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If you had a friend that asked you if you would consider donating sperm for them to use for IVF would you do it? Providing that you know they were in a committed long term relationship and knew they would be good parents.
Would it make a difference if you had not had children of your own yet?
Would it make a difference if the couple were both women?
This kind of came up with a friend lately and was wondering how it would make you feel and if you would do it?
why not? I waste enough of it, why stop someone else putting it to good use?
No I wouldn't and no friend should ever put anyone in that sort of position. I have several reasons that I'm not going to go into here, but I don't want to father a child that I have no hand in raising.
Why IVF ?? Why not the real thing ? 🙂
Do you get to 'insert' the sperm yourself!?
And the real answer is - no I wouldn't.
NOPE...er since they discarded the right to anomymity
My first thought was yeah defo ego boost, but I can see gonefishin's point...
I don't want to father a child that I have no hand in raising.
they discarded the right to anomymity
2 big points that lead me to a "no" answer, but if it was someone i knew/loved asking i'd have to think long and hard and there's no way i could predict what i'd end up deciding.
Yeh why not. I'd insist on making it naturally though.
"Oh, sorry. Did I not tell you I've had the snip?"
No way. Don't see a problem with anonymous donation, but it does make it rather more awkward when the child will actually know you.
Insist on a "quality test" of the sperm (blow job) then if approval is met, cut out the middle man and slam the meat direcly into the oven.
Possibly,but why couldnt they adopt, people buy second hand cars, houses etc, s whats wrong with previously owned kids,you also save 9 months of waiting.
Depends on which friend asked me,
Some of my friends I would not trust with a pet, let alone kids!
There are massive legal implications if you do this. I was at a series of lectures last week discussing the whole issue of non licensed gamete donation You should think very long on the subject and get some legal advice
Of course there is no legal implications for all 10 posts above just immaturity.
You expect maturity here? 😯
Surf-Mat - Member
Insist on a "quality test" of the sperm (blow job) then if approval is met, cut out the middle man and slam the meat direcly into the oven.
You have hit the nail on the head!
Oblique - why do they specifically want [b]your[/b] sperm?
"You expect maturity here?" no
This bloke got his fingers burnt rather badly in a similar situation to the one you describe: [url= http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/families/article2994783.ece ]link[/url]
Andy
God I've had countless requests for my sperm at dinner parties over the years - it must be my good genes.
My standard reply: "the world can only handle one of me" 8)
Of course there is no legal implications for all 10 posts above just immaturity.
ummmm, where's the immaturity in my post?
Oh come on phil,
long and hard
Yeah we get it 😉
Sorry philconsequence I lost your post in amongst the "jokers"
headfirst.... well spotted, i did think i wonder if it'll [b]cum across[/b] as a pun, but thought it would [b]slip in[/b] under the radar and not be noticed.
tonyg2003, no need to apologise you big willy head!! *sticks tongue out and pulls a funny face*
NOPE...er since they discarded the right to anomymity
I might be wrong but I thought that donations could no longer be anonymous anyway. Is there not a requirement for children to be able to trace biological parents in the UK now?
thanks for that artical Andy.
Sounds like the law has changed since his situation to protect the non-parent status of the donor. Obviously i would properly check that out if i did anything.
It is as some of you have described, on the one have it is an awsome chance to help a friend that i would think would be an ace mum (also slight ego boost). On the other seeing a kid grow up that is on a genetic level like me and not be a parent.
..father a child that I have no [b]hand[/b] in raising.
but but.....!
I think that's what he was referring to to Leffeboy.
The lack of anonymity would prevent me from donating both officially or otherwise.
As an aside, I'm quite good mates with [url= http://www.****/news/article-1202425/Gay-policemen-baby-sister-acts-surrogate.html ]these guys[/url] which was the other way around. Seems to be working very well for everyone involved at the moment - top parent's although I'm sure many would find the concept a little weird. They became sole legal parents to Will a couple of weeks ago - legal first.
Of course there is no legal implications for all 10 posts above just immaturity.ummmm, where's the immaturity in my post?
I'd be interested in knowing what part of my post rates as immature too.
Your 11 up fella
Assuming the friend is female I'd insist on making the donation to the spot myself...and hopefully get a fair few sh@gs out of it...
No issues from me...
Would you be able to use a photo of said woman friend, and her friend, whilst you were donating, to help things along?
i would if
a) i already had kids
b) they were proper hot lesbians and would let me inseminate them the old fashioned way, both at the same time 😈
Is there not a requirement for children to be able to trace biological parents in the UK now?
could they take you on holiday and you can knock the front doors in abroad? or does that still count?
i was once chased around a cottage on the isle of harris by a famous lesbian with a turkey baster, seeking a donation...
i declined to help out 😯
Charliemungus. well spotted.
Not sure I like my perfectly valid opinion and response being dismissed as immaturity.
I tried to find out about donating sperm once.
I was advised to wear a balaclava at all times and NEVER withdraw.
As it turned out, I'd been put through to the UVF by mistake.
If you were asked by a friend to donate, then exactly how the f*c* does anonymity enter the picture? As it happens, around six years ago a good friend, who's single, asked me if I would donate for a course of IVF for her. I was somewhat surprised, as might be imagined, and I agreed. Sadly, for her anyway, she didn't get pregnant for a variety of reasons, and could only afford the one attempt. £5000 is a lot of money, and her hotel business wasn't big enough to allow her to go further. Would I donate again? To a friend who I've known for many years and am very fond of, yes, without hesitation.
1) for some reason I read
asPossibly,but why couldnt they adopt
It really confused mePossibly,but why couldnt they adopt you
2) This thread is useless without pics
3) Can we just combine this thread with odannyboy's above - just turn it into one giant 'should I donate man juice in any form to people I know' thread?
If you were asked by a friend to donate, then exactly how the f*c* does anonymity enter the picture?
She might have lots of friends, and some blindfolds
Before donating you would need to come to an agreement about the child knowning who you were and at what age. Also to trust them to hold to that agreement.
More importantly, I think unless you go via a government registered fertitlity agency ie a fully legal procedure, you remain responsible for child support no matter what the informal or written arrangement with the mother was. It will be out of her hands and into the dreaded Child Support Agency.
So, not good for you if it turns out to be twins who want to go on to higher education... 20 years or so of double support payments. This sounds a joke, but its a serious consideration. If you end up having to pay child support you might find that your and your own future partner not only struggle to buy a house etc but cant afford to have any children of your own as a couple.
Remember how ruthless formerly decent people get over money in wills? It will be nothing in comparison to how they fight to 'get the best' for their child - if that means ruining you and your future to help their child, chances are they will take the money and run, as they will love the child more than they love you as a friend.
If you were asked by a friend to donate, then exactly how the f*c* does anonymity enter the picture?
Er, because your anonymity status is different than if you'd donated sperm anonymously. It's quite an important point really.
CharlieMungus, evil but marvellous!
Midnighthour has pretty much nailed it (ooo misses). As much as it would be great to do you could end up with the responsibility (legal) but with none of the joy of bringing up the child. It's tough because in many ways it does seem a good thing to do.