I’m taller and heavier. Your problem without doubt is flex. Unfortunately you’ve got numerous issues which are just causing a problem in the weakest component.
The hubs not ground up built for its use. The frames titanium and you’re not only heavy but tall.
The leverage point of the frame stays the same at axle height. More weight is more leverage on the frame. The higher the weight goes up. Even if its the same weight. The more stress on the leverage point. Being a heavy and tall is a perfect storm.
So basically your flexing at the bottom bracket and stays on a hub that’s not strong enough in the first place.
You also have to remember your wheels being wider and stronger also compound the problem because they’re stiffer. I’ve had rear wheels unlace themselves with a strong rim and flexible frame.
Seeing how quickly you’re having problems. My guess would be a different hub wouldn’t solve your problem. You need a stronger hub and frame. Most likely custom.
It’s not just about power to the back wheel because I’m not a powerful rider. You’re putting more stress on the components via leverage because we all rock a little. IMO this is proven in part by snapping going up hill.
Things need to designed differently when you’re bigger. But obviously bike stuff is designed for your average rider and a fat bike is already pushing the design limits.