Sexism on STW (a goodbye and some thanks :) )

Oh sugdnr what’s the view like from up there?

Touche sir, by jove thats the spirit

I am too. Please tell me I am.

Nah, you’re on my “make me eyes roll, but in a good way” list doubleD. 😀

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b… ack door?

unfortunately for you you pervert i only have a patio door, and as you well know its rather narrow thus preventing us from inviting larger friends round 😛

A few people saying the sexism on here isn’t bad, they all seem to be blokes

I’m saying I’m not aware that it is bad. Not quite the same thing.

Likewise I’ve never been aware of homophobia or much racism, but other people claim it is rampant.

Hels – who?

there are certain elements on this thread that remind me of the guys that used to latch on to the rad fems in the uni bar and join in with the ‘all men are rapists’ rhetoric …………………….

in the vain hope of copping off. 😉

‘the all men are rapists’ rhetoric

I’ve got a joke about rape… my Mrs loves it, will I get banned if I tell it?

probably best leave it

With the current topic of conversation, Yeti, I’d say “probably”

no, I’ll spare you if it’s funny

is it the “that’s the spirit” one? if so… and considering the context of this thread… yes, yes you will.

I’ve got a joke about rape… my Mrs loves it, will I get banned if I tell it?

I see what you did there.

Phil – do you think Scaredy is already playing ‘the game’?

That’s not the joke… it’s the joke she loves.

Oh Graham that must be truly AWFUL!

You poor thing, how DO you cope my dear

This really is a storm in a teacup.
People need to unclench a little.
If you don’t like a thread/forum/shirt/bike/job/partner etc…move on, change it. It’s really not a big deal.
Plenty of people seem to enjoy it here, there’s always going to be a minority that don’t. C’est la vie.
Edit – I had a good image to upload but I’m too thick, not worth worrying about though is it?

Joke about rape?

Those two words will never be in the same sentence. Ever. Sorry, I do robust humour but never that.

It has amused me how many of the unpleasant intolerant fools have outed themselves on this thread.

Or at least it would be funny if it wasn’t so tragic in that the forum will now be a poorer place as more of the nice interesting people feel forced to leave and the stupid unpleasant ones have no one left to challenge them.

I hope this is a wake up call to STW towers.

Those two words will never be in the same sentence. Ever.

Most prison sentences handed out for rape are a joke.

…there is always an exception.

Blimey, what’s been goin on! There’s asshats all over the place, don’t see why STW should be any exception.The forum has definitely become a less nice/fun place since I first found it though.

Or at least it would be funny if it wasn’t so tragic in that the forum will now be a poorer place as more of the nice interesting people feel forced to leave and the stupid unpleasant ones have no one left to challenge them.

TJ – you obviously didn’t read last nights deleted thread towards the end did you?

can we move away from the subject of rape? maybe start a ‘is it ok to joke about paedophilia (catholic priests, michael jackson etc) but not rape?’ thread

It has amused me how many of the unpleasant intolerant fools have outed themselves on this thread.

Or at least it would be funny if it wasn’t so tragic in that the forum will now be a poorer place as more of the nice interesting people feel forced to leave and the stupid unpleasant ones have no one left to challenge them

It amuses me how holier than thou you are with your opinions. You’re almost patronizing with your attitude towards the women on here, jumping to their defence and being overly PC when its not necessary.

Joke about rape?

Those two words will never be in the same sentence. Ever. Sorry, I do robust humour but never that.

As a man who takes himself far too seriously, this doesn’t surprise me….

Oh Graham that must be truly AWFUL!

You poor thing, how DO you cope my dear

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Which bit? The not really noticing apparent isms bit, or the putting up with your posts bit?

Nope GW.

However I do believe the forum will be a poorer place for the loss of sue and emsz.

Dont go ladies. It’s pretty level-headed around here isn’t it?

TJ are you lecturing everyone from your self built moral high ground? Do be quiet.

Anyway, how can “LOOK AT ME, I’M GOING” not be a flounce?
Why not just go?

(I’d like them both to come back though)(if they’re reading this)(which they probably are)

I don’t know what the final straw was here, but I’ve a couple of vaguely related comments if that’s ok. Whatever the situation, I think it’s deeply sad that anyone would feel the need to leave a group due to the actions of others. Anyway.

“It’s just a forum.”

… used by real people. It’s easy to be a ‘keyboard warrior’ but the people you’re interacting with aren’t NPCs, they’re human beings.

The medium isn’t relevant. If you were face to face with a bunch of people you sort of knew to varying extents, at work maybe, and Tracy from Accounts walked past, would you yell out “bloody hell, I’d go out for a bike ride”? How about on a conference call? In a restaurant? Being interviewed on the radio?

Thing is, as soon as “the Internet” is involved, for some people this immediately trivialises situations. “Oh, are you going out riding on your bicycle, with your little friends off the Internet? How sad.”

Part of the problem, I think, is that STW has its running jokes. Own with bombers, weeing in shoes, etc. The “back doors” comment has entered the STW Lexicon as just another gag; it’s crude of course, but it’s blatantly stupid, and I’ve never really thought that anyone really meant it any more than they’re seriously considering physical assault with a pair of forks.

Maybe Sue was being overly sensitive. Probably not. I’ve no idea. But, there’s no denying that a minority of people just don’t give a toss what they say or who they offend. Who cares, right, it’s only the Internet.

Ye gods, I go away for a couple of months and everthing goes to hell in a handbasket.

Who is being a dick this time?

I didn’t feel nearly objectified enough on my shaving thread. I was quite disappointed if anything.

A few people saying the sexism on here isn’t bad, they all seem to be blokes (difficult to be sure) on the other hand 2 women are leaving our little group because they believe STW is quite sexist, hmm who to believe on how much offence is being caused to the women of the forum. It’s a conundrum right enough.

No, the sexism’s annoying and ever-prevalent. I made the point only yesterday that women are routinely referred to as evil bitches or the like whenever a divorce thread comes up. The hilarious snakes-with-tits comments come out on such threads as well, which I think is a perfect combination of crassness and stupidity, and probably points to why she left you in the first place.

Is Neanderthal behaviour on here acceptable? No, not really, but I assume that most offenders are a bit thick, can’t help themselves, and will never change. I could kill myself trying to eradicate sexism and racism, and honestly, I wish I could say that I cared enough to do it, but I don’t. I simply ignore the idiots here and let them get on with it, maybe commenting on or reporting the most egregious examples.

i tried to objectify you on your shaving thread, i even sent you that sexy photo telling you to touch my junk!

I didn’t feel nearly objectified enough on my shaving thread. I was quite disappointed if anything.

Did the beard stay though?

I didn’t objectify you in words – but thoughts can’t be controlled… 😉

Who is being a dick this time?

Pretty much everyone. Some more than others though. 😉

Who is being a dick this time?

This reminds me of the inspirational speech in Team America – World Police.

nickf

well said.

I do care enough to challenge the behaviour and look at the flaming I get for it. I understand why people think its not worth challenging.

This reminds me of the inspirational speach in Team America – World Police.

TSY – I’m not sure that speech is going to help right now…

Good speech though. Made me think differently about deep issues like diversity and philosophical subjectivity.

Pretty much everyone

Well it looks like I will slot right back in where I belong. 😆

FWIW, if you feel like saying something that degrades women, try it out on your mother first. If she isn’t keen then you are probably an awful person.

I’m not sure that speech is going to help right now…

It wouldn’t be the first time that Team America has failed me 🙁

Torm – you never lock yourself out of your Mum’s and had to forecably gain entry?