Just had the police around, I've been accused of racism

Glad to hear your on the mend Dark Side. If you do make it out there next year we’ll have to meet up for a drink.

Oh and I’d have probably reacted like you in the car park so every sympathy. Learning to keep it in check is a slow on going process!

He’s being an idiot for playing the race card in a non racial situation, but you’re being an idiot for expecting preferential treatment be given to people just because they choose to have kids. IMO disabled spaces should be enforceable, but family spaces? No, screw that. Family spaces should be done away with completely.

`I’ve parked in these spaces plenty of times when I’ve had to load something heavy and bulky (that’s not a child) into the side doors meaning that they need to be fully opened. If the OP had seen me getting out of the car in this situation to go into the store would he have called me a prick too?

I doubt it, on any other day I would probably have been more reasonable. He carried a small carrier back to his Porsche 911, so I don’t think it was heavy lifting. As I said above, I regret my initial hissy fit but I don’t think I deserve the police around and accusations of racism.

But how do we or the OP know? Perhaps his kids were in the store with their mum. Perhaps he has mobility issues or chronic pain but is not yet in receipt of a disability badge. Did the OP ask this before shouting ‘prick’ at him?

You need to read the OP again, rather than just making stuff up to try and excuse this person’s selfishness:

…when a youngish guy came out of the supermarket, jumped in his car parked in a family space and started to drive off. I shouldn’t have done it, but I had a bit of a go about him parking in a family space, he wound down his window and we had further words, which resulted in me calling him a prick.

Local Co-op used to print pictures of those who missused the disabled bays and display them on a wall of shame near the till.
🙂

Worked a treat.

So he made a complaint about you based on your skin colour. That makes him the racist.

I agree, but there’s a deeper social issue here, in that there are vast portions of society who belive they are more important than others, and will try anything when confronted with their bad behaviour, sometimes it’s pulling the race card, sometimes it’s drivers saying cyclists shouldn’t be on the road, etc. Etc. It’s simply their way of justifying thier inconsiderate behaviour in their own minds.

I don’t think I deserve the police around and accusations of racism.

So even though the guy is being a dick and lying about it, and making it racist, you don’t want the police to investigate? That’s their job, they don’t know he’s lying.

mikey74 – Member

He’s being an idiot for playing the race card in a non racial situation, but you’re being an idiot for expecting preferential treatment be given to people just because they choose to have kids. IMO disabled spaces should be enforceable, but family spaces? No, screw that. Family spaces should be done away with completely.

+potato

He carried a small carrier back to his Porsche 911

Aha, perhaps it was simply the 911 that made the OP see red. Guys a prick clearly 🙄

agent007 – Member
Perhaps his kids were in the store with their mum. Perhaps he has mobility issues or chronic pain but is not yet in receipt of a disability badge.

In which case he ought to have mentioned them but seemingly didn’t. We can all jump to incorrect conclusions and maybe the OP did but the odds are he didn’t based on his post.
I get that you’re of the view you can use these spaces when YOU decide, hence the supposition in defence of the other party, but my moral compass points towards more consideration for others.

but my moral compass points towards more consideration for others.

What like not calling a random stranger you don’t even know ‘a prick’?

you’re being an idiot for expecting preferential treatment be given to people just because they choose to have kids

well from the supermarket’s perspective, on average those people are prob spending way more than “you” so perhaps they’re worth pandering to. It’s the suprmarket’s choice; after that the OP has been given the “right” and so is complaining

Park where you like though, for me – just allow people to think what they like of you while you do it 🙂

This has been brought up in a couple of threads recently, I’ve done the same as the op on multiple occasions but find myself biting my tongue more and more because I figure on a long enough time scale it’ll end in violence.

Those spaces are a god send if you’re on your own with small children. Especially if you have more than one. And it saves you having to worry about dinging someone else’s car.

If you anyone thinks it’s acceptable to take these spaces when you don’t need them perhaps next time imagine your wife, sister, mother etc struggling to carry a baby in a car seat while walking hand in hand with a toddler through the car park. Maybe in the rain.

agent007

But how do we or the OP know? Perhaps his kids were in the store with their mum. Perhaps he has mobility issues or chronic pain but is not yet in receipt of a disability badge. Did the OP ask this before shouting ‘prick’ at him?

In my experience everyone doing this has an excuse on the tip of their tongue. Usually obvious improbable bullshit.

but you’re being an idiot for expecting preferential treatment be given to people just because they choose to have kids.

I’d like you to remember that when our kids, which we raised, are paying for your pension.

Those spaces are a god send if you’re on your own with small children. Especially if you have more than one. And it saves you having to worry about dinging someone else’s car.

They are but you’d have to have had kids to understand that (along with just how hard it is).

[Quote]Getting young kids in and out of cars, with seats and paraphernalia, can be difficult.[/quote]

Which is why I park in a remote corner of the car park. Plenty of room away from the lazier members of society.

but you’re being an idiot for expecting preferential treatment be given to people just because they choose to have kids

It’s entirely sensible for supermarkets to give parents with young kids preferential treatment

They buy shed loads more stuff, especially high margin items, than single people.

Talking about car park restrictions and race is kind of a diversion. The core issues here are people who think they can do what they want knowingly to the detriment to others.

