Sounds like the OP is very aware of all the factors which contribute to bike fit & handling & that you can’t really just add a bit here and there to mask an otherwise poor fit.
Anyway, I went from 110->120 on my road bike last year. I found it much better for descending – more stable, better turn in. Probably to do with more weight over the front wheel.
I’m just starting to experiment with 100->110 on my cross bike for road use. It did feel a bit short with 100, but with 100 turn-in steering feels weird on the road.
I’ve also just seen the pic in your other thread. It does look wrong! Probably a M Giant would be better. I’m a nats under 6ft and with long legs and arms, and shortish torso, I know from experience I sit better on a M Giant.
There’s also the question about how you use the bike and what your typically rides are. I train & race & don’t like bimbling along, so tend towards aggresive positions. Someone riding 15 mile pootles would prob be set up more like your current bike for higher front end comfort!
Good luck with the fitting… It’s taken me years of dicking about with bike fit to appreciate the finer details!