and gay people, (and I do have a BIG issue with this).
My issue has been that it’s somehow becoming viewed as OK to be a prostitute and I don’t believe it is OK. Would you use (and that word is in context, not because I think they are things) a prostitute? Plenty here think there’s no shame in it.

Morally, are they doing something wrong?

In my opinion, yes it’s wrong. I just couldn’t respect anyone who (without being forced) sells the goods.

If there’s a prize for “Least edifying thread of the week” then this is probably going to win it.

The only reasons I can think anyone would become a prostitute are because:

1) They couldn’t do anything else
2) They were forced to do it
3) They want to do it

Isn’t that the same for any profession?

As for the idea of owning someone and being owned, as some have described their relationships, I personally find that repugnant.

Slightly OT, but my recent three year affair with an ex-lapdancer has sadly just come to an end. I miss her and her earlier life was of no consequence in our relationship.

I have always never had much trouble in finding a partner. I’ve been in stable relationships for over 20 years and had lots of fun before settling down sewing “wild oats”
Others I know struggle and maybe are not a successful with the laydeez. If it means they go to a working girl for a bit of fun where’s the harm in that? They’re not hurting anyone.

sten1 – Member

You missed the point didnt you, i was saying it much safer and nicer from the girls point of view, its a different world, the girls on the streets do it for drugs while a girl with her own flat could be doing it for drugs, but then again they might want a new sofa and TV.

And the difference is what? Both are selling sex. If either is being forced by some else then they are as much a victim as their customers. If anyone, male or female “chooses” to be a sex worker then that is their business, but let’s not pretend that society as a whole will be over the moon at their choice of career. Other peoples opinions will differ from yours.

Has anyone asked Mumsnet what they think?

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Slightly OT, but my recent three year affair with an ex-lapdancer has sadly just come to an end. I miss her and her earlier life was of no consequence in our relationship.

I miss you too oldboy, but I always told you that when Vegas called, I’d answer.

Toodooloo, my sweet potato! It was a lot of fun.

😉

There may be higher class prostitutes but they all let some stranger put his dick in them for money and I couldn’t live with it.

Hang on a minute. If we cross out the “for money” bit, then that describes every normal woman who’s ever been sexually active. Unless you go “urgh” at anyone who isn’t a virgin, why’s it make a difference whether she’s done it for fun, desire, money, being bought dinner and a load of drinks, or a combination of those things?

??Mods?? if i put a link to my work page on here will i get in trouble..??

I’m not sure. Check via email maybe?

In my opinion, yes it’s wrong. I just couldn’t respect anyone who (without being forced) sells the goods.

Just as well they’ve never asked for your respect then, hey.

If i put a link to my work page on here will i get in trouble?

I think you have to pay to advertise on STW 😉

Others I know struggle and maybe are not a successful with the laydeez. If it means they go to a working girl for a bit of fun where’s the harm in that? They’re not hurting anyone.

Good point. What if these others are in their 50s or 60s? What if they aren’t flush so go a bit low rent and recruit from their car on the street? Still OK? It really isn’t any different (if we assume that nobody is being forced).

Just as well they’ve never asked for your respect then, hey.

Quite right.

As for the idea of owning someone and being owned, as some have described their relationships, I personally find that repugnant.

Thing is, ownership of a person is not possible unless you are talking slavery, which we’re not. We are talking about a deep rooted human desire to pair up. If someone with a more radical viewpoint claims that marriage is ownership then that’s okay but they are wrong.

If they decide to wear matching cardigans and claim they own each other it is icky and factually wrong but repugnant?

Are you poly amorous?

Why would we cross out the ‘for money bit’ cougar? Surely that is the essence of prostitution.

Is it bad to think less of a man who pays for sex?

You pay fot sex as well, you just havn’t figured it out yet.

What if these others are in their 50s or 60s? What if they aren’t flush so go a bit low rent and recruit from their car on the street? Still OK?

Because as everyone knows, people never have sex after the age of 50. It aught to be illegal.

Hang on a minute. If we cross out the “for money” bit, then that describes every normal woman who’s ever been sexually active.

Not every woman that has ever been sexually active has had sex with a stranger.

Why would we cross out the ‘for money bit’ cougar? Surely that is the essence of prostitution.

I was just making a point.

A woman has sex before she sleeps with you, that’s ok.(*)

A woman has sex for money before she sleeps with you, that’s not ok.

So why is it money that’s the hang-up and not the prior sex?

