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Absolutely shocking, dispicable, and many other words not suitable….
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barnsleymitchFree Member
No doubt I'll be coming back to this post later. For now, I'm off to pick up my two (five and six years old) from school, and for once wont get on at them for being too loud or not eating their dinner. Life's too short, and innocence doesnt last long enough.
woody2000Full MemberReally Jamie? Have you seen it? It's violent, and it has children committing acts of violence.
barnsleymitchFree MemberTJ – sorry if I came over a bit defensive there, I just find it difficult to remain subjective on issues like this.
anagallis_arvensisFull Member've just been reading this in the paper. The thing that strikes me is where and how to kids of that age get the knowledge, inclination and nastyness to do such a thing?
I would imagine they have been abused themselves, deeply sad on so many levels
JamieFree Memberwoody2000 – Member
Really Jamie? Have you seen it? It's violent, and it has children committing acts of violence.Yes, but so does Lord of the Flies so what is your point? Or should that be held accountable as well?
woody2000Full MemberI didn't mean it was directly accountable, but kids are influenced by what they see, so it would be good if a little parental nouse was employed. IMO there's too much "ready violence" available to kids, games & movies all add to a sense of detachment from real pain and suffering that could be dangerous to vulnerable minds.
JamieFree MemberI didn't mean it was directly accountable, but kids are influenced by what they see, so it would be good if a little parental nouse was employed
Well if you had said the parents allowing the children to see a film, that is clearly certificated for 15/18s+, then i would have agreed with you. Whereas you just linked to a film saying it was not helping.
IMO there's too much "ready violence" available to kids, games & movies all add to a sense of detachment from real pain and suffering that could be dangerous to vulnerable minds.
There have always been complete lil' bastards out there, i would not say this is a indictment of children having sponges in their brains ready to soak up their latest set of violent instructions for life.
joemarshallFree MemberI didn't mean it was directly accountable, but kids are influenced by what they see, so it would be good if a little parental nouse was employed. IMO there's too much "ready violence" available to kids, games & movies all add to a sense of detachment from real pain and suffering that could be dangerous to vulnerable minds
If video nasties etc. really made any difference, wouldn't these horrible kid murders be becoming more common, rather than just happening every so often, same as they always have done?
Joe
coffeekingFree MemberWell if you had said the parents allowing the children to see a film, that is clearly certificated for 15/18s+, then i would have agreed with you. Whereas you just linked to a film saying it was not helping.
Isn't that immediately obvious from the outset though? Without parental (or other supervisory) mis-guidance they'd not be seeing the film.
There have always been complete lil' bastards out there, i would not say this is a indictment of children having sponges in their brains ready to soak up their latest set of violent instructions for life.
Correct, there have always been people more violent than others, thats kind of natural and obvious – variation. However having violence on screen and in the media so clearly obvious to kids and often graphically available is highly likely, surely, to creep into their consciousness and decision making. I mean advertising works just by recognition of wrappers/colours, you're telling me next time someone is faced with an argument the kid who's seen a dozen violent movies is LESS or equally likely to kick off than the quiet kid whos had no exposure to it? I dont think violent vids/games MAKE someone violent, but I think it certainly tends them towards it especially if already that way inclined.I'm fairly sure theres some solid scientific evidence towards that too.
these horrible kid murders be becoming more common, rather than just happening every so often, same as they always have done?
Who's to say they're not, for a start I suspect the recording and detail of such things more than 50 years ago was fairly poor, and since TV etc has only really been violent and obvious for what – 30 years, we don't really have anything statistically solid on which to base judgement, or with which to compare?
joolsburgerFree MemberEverytime I try and write an opinion on this i find myself at a loss for words. I can't think of something to say. I wonder how the people whos job it is to prevent this kind of thing happening even get up in the mornings let alone start to address these issues.
We do seem to be living in a society that increasingly devalues peoples dignity and has less of a demarcation line between kids and adults. Old fashioned values mean scurvy and world wars to me but there must be a way out of this?
woody2000Full Member@joe – No idea. Maybe it's too soon to say, after all ultra-violent games are a recent invention, as are video nasties (relatively speaking anyway).
SBrockFree Memberthe ironic thing is that when they get charged, imprisoned then serve their sentence they will get new identities (to protect them) WTF…… what about the poor victims… scarred for life.
I am sorry kids like that are just vile & disgusting, yes maybe the parents themselves are too blame – just makes me see that I'm a good parent and my kids have been bought up with good manners/morals like the majority of society.
