[Closed] Constantly screaming kid

how old?

Not sure, only a little 'un so a few months to a year?

Little sod must have a throat made of brass - certainly sounds like he's red-raw with yelling. It's not crying, rather the dementedly angry hoarse yelling of someone determined to get their way.

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I'm no chemist but is that the formula for chloroform? 😆

it's Ketamine

I feel for you.

You have patients of a saint OP as I get miffed from a dog or an alarm going off twice in a row.

Have a chat as in is the baby ok =could be a medical prob and buy ear plugs?

Chloroform would only cure for a day.

I can get earplugs from work but i'd never get up in the morning if i did that - plus i wear them all day at work.

The family are chinese, don't want to cause inadvertent offence by knocking on the door and being nosey but it's getting annoying now.

He's still yelling... 🙁

Don't you just love the northern european tolerance of children ?

In all seriousness, it might be a good idea to talk to them and see if it is a medical problem.

Only use the cyanide as a last resort ( and don't get caught ).

Maybe go round and ask if you can help? Find out the problem, post here and the solution will find you.

There's tolerance and then there is stepping over the mark.

Phone your local council/social services. The family will probably receive a visit and may be offered help if there is a problem which can be sorted out.

Move house if it bothers you that much.

None of your business really 😉

Yeah that's the British attitude - ignore your neighbours.

If it is distressing or concerning, call Social Services. You should be able to do it anonomously and if there's nothing to worry about then all well and good.

Yeah that's the British attitude - ignore your neighbours.

I've spoken to the sheep and cattle at length today, they go baa moo.

Move house if it bothers you that much.

None of your business really

If you can hear it in your house it's your business.

Erm- it is not likely to be a medical problem, just the joys of colic. Go round with a bottle of wine and sympathy. It won't last but the poor bloody parents are likely to be stressed out of their minds.

Look upon it as an incentive to get a better paid job / promotion so you can afford a detached house.

lactic +1. colic is a nightmare; my daughter cried for months (seemed like longer)

If you neighbours are Chinese, it could well be that they aren't aware of the level of noise the kids is making, daft I know.

Most of the Far East is, except in Japan where they are very aware of the noise they make, quite tolerant of noises, particularly from children.

My neighbours would regularly scream to each other from house to house at 6am and then around 6:45 the local head man would come on the village tannoy system and talk drivel for 25 minutes before playing crap adverts for local companies full blast.

My advice is to go knock on the door and ask them if they can possibly keep the noise of the screaming kid down.

If you can hear it in your house it's your business.

Children make noise, adults make noise, cows and sheep make noise.

Even those pretty tweety birds make noise.

Live with it.

Or KILL them all, as then you'll be at one with your mardy arsed self.

And if that doesn't work.

Kill their dog.

Our baby cries sometimes. Fortunately for us/neighbors, not at night much, but it isn't like parents have complete control over when kids cry, the poor parents are probably at their wits end.

Unfortunately some babies cry for no obvious reason, and there its no way to fix that. It is annoying, but we've all been babies at one point, so I guess we should be tolerant of it.

Joe

could be teething ! post them some bonjela through the letterbox ! lol 😉

Or KILL them all, as then you'll be at one with your mardy arsed self.

Sure, that's exactly what I had in mind.

Chloroform would only cure for a day.

My advice is to go knock on the door and ask them if they can possibly keep the noise of the screaming kid down.

cows and sheep make noise.

Even those pretty tweety birds make noise.

Humans have evolved on such a way that their babies make a specific sound when in need of something, which adult humans find both annoying and difficult to ignore........that is the sole purpose of it.

On the other hand, humans find noises made by pretty tweety birds, cows and sheep, spectacularly easy to ignore.

Please don't hesitate to ask if you have any more questions regarding this fascinating species.

as parent to a 4 month old that refuses to sleep at all during the day and by 7pm has got so tired she has crying fits yet still fights it and can go on until around 11 (when she then drops off and sleeps through to 6-8am, which is great) I sympathise alot, I am in a similar situation, get home from work, screaming baby, and its hard. Big differnce being she is my kid so I have that bond and I have some control over my situation and we have now learned how to manage her and stop her crying at least for half hour to hour periods until the 'tantrum' passes and she nods off
There could be any number of reasons, colic (can be awful, we found Dr Browns anti colic bottles and a proper burping routine works great), teething (Ashton and Parsons powder), a deeper medical condition, to just needing attention. No one can really give you any advise as we have no idea on the child's or parents situation, are they the type that might just switch off and ignore their crying baby?
We also dont know your relation with your neighbours? If your on pretty good speaking terms then maybe a passing concerned comment may help? Do you have kids yourself may they see you as someone that could maybe give some advice to them?
Like you say there is a risk of stressing them out if you mention anything, but equally they could also be at their wits end themselves and desperate for any advise
the only thing I can really say is that in my experience when it gets to that demented hoarse yelling stage it is something quite wrong, be it extreme tiredness, hunger or discomfort from colic / teathing or whatever, the baby isnt crying for a trivial reason

Is that a Viz top tip? I'm sure they haven't thought that it might be a good idea if their kid made a bit less noise.