(* – in her life, not five minutes ago)

I do feel the need to possess my partner

Ewwwww. If my woman ran off with another man that would be her choice and Id respect it, instead of becoming bitter.

Its guys like you who choke women out, plastinate them and then hang them from their basement walls.

Monogamy with our current lifespans is such horseshit anyway.

Not every woman that has ever been sexually active has had sex with a stranger.

And not every woman who has had sex with a stranger is a prostitute.

Not every woman that has ever been sexually active has had sex with a stranger.

What if they shook hands first?

Are you poly amorous?

phwaoor;

Not every woman that has ever been sexually active has had sex with a stranger.

How many, statistically, have had sex on a first date I wonder?

How many have had sex at swingers’ parties or in fetish clubs?

How many have used dating sites primarily to hook up?

How many have gone to pubs and clubs purely to get pissed and laid?

Is there some sort of minimum time frame to have had to pass before it’s not repulsive to sleep with someone? Have we regressed 50 years to “a woman who has sex on the first date is a slut”? (But good on ya, Billy, you got some!)

Its guys like you who choke women out, plastinate them and then hang them from their basement walls.

😯

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I miss you too oldboy, but I always told you that when Vegas called, I’d answer.
Toodooloo, my sweet potato! It was a lot of fun.

Thank you for that unkind comment, Pimpchild. FYI she went back to her childhood sweetheart.

In my experience (working with teenage girls groomed into prostitution), the word slag/whore/slut is an intolerable insult used to describe the victim of unspeakable crimes. The word pimp, on the other hand, has very different connotations (pimp my ride etc.).
Anyone who fails to see the ingrained sexism in this is an idiot.
The act of prostitution is fine, it’s the business which stinks.
To answer the OP’s question, if the hypothetical fella likes her, go for it.

How much money cougar? Will she sleep with someone she is attracted to for less money? Will she do ‘other’ things for more money? Will she let a couple of blokes do it for a bit more money?

Now I know that any woman has the same choices wether money is involved or not. But as soon as it becomes a transaction then I am out and quite happily deem them damaged. You disagree obviously but that’s the beauty of a forum

How many, statistically, have had sex on a first date I wonder?

How many have had sex at swingers’ parties or in fetish clubs?

How many have used dating sites primarily to hook up?

How many have gone to pubs and clubs purely to get pissed and laid?

Is there some sort of minimum time frame to have had to pass before it’s not repulsive to sleep with someone? Have we regressed 50 years to “a woman who has sex on the first date is a slut”? (But good on ya, Billy, you got some!)

In your egarness to grab the moral high ground you have missed my point.
Enjoy the view

Any guesses on Sten’s job?

Any guesses on Sten’s job?

Speaker of the house?

A report in the British Medical Journal about client violence towards women in prostitution stated that of the 125 women in indoor prostitution contacted, 48% had experienced client violence. The types of violence experienced included: being slapped, punched, or kicked; robbery; attempted robbery; beaten; threatened with weapon; held against will; attempted rape; strangulation; kidnapped; attempted kidnap; forced to give client oral sex; vaginal rape and anal rape. [Church, S., Henderson, M., Barnard, M. and Hart, G. (2001). Violence by clients towards female prostitutes in different work settings: questionnaire survey. British Medical Journal, 322. 524-525.]

In all seriousness to the OP, could your friend cope with the risks that his new girlfriend undertook every day in her job?

In all seriousness to the OP, could your friend cope with the risks that his new girlfriend undertook every day in her job?

nope…she would have to stop doing it, and has agreed to do so..

The game in reality is a long way from the romantic (sorry!) notions that seem to accompany it. Pretty Woman is not a documentary.

No.

nope…she would have to stop doing it, and has agreed to do so..

What if there are relationship troubles? Would turfing her out automatically mean that she went back on the game or is she able to stop doing that sort of work and retain independence? If so why would she be doing that sort of work in the first place? Because she likes it? Alarm bells…

I did have a fling with a high class escort once. She was a dancer at the same well known school in London as my best friend. She got paid a fortune (Saudi clients) and worked not that much, was flown all over the world and didn’t work from London at all, or for anyone. I lost touch but did hear that she gave it up shortly after graduating and set up a yoga centre somewhere warm on the proceeds.

(Some of)You lot do have a juvenile and might I add religious view on sex, claim to be atheists yet still refer to sex workers in biblical terms..

And yes if I liked her, I don’t think I’d be happy to continue with a long term sexual relationship if she remained on the game, but it wouldn’t stop me befriending her/him.

Jamie is badly needed right now.