Dont call me Babe.

I guess you might feel differently if there was a cultural legacy of men being belittled and discriminated against (and still got paid less for doing the same jobs).

I guess that would depend on whether I thought the bus driver(s) were belittling me and discriminating against me, which gives an indication of the chip on my shoulder, or was just being friendly.

round here they call you ‘shug’. no idea WTF it’s supposed to mean

Sugar?

I always find ‘chum’ gives an element of personalisation to any apology whilst leaving the recipient in some doubt as to whether it was used in freindly or slightly derogatory way.

I do you Sir / Ma’am when addressing people I do not know. ” Excuse me Sir – I’ll just squeeze past here”

Oh God – that’s it drain any form of friendliness/emotion/social niceties (hmmm, spelling?) out of life until we all just grunt at each other at the self-service checkouts….

jota180 – Member
They tend to call everyone duck around Notts/Lincs sort of area

Round my way it’s Me Duck or Me Old Boot (Beaut’, I think)…..Cambs/Lincs border….

I wish people would call me ‘honey, darling, moooyyy luvvarrr etc. a bit more often.

Bloke at work calls me sugartits; I go along with it but inside it makes me feel like an objectified piece of meat…… 😐 🙄 😀

All this proves, beyond any doubt, is that some people have too much ****ing time on their hands, and too few real problems to worry about

Just politely contacting my local bus company to let them know that I don’t like it when their bus drivers use terms such as “love”, “darling” and “babe”.

Yes… I believe its referred too as ‘moaning’

All this proves, beyond any doubt, is that some people have too much ****ing time on their hands, and too few real problems to worry about

It’s true. I mean, do they not have internet forums to fill with drivel? 🙂

some people have too much ****ing time on their hands, and too few real problems to worry about

thank goodness. 90% of the threads on here would vanish if we all had less time and bigger problems…

grum – Member

TJ I’m as common as muck and proud of it. How’s your po-face this morning?

Didn’t we go through this in another thread? Where you were claiming to be a ‘salt of the earth’ ‘common as muck’ type but to turned out you had a totally normal middle class upbringing?

Hahahahahahahahahaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Grandfather 1 – Labourer
Grandfather 2 – Gentleman’s-Gentleman (ie a valet)
Father – Cooper for 42yrs

My salt of the earth credentials are beyond question, but thanks for asking.

EXACTLY! 😀

I’m a bit worried now. I through casual endearments like that around all the time. I hear lots too “my dear” is common, “buddy/bud” seem to be catching on now too.

“Hen” isn’t as common as it used to be but as a specifically female term, maybe it us disappearing through fear of offence?

Well it’s the Guardian, what do you expect. Written by ****, read by ****.

why dont people just stare at the other person until they speak then copy whatever they say:

😯
‘erm, you ok mate?’
‘sure am mate, have a snazzy day mate’

or

😯
‘wot u starin at pal?!’
‘nothing pal, have a bombastic afternoon pallypal’

or

😯
‘dude, what?’
‘duuuuuuuude’
‘ahhh sweet’
‘stoked to meet you dude’
‘dude’

or

😯
😕
😯
‘you ok sweetcheeks?’
‘sure am wonderwilly’

Oh – working class through and through here.

working class folk everywhere talk like this.

And tossers, too.

I don’t like being called mate, regardless of the speaker’s social class.

I quite like the US practice where people call each other sir and ma’am regularly.

Druidh / McBoo – of working class descent maybe – working class now?

Thoroughly middle-class here, so I tend to use ‘you there’ 🙂

I was in ASDA the other day, absent-mindedly weighing up the relative merits of two near-identical chilled products, when three teenage girls resplendent in the local winter uniform of bikini and Uggs attempted to pass behind me. The lead fashionista went, “excuse me love,” and I dutifully sidestepped aside to better facilitate their passage, thinking nothing of it.

As they went on their way, I could hear the other two chittering to her in an excitable pitch barely audible outside of the canine world, “Oh my god, you called him ‘love’, ZOMGeleventyone etc.”