The parents should be accountable, and why is the system always out to protect the guilty and not the innocent…grrrr don't get me started.
rsFree MemberTruly shocking, I immediately thought of that Eden Lake film too. Its probably the most disturbing film I have watched. If the kids are that screwed up there is a fair chance watching that film might give them the idea to do something similar. They may just be kids but they shouldn't get off lightly, I can't see that doing any good either.
simonfbarnesFree Memberand why is the system always out to protect the guilty and not the innocent.
perhaps because the perpetrators are far more likely to be meted out summary retribution than the victims ?
TandemJeremyFree MemberDp those of you that want them punished really think children of 10 and 11 should be charged tried and punished as adults?
barnsleymitchFree MemberJust managed to find out a bit more background. The mother of the kids that carried out the attack was, and presumably still is, an alcoholic. The father(s) are very much not on the scene. There is at least one other publicised incident where the two boys (whilst accompanied by the mother) were 'torturing' swans in a local park. When a guy asked them to stop, the mother told him to **** off. The media has already started pointing the finger at social services, etc, and it all looks like turning into an over publicised blame fest.
simonfbarnesFree MemberThe parents should be accountable
this is based on the fallacy that children take any notice of their parenats which any parent will tell you is not true (except slightly when in the presence of said parent)
TandemJeremyFree MemberSocial workers simply cannot get every case right – either its "cruel social workers breaking up families" Or its "social worker leaves child at risk in family"
Of course call me dave and the rest of the right wing numpties will sort this out buy starving social work depts of money and denigrating the social workers so that they all leave.
Haringey ( baby P case) has something like 30% vacancies in its child protection dept. This is not uncommen. underpay people and demonise them in the media and its no suprise no one wants to do the job.
rsFree MemberDp those of you that want them punished really think children of 10 and 11 should be charged tried and punished as adults?
Whats your solution to turn these kids into upstanding members of the community? do you even think that will ever happen or is even possible?
StevieFree MemberAbsolutely gut wrenching story, especially as I have an 8 and 9 year old nipper myself. I agree with a lot of the sentiment here, however I do strongly believe that the criminals out there (of whatever age) fear no consequence for what they do. Last week a little kid of about 10 lobbed a snowball loaded with a chunk of brick at my cars windscreen and nearly killed my whole family. I got out of the car and gripped the little shit who told me to eff off, told me there's eff all I could do and if I touch him he'll have me effing well nicked. In a posh middle class accent too, he was no oik. I wouldn't have done that in my day for fear of a slap, can't make out if that was a good or bad thing anymore.
StevieFree MemberHaringey ( baby P case) has something like 30% vacancies in its child protection dept. This is not uncommen. underpay people and demonise them in the media and its no suprise no one wants to do the job
Quite how you are going to pin that on the "Evil Tories" in beyond me. Haringey is Labour, as is the government IIRC. The lack of new social workers is a consequence of this governments policy.
TandemJeremyFree MemberRS – have a read ofthis and compare and contrast how we deal with this and how other countries do.
Att eh age of these children it is extremely doubtful the can be fairly dealt with in an adult court.
My solution?
In general more resources into social work depts to improve prevention. For these badly damaged children they need serious psychological therapy to attempt to turn them into useful members of socoiety. It can be done. Probably no more expensive than jail time. Obviously they will need very close supervision perhaps residential for some time.
I simply do not believe in the criminalisation of what is obviously very badly damaged children.
TandemJeremyFree MemberStevie –
correct. I did not mean to imply that the current situation is of the tories making ( apart from the right wing press witch-hunts of course) but as callmedave has made it clear there will be major cuts in budgets to fund tax cuts for the rich the situation will only get worse.StevieFree MemberErrrr-so has Alastair Darling said there'll be massive budget cuts. And let's be honest, Cameron has never, ever said that he'll cut budgets to fund tax cuts for the rich, that's a daft lie peddled by Ed Balls.
TandemJeremyFree MemberStevie – wake up and smell the coffee – all the proposed tory tax cuts will go to the rich – from the changes to married peoples tax to the changes to inheritance tax – all disproportionally to the rich.
Its tather an aside to the main point tho. I shouldn't have raised it.