Genuinely, no. As I said in my post, cultural differences can make a big difference in what people see as acceptable noise.

No baby should cry all the time, if it does they should go see their gp, could be a medical problem.

asbo 8)

[s]As the stressed out parent of a screaming baby if you came round to my house and told me to shut it up I would punch you in the throat. A lot.[/s]

They probably know that their child is unsettled and are probably doing their best to quieten it down as they are probably not getting any sleep either.

What are you going to do? Have a chat with the baby? They don't have an off switch or a mute button.

lol mute button ! 😉
i guess you dont have kids of your own then muddydwarf....i guess you never will now that you are being put off by the normal screaming of a baby.... have a heart, poor little blighter ...not his fault he has to grow teeth ! so you never screamed as a baby ? hmmm thort not ? mr goody two shoes ! lol 😉

Our baby is screaming all night too.
We have teething under control with a number of potions, the colic was easy to get through, the RSV caused plenty of pain and a hospital trip as did the stomach infection. We also found the lactose intolerance which caused screaming all night and plenty of sick (health visitor reckoned he was a sicky baby rather than ill). Red meat ad soy milk seemed to cause similar problems all he is now up all night without the sickness and refusing to drink or sleep in the day.

basically if you are already mates with them already offer to help and spend some times researching the symptoms on the web as it is far better than any doctor. Otherwise keep well clear because at the moment if anyone fancied offering us advice they would be on the receiving end of 9months of suffering.

Three years ago our neighbours brought home their daughter. It got soo bad I had to restrain my missus from going round to tell them to shut it up (I was incredulous that she actually thought that would work.

Put a bookshelf/wadrobes against that adjoining wall- it'll help. Or move bedrooms.

Our neighbours keep the girl up until circa 9pm every night and she sleeps with them. Its not rocket science that the girl is stropping/cries alot STILL 😆

Ps. Its none of your business. Its not anti-social noise.

One thing I do know is that the baby shouldnt crying like that all the time, it needs something sorting.

Impossible to offer advice remotely, but teeth or digestion problems sound about right for that age range.

Wheely bin ????? 😉

i guess you dont have kids of your own then muddydwarf

lol indeed. I love that one. The great justification for parents who can't parent. muddydwarf can console himself that if he had kids, the screaming would be less annoying. Only, of course, yeah, it wouldn't.

muddy dwarf says : 'quote' I don't want to go knocking on the door as that will stress them out even more but its really bloody annoying now, been going on for a couple of months.

so he 'has thort' about knocking on the door and "so bloody annoying" ????? "its not of his goddam business !!!!!!!! not his child so why is it so 'bloody annoying'... ? move house if it bothers him so much ! lol
ps : been there, done that, got the t-shirt etc ! all kids scream (FACT)!

elaine anne me and the missus were from opposite camps.

She thought 'they are out of order'

I was.... 'are you crackers/mad/off your head' its not none of your business and what do you expect them to say 'ok sorry I'll just subdue the baby for you now'.
😆

How ironic that mrshora sees things in a TOTALLY different light now we have a 6month old lad 😀

Our first child used to cry loads and loads. She would also cry so forcefully that she ended up with an umbilical hernia.

The frequency of crying tailed off at about the age of 2.

She is 11 now and she still gurns at times now.

Some children are just like it unfortunately.

not all kids scream... have you not seen those nspcc adverts?? deadly quiet those kids are, parents must be doing something right? 🙄

on a serious note... i didnt scream as a kid, parents thought they were in luck til my sister came along. my neice is a super quiet baby too like i was, some kids are quiet, but i think they really are the odd ones out.

try blasting low frequency womb noises through the wall with a meaty subwoofer?

Apperently I was very quiet/good.

My missus was a banshee.

So 50:50 chance..

To be honest, my eldest is extremely lucky to have a younger brother and sister!

I can look back and have a [i]little[/i] laugh at it now.

I'd have checked up - might be something bad like one parent at home with the kid who fell into a diabetic coma or something, and the kid's unattended...

