heres one for you all – would you stay with a partner if they cheated on you?

Bunnyhop – Member

BigDummy – What ever you had for breakfast/lunch? I want some.

Sausage sandwich?! 😆

Lol. tanky

Oooh! Errr! Missus!

BD – wonderful.
Hora – you seem very insecure to me.

I will raise my head over the parapet once more:
Twenty years ago I did have a brief fling with another woman. My wife found out, we argued like mad, we stayed together. I think that our relationship actually improved afterwards, as I appreciated what I had nearly lost much more than before.

So, forgiveness worked in our favour.
And I reckon I'd forgive her, too.

No. Did it once before & it ate away at me until we did eventually split. She'd had numerous older blokes behind my back. I was a stupid naive 21yr old at the time. We did the "separate-rooms" bit till I moved out, & to get even I brought someone back one night & made her listen to us in the next room.
Did I get an instant release of all my anger, frustration & hurt…did I heck.
Just made it even worse.
If your missus has been unfaithful face the fact & move on. I'll bet if you were asked on your death-bed, whether you should have spent all that time mulling it over, talking through etc etc or simply moved on you'll have wished you'd moved on.
Of course I had no kids at the time, if I found my Wife had cheated I'd divorce her. And no doubt get shafted by the CSA just as she did by whatever **** decided to have her.

My relationship with my girlfriend recently ended after 5 1/2 years, because she no longer loved me. I was willing to try and see if we could patch things up, then I accidently found out she had been cheating for a month & a half before she ended it. I have to say my feelings about her changed entirelly, I could not believe how angry I was that she cheated and lied to me. I would not want to spend my life with someone who would do that.

So I am in the no way gang, I would never cheat on a girlfriend and I expect likewise, otherwise what the hell is the point in being together!

OK the soap box is free for someone else now.

Hora – you seem very insecure to me.

Same here.

If I was Hora's girl, and he eventually took that which he's been beating off with a shitty stick for years, I'd forgive him. As Joni sang…"You don't know what you've got till it's gone"

Latest episode of Peep Show had this well covered.

juan – Member

Hora – you seem very insecure to me.

Same here.

Same.

Kev

Ian Munro:
It's working for me BD! Don't stop when i'm so close.

I literally lol'd.

Another bloke sticks himself into every conceivable hole of your once fair-missus.

😯 Nose sex?

whatever Hora said – the opposite of that.

depends if he lied about it or not. if it's something like a drunken kiss, and he's fesses up immediately, I would forgive him. if he's been having an affair for months, I think it would be much harder, so I'm not sure.

I'm very much of the belief that if someone cheats on me, then there's something wrong with our relationship. I am not 'to blame', but it obviously needs working on. if it's worth working on, I don't see the point in chucking it away. everybody makes mistakes. if they cheat again though… more the fool me for not spotting what a dick he was

I'm insecure? Not sure if I am or aren't. I think Im a tad more complex than that in person tbh- I think I'd describe myself as sensitive.

TBH – I don't know what I'd do 'to her' as I've never had to think about it, nor have I with any girl previously. I've never had a friend do anything untoward to me either.

I think alpin is along the lines though.

There are FAR too many possible scenarios here to make a decision in any direction. It would be crass to suggest you could.

sound a little insecure to me
just because your other half shags someone else it dosn't meen it was any good – it may have been crap in which case they may appreciate the drunkern fumblings you convinced them was great sex althe more and remain forever faithful
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justme, you'd let your girlfriend shag someone else. Do you have any balls?!

just because your other half shags someone else it dosn't mean it was any good

This is a very good point. I wonder (and let's not talk specifically about Hora's prowess here) whether there is any correlation between being secretly convinced that you're terrible in bed and taking a (murderously) hard line on cheating.

"If she discovers that there are people out there who can make sex last for several minutes and actually feel quite rigid and proddy then we are finished and she must die!" 🙂

Minutes you say? Minutes? Ssssh!

Hora – that's not the point. You posted a lurid description of "the ultimate betrayal" in which your missus was filled to over-flowing with engorged stud and screamed so loudly she broke the bed. If actually she'd just been sweated on by a chubby guy with a bald patch who had to resort to a vacuum pump to get down to business, would you really still call it "the ultimate betrayal"? 🙂

Hora bragging about his sexual prowess:

As Mark famously said "its like trying to shrink-wrap an earthworm"

not what i said hora I'm just not paranoid about the end result of an unintended fumble
anything more than that would require more thought
I don,t have a girlfriend either my wife wont allow it!!
however if i was living in one of the latin countries of europe that may be different as are attitudes towards this subject g

I'd nail the mutha suckers to the floor, then cut her eyelids off with a chainsaw and make her watch while I peel her lover.

That'll learn 'em.

Its not a hardline on cheating. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

As I said earlier when I was being serious, I doubt very much it'd be a one-off/totally out of character. Theres always previous-form on these sort of things.
An old friend of mine had 'won' a girl from another bloke, basically he started seeing her whilst she was still with her old boyfriend. Later down the line he found out he was also being cheated on. He knew what he was going into mind.

I doubt, totally out of the blue a girl suddenly decides she wants to have a one night stand. IF this really was genuinely the case, it should signal to the other partner the definite decline of the relationship- what should be the natural terminal decline.

You know, I was thinking last weekend whilst riding looking over Sheffield, I was madly in love with my ex but I could see signs that she loved attention. I ended it. She came from Sheffield and looking at the city made me think of her. Oh how my heart ached thinking about the past 🙁

binners, you escaped this week. When you cycle passed my bush next week though, I will catch you in my corset 😯

if love can be abandoned over one transgression is it really love or merely a convenient arrangement ? How about your kids, say one of them steals some of your cash or sets fire to the living room, do you chuck them too ?

Only after I'd beaten them to within an inch of their lives Simon 😀

I find t incredibly hypocritical for Hora to come over all moral when he spends every evening cottaging. Poor Mrs Hora probably doesn't even realise he's gay

How about your kids, say one of them steals some of your cash or sets fire to the living room, do you chuck them too ?

I'd nail the mutha sucker to the floor, etc, etc, etc…

Lets ask another question, if you are sleeping with a women that is married and her 'bigger than you' husband comes home, how many of you would wait until he came in to the house and state 'you need to be asking some serious questions of your wife this has nothing to do with me, may I suggest you are terrible in bed' and how many would run like hell. I would have to think the latter, but why run when you are not doing anything wrong?

Happened to me this year after 9 years together and 2 children.

I thought I could forgive.. gave it 6 months of trying.. but realised in the end I couldn't get over what I believe is the ultimate betrayal.

I confused my fear of losing everything as a willingness to put it all behind us.

I find t incredibly hypocritical for Hora to come over all moral when he spends every evening cottaging. Poor Mrs Hora probably doesn't even realise he's gay

Yes, when I was waiting for my 12th punter of the evening in the Park toilets I was rather suprised to see binners walking in 😯