Would you date a call girl?

Ok sten1 I think thats a bit too far isn’t it? I don’t like the idea of my husband being with another woman, it is about our personal agreement to fidelity, thats what I want, it’s what he wants (hopefully).

Ok sten1 I think thats a bit too far isn’t it? I don’t like the idea of my husband being with another woman, it is about our personal agreement to fidelity, thats what I want, it’s what he wants (hopefully).

i was more upset that he seems to view some women in the same way as a second hand bike.

How did you come to the conclusion I see it as ownership of my wife? Very curious to know how you make that presumption.

TS m2f

I’m trying to keep up, but I have no idea what this means. Could you please explain?

I guess if I smelt another womans perfume on my husband I wouldn’t be pleased. Maybe thats how he meant it.

street walking is very different from putting a add on adult work
It’s not! It’s exactly the same thing.

Let me get this straight.

A woman selling a desirable commodity and earning big money pandering to wealthy men is exactly the same as an underage girl, illegally imported into the country and then forced to work as a prostitute?

I completely and utterly beg to differ.

TS m2f

I’m trying to keep up, but I have no idea what this means. Could you please explain?

the girls on the streets do it for drugs while a girl with her own flat could be doing it for drugs, but then again they might want a new sofa and TV.

That’s a whole new aspect. I could do with a new car so as a joint income household I best get the wife out on the streets making some extra cash. Kids will be of age soon, as a new model on the market they should demand a premium. My rear door is virgin territory so that must be worth something too. Watch this space I’ll have a Ferrari this time next week.

I wouldn’t, but because of my own insecurities rather than some dubious moral viewpoint.

Sex, intimacy…2 player game, not multi player. For me, I think

A second hand bike. Nope but I would honestly view them as damaged goods both physically and mentally. From what I have read here I see that you are both defensive to men, you are defensive when it comes to sexual promiscuity(sp), you are defensive when it comes to a couple (as dbcooper has explained) having mutual feelings that sexual fidelity is important to them.

Just because this isn’t your idea of a nice life doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be defended and I don’t have to explain myself to someone that I deem this very much the case in my life

I could never date a prostitute, not an active one or one from the past. There may be higher class prostitutes but they all let some stranger put his dick in them for money and I couldn’t live with it.

That I understand. I guess that’s the alpha male element coming out. And that I believe is where the head games would be if dating a call girl.

OP > how you deal with them – and even whether you wanted to deal with them – is your call. 🙂

Anyway clobber your conversation was limted to women was it not.

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Errr NO…

sten1 – apologies but Youtube is blocked so Im no clearer.

Nope but I would honestly view them as damaged goods both physically and mentally.

that sentence has made me feel ill, what a disgusting attitude to have.

sten1 – apologies but Youtube is blocked so Im no clearer.

I used to live in Iran, till i was 18 🙂

I completely and utterly beg to differ.

Agreed…this girl is single and loves sex. She rationalises it by the fact that she can go to a club, get pissed and shag a pissed up bloke, or she can make an arrangement online, if she likes the look of him she’d get paid £500 for a nites ‘work’ and put up in a nice hotel/spa whist having fun. The money is going towards a house deposit.

Morally dubious perhaps, but a far cry from being pimped out by some lowlife having been forced into prostitution

edit…having typed that I’m not sure which one is worse!

my main concern would be the fact she’s a pro and I couldn’t wrap my head around it.

For me the same as with a polyamorous woman…

A woman who has chosen to earn big money pandering to wealthy men is exactly the same as an underage girl who is illegally imported into the country and then forced to work as a prostitute?

I think the important point here is choice. Which to my mind makes the 2 different.

Anyway

OP, no.

TS m2f

Trans sexual male to female at a guess.

A woman selling a desirable commodity and earning big money pandering to wealthy men is exactly the same as an underage girl, illegally imported into the country and then forced to work as a prostitute?

No, that wasn’t even remotely what was said. As mentioned, choice is the differentiator.

@PJazz etc..
Beep calling that one as Reductio ad absurdum

“forced to work as a prostitute” makes them a victim which “trumps” any other words you may want to use

read Sibel Hodge’s Trafficked if you ever need a bit of wake on that stuff

Hang on. Let me just put my Yorkshire head on here- If I date a call girl does that mean I get a discount/her on the cheap’?

In additional – blokes, would you date a male gigolo? A sort of manwhore or ‘he whore’? Who does manwhoring?

TS m2f

I think, happy to be corrected here, that it means the individual is a trans-sexual, previously they were male, now female.

I think, happy to be corrected here, that it means the individual is a trans-sexual, previously they were male, now female.

Yes its a bit like being a special collectors edition.

Nope, I couldn’t. I would just spend my entire time wondering what sweaty beast had been pawing at my girlfriend recently.

Strange attitudes people have. I’m wondering where they come from? If it didn’t matter to her, why would it matter to you?

Why has it made you feel ill? You have quite clearly expressed how you see sex/sexual partners and how you feel it isn’t an issue. I have stated that in my eyes a lady who has let another bloke put his dick in her for money is, in some way ‘damaged’ either physically or mentally.