That all sound a bit peace and love, but it’s a real global social issue, and it’s mainly because some think that they should never even be slightly inconvenienced by others, which is a pretty destructive way of thinking.

God forbid you inconvenience me, how very dare you, you’ve caused me so much disruption it made me 32 seconds late to my unimportant shopping trip.

Those wider parent/child bays are a godsend with three kids under five with or without the bulky items you’ve just bought.

They are but you’d have to have had kids to understand that (along with just how hard it is).

Just how hard, really? When my two were young most supermarkets didn’t even have these parent and child spaces. Yet we seemed to manage perfectly fine despite having a 3 door Peugeot. Don’t remember it ever being that much of a hasstle!

Bloody foreigners, coming over here and taking our parent and child spaces

Just how hard, really? When my two were young most supermarkets didn’t even have these parent and child spaces. Yet we seemed to manage perfectly fine despite having a 3 door Peugeot. Don’t remember it ever being that much of a hasstle!

But enough of a hasstle for you to have to park there to get bulky items in to your car these days…..

Just how hard, really? When my two were young most supermarkets didn’t even have these parent and child spaces. Yet we seemed to manage perfectly fine despite having a 3 door Peugeot. Don’t remember it ever being that much of a hasstle!

Half an hour ago you were saying how you feel entitled to park in these spaces when you have “bulky items”.

It sounds to me like you view your own needs as important, but tend to minimise or show disdain for the needs of others.

Isn’t the core issue people who can’t control themselves and verbally abuse strangers?

Piss off nob’ead.

Just how hard, really? When my two were young most supermarkets didn’t even have these parent and child spaces. Yet we seemed to manage perfectly fine despite having a 3 door Peugeot. Don’t remember it ever being that much of a hasstle!

Haven’t you seen how people react at the mere thought that their car could be scratched?

Twodogs
Isn’t the core issue people who can’t control themselves and verbally abuse strangers?

No the core issue is inconsiderate dick heads who have no sympathy for others relying on people to ignore them, turn a blind eye or maybe tut while they blatantly act like a ****.

On the how hard is it that you need a special parking place side of the argument and not calling strangers a prick for making you walk an extra 50m and have to be considerate opening your doors like the rest of us.

On the how hard is it that you need a special parking place side of the argument and not calling strangers a prick for making you walk an extra 50m and have to be considerate opening your doors like the rest of us.

Sorry mate – read it 3 times – still no idea what you’re on about

I’ve parked in these spaces plenty of times when I’ve had to load something heavy and bulky (that’s not a child) into the side doors meaning that they need to be fully opened.

If this is something that you need to do so often, then I would suggest that, in order to make your like easier, and the lives of those with children whose parking spaces you’re appropriating, you replace your current car with one more appropriate to your needs, with sliding rear doors that allow greater access to the interior.
Ford do a range that I’m sure you would find much better than what you have.
Then you wouldn’t need to be a self-righteous dick.

You need to read the OP again, rather than just making stuff up to try and excuse this person’s your selfishness:

FTFY

Still waiting to hear about these bulky items you regularly buy too?

I’ve only read the OP, just very surprised you’re devastated at the police at the door but you’re quite happy acting up and calling a stranger a prick in front of the kid.

Just calm down all round.

There’s always going to be dicks who do selfish things but if you get to the point where you’re losing control in front of your kid….

Only read OP but what pees me off is that if you’d had £000’s worth of bikes nicked they wouldn’t have even come round…’hate crime’ is a priority…nicked bikes isn’t!

agent007 – Member
What like not calling a random stranger you don’t even know ‘a prick’?

I don’t know any random strangers but those parking selfishly are pricks. Don’t act like one if you don’t wanna be regarded as one. #thetruthhurtssometimes

PS family spaces are free reign. There’s nothing illegal about parking in them no matter who you are.

I think the point is it’s not really that hard, and it’s probably technically unenforceable in a legal sense, however, and it’s a big however…

Why can’t we all just stop being so bloody inconsiderate in every day social interactions?

Those spaces are a god send if you’re on your own with small children. Especially if you have more than one. And it saves you having to worry about dinging someone else’s car.

If you anyone thinks it’s acceptable to take these spaces when you don’t need them perhaps next time imagine your wife, sister, mother etc struggling to carry a baby in a car seat while walking hand in hand with a toddler through the car park. Maybe in the rain.

Really though?, I’ve never had a car and only ever walked or used the bus when my children were small, it’s hard to imagine walking a few yards across a car park is an ordeal. Fully able people at my work moan if they can’t park within 20 yards of the door and any sign of rain has them in a panic. It is incredible how the comforts and convenience of driving lead drivers to feel so entitled to an easy life.

Why can’t we all just stop being so bloody inconsiderate in every day social interactions?

Cars innit.

There’s nothing illegal about parking in them no matter who you are.

Most people’s morals operate on a higher level than “is it illegal or not?”

I’ve only read the OP, just very surprised you’re devastated at the police at the door but you’re quite happy acting up and calling a stranger a prick in front of the kid.

My daughter was asleep, but it doesn’t take away from the fact that I have (as referenced numerous times) acknowledged by improper behaviour in the matter.