Hannah says: I have a conundrum of the most modern and first world variety. I need to decide what to do with my name when I get married next week. May …
Names? It doesnt matter what you choose, you will always be SingletrackHannah.
For what it’s worth, my daughter always used her maiden name professionally, and now her scoundrel of a husband has got his just deserts (hooray!) she only uses his surname when it is helpful to match the boys. If she marries again her new husband should change his surname to match her maiden name.
My wife retains her maiden name for all the professional reasons you do (but with the added Library of Congress hoity-toitiness of academia) my kids have my surname but were provided at birth with the same middle name (their birth mother’s maiden name) JIC they felt like they wanted a change. I don’t think anyone really cares no more, do the thing that feels right for you.
I’d go back to Reeve – it’s 2023 (and the Spanish have done this for centuries anyway, I think).
Can have an alias in your passport for travelling with kids (wife has this having retained her maiden name for all purposes apart from, oddly, getting post from her auntie)
Mrs The Spider kept her maiden name when we married. Kids have both of our surnames. Hers, then mine. They also have two forenames, so writing out any official documentation for them takes time and runs the risk of running out of those little squares.
Oh, and I got thread of the week again! So I have asked for the bottle opener to be sent to someone else.
my friends got married and generated a new surname – one Patchman and one Marchwood became Patchwood – but I think just generating a completely new one could also be good
Having no surname would be a right pain trying to fill in forms on the interwebs because a non-response in the surname field would generate an error message everytime…
First name; father’s family name; mother’s family name and the women never change their name on marriage. So Hannah would be Hannah Reeve + whatever her mother’s maiden name was.
Friends of mine got hitched and they both changed their name, creating a new family name. They became HerFamilyName-HisFamilyName. The names were only that way round because they sounded better like that.
Obviously they now have a pretentious middle-class hyphenated name.
My wife shed her ex-married surname and took mine. To get over the problem of her daughter having a different surname we changed her surname by deed poll to be double barrelled with my name (and now also her Mum’s) and her Dad’s name. Obviously with her Dad’s agreement.
It also helped when I had to show that I was guardian to my step-daughter as I had shared at least part of her surname.
my friends got married and generated a new surname – one Patchman and one Marchwood became Patchwood – but I think just generating a completely new one could also be good
The solution to the name problem is obviously anagrams.
Also, that Birzman shock pump would be good if it weren’t a 400psi one. The big gauge would add really useful subtletey to a lower pressure one buit if you’re going to 400psi you don’t care and if you’re going to 150 with a 400psi gauge the margins for error are massive so it doesn’t really matter.
Whilst I understand Hannah’s new name is maybe more prescient surely “Ex-Pat Fahzure” needs a new name more pressingly since they’re still using the name they’ve given up?
chap I work with has a double barrelled first name and second name. Not sure if he’s a redneck or posh.
It’s a fairly easy two part test:
are either of both first names better suited to being surnames – yes? Proceed to step two. no? Redneck.
Are either of the surnames anachronistic names for counties or similar (additional points for whole countries) – yes? Posh. No – grasping middle class.