I’m sure I had a point when I started typing this, but I’m buggered if I can remember what it is now.

I’m going to start using “Blud” and “Bro”, particularly on those I perceive as elder and better than me!

Grandfather 1 – Labourer
Grandfather 2 – Gentleman’s-Gentleman (ie a valet)
Father – Cooper for 42yrs

My salt of the earth credentials are beyond question, but thanks for asking.

Think you’re leaving out a few facts from the other thread, but whatever. It’s funny isn’t it, people used to aspire to be upper class. Now everyone is desperate to prove how working class they are (as they sit on the Internet all day, not working, talking about their expensive mountain bikes).

I’m sure I had a point when I started typing this, but I’m buggered if I can remember what it is now.

Who cares. What were the chilled goods?

pathetic

Now I could see her taking offence if the driver said ‘pathetic’ rather than ‘cheers love’ when she got on/off. But perhaps she would prefer that…?

Maybe people who don’t want to be called by these terms shoudl wear a name badge at all times (Call me “Dave”, “Madam”, “Pet”, “****”) so that everyone they meet can greet them appropriately?

I quite like the US practice where people call each other sir and ma’am regularly.

Ideally they should stand and salute me too. 😉

Or just maybe the bus driver should have followed the common guidance for public service which is not to use these sorts of terms.

I was about to put one of these:

😀

next to this:

IHN – Member
Thoroughly middle-class here, so I tend to use ‘you there’

but then I read this:

Cougar – Member

I was in ASDA the other day, absent-mindedly weighing up the relative merits of two near-identical chilled products, when three teenage girls resplendent in the local winter uniform of bikini and Uggs attempted to pass behind me. The lead fashionista went, “excuse me love,” and I dutifully sidestepped aside to better facilitate their passage, thinking nothing of it.

As they went on their way, I could hear the other two chittering to her in an excitable pitch barely audible outside of the canine world, “Oh my god, you called him ‘love’, ZOMGeleventyone etc.”

I’m sure I had a point when I started typing this, but I’m buggered if I can remember what it is now.

and I think that also deserves a 😀

What were the chilled goods?

Ah, now we’re getting to the nub of the matter. I think I was buying cooked chicken for my OH, which as a vegetarian is never a simple task. I never quite worked out why you can buy legs and thighs and they’re different products. Do chickens have thighs on some other appendage than their legs?

Now everyone is desperate to prove how working class they are (as they sit on the Internet all day, not working, talking about their expensive mountain bikes).

😆

Could you quote us the exact paragraph and subsection please Uncle Jezza?

I’m a stickler for the that kind of thing. Standards must be maintained after all

The bus drivers should be on some sort of KPI based bonus scheme where the fewer complaints they get, the bigger the bonus.

And yeah, as well as ‘salt of the earth’ working class people, those terms are often use by, oh: mockney students, roided-up bouncers, ( ‘YES MATE?’), actual sexists, middle class mountain bikers trying to prove how ‘real’ they are….

does anybody else do bad impressions of stereotypical accents when saying things like ‘cheers love’ ‘owwwwight me owd muckahhh’ and ‘ello moi luvverrrr’?

Legs is the whole thing including the scaley but that would have been near their ankle.

Thighs is the bit twixt hip and knee.

hth.

I think I was buying cooked chicken for my OH, which as a vegetarian is never a simple task.

You were buying meat for a vegetarian? I can see how that would be tricky.

Now everyone is desperate to prove how working class they are

Lower-middle and proud.

I’m thinking of selling my bikes in favour of a sedan chair.

Does anyone object to using “My good man” when addressing others?

I should clarify,

When I say “I think I was buying cooked chicken,” what I mean is that I can’t really remember now, I’d have taken notes if I’d known there was going to be a test. I’m fairly confident that I was pretty certain what I was doing at the time, though I turned 40 this month so it’s entirely possible that I was trying to differentiate between a can of mushy peas and a four-pack of kitchen roll.

ds – wot if it’s a burd?