But you do get some bolx spouted about kids. My Father in law thinks that kids are just exercising when they scream for hours.. not that they're unhappy about something... 🙄

We measured ours with a decibel meter on a particularly bad day. At 1 metre, she is well above the safe noise levels where you'd be required to wear ear protection at work. Fortunately usually it is not for too long, although last night she did have a big inexplicable howl for quite a time, which was rubbish.

Joe

We're lucky - our 2 month old is brilliant and sleeps through the night now. I'm sure it'll be like this for the next 18 years....

^^^^

First one took a year to sleep through, groan!
Second one slept through after 6 months, getting better!
Third one slept through after 3 months, woohay!
However, she then woke up every night from the age of one to the age of 2, bah!

Ps. Its none of your business. Its not anti-social noise.

Of course it is, if it's audible in your house it's your business and antisocial. Now you have to be a little tolerant of such things if there's a problem with the kid but ultimately it's the parents job to see to the kid so that it's not screaming constantly and disturbing other people for unreasonable amounts of time.

I wonder if they have someone to ask advice from or are comfortable in doing so. Do they know many people here?

The good old standby?

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Move next older people?

We moved into a nice flat in Clifton, Bristol with kids below - no problem. Then a month later they moved to NZ and let mates stay in the house (no soundproofing at all). They had a rather unwell 3 month old and we didn't get a single nights sleep from then on and moved out as soon as we could.

It got to bad one night that I stamped on the floor in frustration. Didn't actually break my heels but I couldn't walk properly afterwards for 2 months - DOH DOH DOH!!

Imagine what the Parents are going through as well...

A lady director at work was telling me her youngest daughter constantly cried non stop for a year...

Her oldest daughter and youngest were good as gold.

Now the child has been diagnosised with stomach allergies and also short attention Syndrome but luckily they are well off and can pay extra for the care she requires to improve her health and learning.

Maybe the Chinese couple next door can't help the child.

My stupid Sister's first child cried like hell -while I visited and had a fever and she was feeding it Weetabix...FFS

Quickly took it off her and rehydrated the child and it stopped crying within a minute and fever went away after an hr.

Then there is the teething...Parents -I don't know how you put up with it and will never question you lol

A good Chiroprac will sort it out. I jest not.

See if somebody had come knocking on my door when my eldest had been going through her crying sessions I don't know what I would have done.

I think that my wife and I would have just looked at each other and said to the person, "You try and settle her down!", whilst handing little one over to them!

A good Chiroprac will sort it out. I jest not

i'm with Ho hum, if someone came knocking on the door asking me to quiet my child who was screaming for some reason and i had already tried to calm her, it may be the last straw and I would end up on an assault charge...think they may not have slept for days on end, they may not be thinking straight themselves.

But maybe someone coming around might offer to help? Maybe take the baby off their hands for a while even?

As a child I can remember going down stairs early one morning to find all the cushions from all the sofas piled in the middle of the room.

Putting a couple back to make early mornign tv watching more comfortable revealed my younger sister soundly asleep in her play pen.

I'm sure that this is child cruelty of a sort but my parents say she was just so bloody loud, and that they were so close to the end of their tethers, that this was the only rational thing left to do. 😯

I'm sure there are websites you could post of pic of your screaming child on, and someone would come and take it off their hands for a while...

A good Chiroprac will sort it out. I jest not.

If such a thing existed, perhaps.

We've got the same problem here. Kid next door yells and screams and sings and makes loud gibberish noises, except he's not a toddler, he's approaching his teens. Middle of the evening and all of a sudden you'll get "AAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRGGGH!!! AAAH! AH! AAAAAARGH!! OOOOOH DODODODOOO AAAARGGGGH!!!", drives me round the bend.

I get that from neighbors, but more on a Saturday night at about 3am as they drive their motorbikes home without helmets on...

As per Ho-Hum's suggestion...

At the age of 2 I was on a return flight from the US with my mum and dad. I cried non-stop for the whole journey. At one point the man sat next to my dad said "Can't you keep that child quiet?". My dad handed me to him and said "If you think you can do any better, you're welcome to try".

"Can't you keep that child quiet?"

"Yeah, of course, but I like that noise..."

Imagine what the Parents are going through as well...

Quite possibly nothing at all, some parents are immune to their own kids screaming, just like some people are immune to their dogs barking, or their teenage sons stereo. All need to be shot for the good sake of society 😆

Lots of interesting replies here 🙂

Actually quiet tonight - although i've just got in from a ride so he may have been yelling earlier.

I feel for the parents, they must be stressed to hell. Of course i'm not going to knock on their door & demand they keep the kid quiet, & no i'm not dobbing them in to the social either!
It's just the usual kids thing - bloody loud though.
The kid yelling i can cope with, the banging about at 1am last night was out of order though.