StevieFree MemberWake up and smell the coffee yourself Jerry. I'll go and put on a pot for you while you tell me how proposing to remove tax credits from those on £50k or more as well as removing child trust funds for the same £50k+ earners benefits the rich. But there again, as you say, wrong thread anyways.
rsFree MemberTJ I read that article and to be honest I'm not convinced the Norway method was the correct one, It makes a big deal out of the bulger killers having a hard time adjusting to life, oh what a shame! 🙄 I have kind of mixed views, I mean, at 10 years old you obviously don't think things through properly but equally they killed a 2 year old kid, they shouldn't just expect to go back to normality. In the Norway case why should they go back to normality one week after stoning a child to death? How they were thought of as victims I don't know.
StevieFree MemberHere's a point to consider-are these kids or any others born bad? Are there some people who are actually evil and beyond help?
TandemJeremyFree MemberRS – the simple fact is that the Norway approach means a great chance of the offending children ending up as productive members of society.
]There is no deterrence in treating children as criminals. Rehabilitation does not rely on them being criminalised. Do you really think a civilised society needs retribution on damaged children?
kimbersFull Memberthe perpatrtors of this werent born bad they can be considered victims also, despite their crimes
from the bbc
The boys' mother, who has seven sons including the two defendants, described to a consultant psychiatrist being subjected to serious violence by their father.
Mr Kelson described one incident when her partner said he would "take a knife to her and slice her face to bits".
He added: "These threats were made in front of the children."
The barrister said his client's upbringing could be summarised by a reference in one report to his "toxic home life".
Mr Kelson said his client had been shown horror films at his home when he was as young as 10.
Police video shows the route the boys took before and after the horrific attack
He said the films were "extremely violent" and "gruesome movies in the extreme".
The barrister said the boy also had access to his father's pornographic DVDs.
Mr Kelson said his client would also drink cider, had 10 cigarettes a day and smoked cannabis grown on his father's allotment from the age of nine.
they never really stood a chance of having a normal life did they
leffeboyFull Memberjust as background I seem to remember that the kids had largely been left to fend for themselves as their mother was drug addicted – they had to spend time hunting for both food and clothes in bins. I can't imagine having to do that as 8 yr olds. By the time they hit foster care they were unmanageable (by most foster parents I guess). Not trying to excuse what they did, just pointing another big fat finger at the original parents.
has to be a link here somewhere, there ya go http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2009/sep/06/edlington-attack-children-social-workers
simonfbarnesFree Memberjust pointing another big fat finger at the original parents.
except that's a great cop out. We already know the parents are deeply damaged too, so blaming them has no useful function, and is merely passive, or pointlessly active if you try to punish them in the aftermath
crikeyFree MemberWhy is anyone even surprised by this?
We have a society where we create an underclass of people, where life chances are non existent for some families and we ignore them until events like this occur. It would end up cheaper for us to have sent these kids to which ever private school you choose rather than attempting to lock them up after the fact.
To deal with it requires a massive, massive investment that must be sustained and increased year on year, and which, if it works will look like wasted money.
We live in a society which is quite happy to demonise kids like this, even though they are the product of two or three or four generations of poorly educated, probably mentally ill parents and grandparents…
To summarise, they're not evil; they are damaged.
leffeboyFull MemberWe already know the parents are deeply damaged too, so blaming them has no useful function, and is merely passive, or pointlessly active if you try to punish them in the aftermath
It's only useful in that it helps mitigate the natural reaction to want to punish the children as severely as possible, they aren't completely responsible for how they have ended up. You're right it that it would be pointless to punish the parents in the aftermath
rsFree MemberYou're right it that it would be pointless to punish the parents in the aftermath
thats almost like saying it would be pointless to punish a murderer after he has killed. It is clearly their upbringing thats made them what they are, although at the same time i'm sure you can have posh kids turn into evil little shits too.
Whatever caused it, something has to be done to stop them re-offending whether it be locking them up or counselling, probably a combo of both. They shouldn't be excused of all responsibility.
simonfbarnesFree Memberthats almost like saying it would be pointless to punish a murderer after he has killed
but that's probably true too! Does punishment ever work ? Doesn't it just foster resentment ? Certainly brutalising people is unlikely to improve their behaviour. Locking someone away may prevent their scope for bad behaviour, or perhaps just focus it onto other offenders, but without other rehabilitation it may well just make them more careful not to get caught next time.
B.A.NanaFree MemberAccording to BarnsleyMitch post above, it appears similar to the Mary Bells crime, where the child is massively influenced by the actions and attitude of the parent. In the case of Mary Bells, her mother was a prostitute who specialised in S&M, whipping, mock strangulation etc. Mary was regularly exposed to it, so she ended up strangling another kid.
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