PSA: Five Live discussing male depression and suicide today

For me I find wasting good time on forums is counterproductive if coping with depression.

Especially as trolls on these bike sites like any probably are relentless at times.

They the truly f’d up individuals that require help of some description.

Sad but true!

A little devils advocacy: in 2017 I had a torrid time. I had 5 suicidal friends, one of those followed through. I also ended up at 4 other funerals. I opened my arms to each suicidal friend and was always there to listen even in the middle of the night. The weight of all that had me feeling the same way – I’d forgotten to look after myself. I didn’t even get PN my bike much that year. It was all hard work and heavy vibes. I had to make changes, including creating an exit strategy from a great job but one which involved supporting staff, volunteers and service users through their hard lives.

I’m much healthier now ànd ready to help folk bear a burden once again. I’ll just be careful to watch my own mood first. That is my advice to all – look out for people but yourselves first.

For me I find wasting good time on forums is counterproductive if coping with depression.

I’ve found exactly the opposite. Coming on here allows me to have the social interaction which I need to stave off the crushing loneliness of depression without any of the added complications that come with face to face relationships in the real world.

It’s like free group therapy.

Yes thatis a valid point for you yes.

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For me I find wasting good time on forums is counterproductive if coping with depression.

I have and still find STW an amazing release. It helps me feel sociable without the need to see anyone, which is handy given most of the time i find any excuse not to see or speak to anyone. Still feel guilty sometimes for posting, but understand people will only read something if they want to.

It’s an odd one as stw has mellowed over the years.

You lot used to be serious bunch of barstewards! 😂

Hey Mounty_73 – you should have posted and you’ve been very brave to do so. I hesitated a very long time to post up a fear of flying thread and admitting I was scared to fly because whenever it happens the same ‘ol jokes and sniggers roll out.

Not sure about brave, its difficult to put it all into words and when I do, it sounds stupid, I think thats why I am so ashamed it all….

@mounty_73 try http://www.thecalmzone.net 0800 585858

Thank you, I will have a look at the site today.

Mounty73
Here’s just an idea, it may be just a spark, it may not appeal at all, but what the hell, who knows!

This Sam Harris meditation (10 minutes a day) is interesting. He says the mind is as it is because of habits, which become part and parcel of its make up. Even eating breakfast has an effect on the mind… (and that’s a pretty regular habit)

So it can be trained, it has to be trained “out of” its present (and disturbing) state… takes time… maybe a lot if time, but maybe also not a lot of time…

If this link doesn’t work, just google “Sam Harris waking up course”

https://mailchi.mp/307c0d74a62f/new-lessondont-meditate-because-its-good-for-you?e=a34aa8c416