You’ve not been looking hard then. I’ve seen some catastrophic alu failures, and some carbon bits crack ‘nicely’. I think you’re over reacting myself, the problem isn’t the material, it’s your perception of it. You feel that you’d be safer on a steel or alu frame, which is in part what matters, but it doesn’t necessarily change anything!
If it were me I’d have build the carbon one back up and be back riding it ASAP. In fact that’s what I did, after a bigger crash, and it was fine. It could have broken a couple of months later, but so could anything else!
However, the big thing is your confidence in it, and if that would be greater with a steel frame, go nuts!