Now I don’t expect you to agree with me as we are all allowed opinions, but I 100% think that if I went home to my wife and said I had paid a girl for sex she would then see me as ‘damaged’ in some way (As I would her).

Truth hurts and just because you have chosen to live like this doesn’t mean I have to change my values.

BTW I was my wifes first as she was mine. Met at 15, boyfriend and girlfriend at 16. Waited ages (Seemed like an eternity)and have been together for 24yrs. Basically grew into adults together. I guarantee something would be damaged if one of us sold our bodies for sex (I wouldn’t get much)

Strange attitudes people have. I’m wondering where they come from? If it didn’t matter to her, why would it matter to you?

it comes from the fact that some men view their women as well their property.

Why has it made you feel ill? You have quite clearly expressed how you see sex/sexual partners and how you feel it isn’t an issue. I have stated that in my eyes a lady who has let another bloke put his dick in her is, in some way ‘damaged’ either physically or mentally.

Now I don’t expect you to agree with me as we are all allowed opinions, but I 100% think that if I went home to my wife and said I had paid a girl for sex she would then see me as ‘damaged’ in some way (As I would her).

Truth hurts and just because you have chosen to live like this doesn’t mean I have to change my values.

BTW I was my wifes first as she was mine. Met at 15, boyfriend and girlfriend at 16. Waited ages (Seemed like an eternity)and have been together for 24yrs. Basically grew into adults together. I guarantee something would be damaged if one of us sold our bodies for sex (I wouldn’t get much)
ok im what way im a damaged goods??

it comes from the fact that some men view their women as well their property.

You belong to each other. It’s like a mutual ownership except the men do whatever they’re told to.

you missed the huge pink elephant in the room

I doubt it and I doubt if Wrecker said many women are bad so he only sleeps with them for money you would let it go. You would be calling him names but hey when you say it is all fine.
That is what you said about men.

Its bad to think less of a woman or speak of her in a derogatory way if she sells sex

Is it bad to think less of a man who pays for sex?

I accept that I may have misunderstood junkyard,

Easily done given the thread and the views being expressed.

No, that wasn’t even remotely what was said.

Enlighten me then. It certainly sounded like it.

“forced to work as a prostitute” makes them a victim which “trumps” any other words you may want to use

Someone in that situation is undoubtedly a victim. They’re also technically a sex worker too. But either way, comparing someone in that incredibly vunerable position is a far cry from a woman being paid thousands of pounds to spank an MP while his/her partner is on their yacht in the Med.

it comes from the fact that some men view their women as well their property.

Monogamy is far more deep rooted in human behaviour than a desire to “own” someone as if they are property.

Can’t say I’ve looked into the development of the behaviour. But it will go beyond any recorded history by a vast stretch of time.

being paid thousands of pounds to spank an MP while his/her partner is on their yacht in the Med.

you dont know of any Mp’s requiring that service do you?

Enlighten me then. It certainly sounded like it.

Let get this straight; You honestly and truthfully, even if you think about it for a looong time, cannot see the difference between these two quotes?

street walking

an underage girl, illegally imported into the country and then forced to work as a prostitute?

I am not going to pull you apart as I don’t know you.

you dont know of any Mp’s requiring that service do you?

Out local Tory is having a bit of a rough time. I can put in a good word if you want? 😉

Out local Tory is having a bit of a rough time. I can put in a good word if you want?

im happy to work for a new Di2 xtr groupset…

Crikey I’m glad I had a meeting now.

Can I just give a small round of applause to the most intelligent post on this thread on page one by Teasel, even if it contributed nothing to the argument whatsoever.

Let get this straight; You honestly and truthfully, even if you think about it for a looong time, cannot see the difference between these two quotes?

I can and I know what you mean.

My point is that there’s a huge grey gulf in the middle where the two meet, and your blanket-labelling of any woman selling sex as a commodity (or “whores”, to quote you directly) is in no way a fair representation of anyone in the sex industry.

Going back to the original question.

I don’t think I’d have a problem with dating a sex worker, hypothetically i have no real issue with what someone does with their body or how they make a living. I tend to value trust and honesty more highly than fidelity or monogamy. Faced with the reality I’m not honestly sure whether I would be able to live up to those ideals but I hope that I would.

I would find it really difficult to continue in a relationship with a partner than had an affair though. The deceit would probably mean the end of the relationship.

[edit] I’m not sure fidelity and monogamy are really the right words. What I was thinking when i wrote that was that in my mind someone selling a sexual service isn’t really committing an infidelity as there is no emotional attachment and it’s the emotional response that is important in a relationship. Getting sweaty with each other is fun but without the emotional love it’s just a bit of exercise and a release.

Wrecker,
What’s yout opinion on ladies who deal in sexual services that live and work in countries where it’s not illegal? Maybe in a pleasure house.
Ladies who pay taxes, health insurance, who’ve decided to make their cash using their bodies to pleasure others.
Morally, are they doing something wrong?