When was the last time you properly lost your rag

I reckon this place is a hotbed of pent up frustration, and classic passive aggressive behavior, judging from some of the posts 😉

So… when was the last time you really went off the deep end with somebody? What provoked it? And after going ballistic, did you actually feel any better for it?

Not talking violence here, just assertiveness that may have ended up getting a bit shouty.

Only once this year. Ended up in a fist fight with another driver.
Had a word with myself, won’t be doing that again.

Very good friend in a very bad mood whilst out on the bikes. He was blatently lying about something and I simply pointed it out. He got overly agressive and was in my face (which I put up with). Then he started prodding my chest (which I also put up with). Then he said ‘You’re lucky you’re an old man’ I flipped and beat the crap out of him..

End result there are now two seperate group rides on a thurday night which can get a little uncomfortable when said seperate groups run into each other.

I am quite ashamed of it though.

I flipped and beat the crap out of him..

End result there are now two seperate group rides on a thurday night.

I bet everyone else had fun choosing ‘sides’ 🙁

Elzorillo recently.

Do inanimate objects count?

Saturday afternoon visit to cinema, nobody staffing the ticket desks.

Had to use a touchscreen ticket machine that kept going wrong for the privilege of paying £27 for two tickets to see Skyfall. Did shout at the machine a bit.

This is in an outer London suburb next to a retail park, not Leicester Square.

£27!

No wonder they don’t have the nerve to show their faces.

1986, the bloke still avoids me!

I bet everyone else had fun choosing ‘sides’

Luckily it all happened during a ride, so everyone saw the lead up. I appologised the next day but he was having none of it. 6+ years ago and he still wont speak to me.

5 minutes ago when trying to get a teabag out and a bit splashed on the counter

Yesterday outside the City ground with a black cab driver. A Policeman asked me to move as my car was blocking traffic. Oops.

6+ years ago and he still wont speak to me.

I can’t think why.

Never.

i’m going through s protracted court case to get to see my kids (3 years). there have been many, many occasions which should quite rightly have made me go ballistic, but its not an option. i’ve become a master at “learning to live with it”. i’m not sure what affect its having on me tho, my hair’s definitely greyer

6+ years ago and he still wont speak to me.

I can’t think why.

Really? I’d say that if someone is prodding you in the chest while gobbing off at you, then they surely can’t be that surprised if they get a slap? What did they think was going to happen?

the last time was in brum in summer, I was skating with a few lads of varying ages I was the oldest and the next oldest was 30 and then a few teenagers, a group of yoots comes up to us and starts telling us to give them money, one of the younger guys gets out his wallet and starts giving these little pricks his money… so i see this from across the square and saunter across to see if everything is cool, when the yoot tells me I’d better **** off or he’ll be “wetting me up” i take the £10 note out of his hand that the kid had just given him, and invited him to “wet me up” (I’m frothing by now at the cheek of this 20 something) at this point he pulls a knife out with a 3 inch blade, tells me if i don’t **** off he’s going to “wet me up” I smashed him in the face and the rest of his little possee ran away.. yes it felt good.

Not talking violence here, just assertiveness that may have ended up getting a bit shouty.

This morning. Car driver leaned on the horn and gave me a lot of verbal on his way past, having first slowed down for me when I signalled I was going across his front at a point where loads of cyclists were filtering right and cars were filtering left at the same time. Somewhere near the Oval, I think.

As I recall, “Stick it up your arse and **** off” were my very words.

Of course, we both stopped at the next set of lights, where I had to (more or less) repeat myself.

Not today, Mary. I’m not in the mood.

A slap errr maybe, “beating the crap out of them” not really.

Ok I can’t recall the last time I really lost my rag, get a bit shouty on rare occasions but even then it’s rare. Don’t see the point in loosing your temper I have no respect for anyone who does that for no just reason. As for slapping or beating someone up, no come to think if it can’t think of any reason why during an argument.

I rarely lose my temper but when I do I really do. The last time was at a cinema about 3 weeks ago. A group of 3 teenagers had snook into a screening of Argo. I knew they’d jus wondered in from another film as Argo was 40 minutes in.

For 15 minutes they were chatting, texting, calling their mates on their phones, play fighting with one another, swapping seats, throwing food at one another, basically just ruining the film for everyone else. I was getting more and more agitated until I snapped so I marched down to where they were sitting, walked down the row behind them and I quietly said “if you don’t go I’ll throw you out”. One of them just laughed and said “f### you dickhead, what you gonna do?” Red mist followed by me grabbing one of them by his collar and dragging him along the row towards the door whilst his mates protested and tried to grab me. Got him to the door and pushed him out whilst his mates continued to scream and shout. I just stood by the door blocking their path when a couple of attendants walked over and asked what was going on. I explained, they protested and when they were found to have no tickets they were kicked out. On the way out one of the cinema staff apologised to me and offered me 2 free cinema tickets and then explained the 3 youths had been arrested after they were kicked out as they had assaulted a woman in the foyer and then hid in the screening.

I wasn’t exactly proud of my actions, I should have just had a word with one of the staff but I was just so angry. Thankfully I’ve avoided actual fights with people but I think that in part comes down to being 6’4 tall with a reasonable build. I’m far from being a hard man but most people who I’ve had an argument with haven’t wanted to risk taking it up a notch so it often subsides before it really gets out of hand.

Over 3 years ago.
The ex knew how to flick that switch.

Ive since learnt to rid myself of negative people and walk away from situations that could work me up.
41 years old and still not had a fight, which I plan to keep that way.
If I can’t talk myself out of something I walk away before my rag does.

To the point of violence- school [ primary] so about 30 years ago

To the point of ranty shouting probably once per year.

Very occasional shout at a driver, once or twice at current boss.

I reckon this place is a hotbed of pent up frustration, and classic passive aggressive behavior, judging from some of the posts

i think you’re right, binners, judging from some of the above 😉

I have a customer at the moment, who seems to rub me up the wrong way. obviously it’s all internal as I have to remain professional and calm but, FFS!! It’s a 4hr easy job for me, you’d think we were building a nuclear submarine! She’s already postponed the job 4 times with no more than 2 days notice so I couldn’t book other jobs in. starting to get a bit angry now to say the least (last time was 5 minutes ago)

Yesterday outside the City ground with a black cab driver..

Come on, no need to bring his race into it 😉

I’m currently holding myself back from having a go at my sister-in-law.

Last weekend our daughter went to stay at her house with her cousins. During the stay she let all the kids play unsupervised on a trampoline with no net in icy conditions. The end result being my daughter fell off, dislocating and fracturing her elbow!

So any normal person would see the injured child and take them to A&E – no, not her. She dropped all the kids off at her mothers as she was running late for work and left the problem with them. She was clearly in a great deal of pain, but she says she thought ‘she had just bruised it’.

Needless to say I am **** livid, but I know if I start on her it will turn into a hate fueled rant (for lots of reasons I’m not very keen on her anyway!) and do the rest of the family no good at all.

Few weeks ago on a ride with the kids. We’d stopped for a bit of a picnic. A guy couldn’t understand why i tookoffence to his dog trying eat stuff out of my 2 year olds hand. He was offering me out and being proper abusive, infrnot of our and his kids. I came very close to lamping him but some how kept it to just shouting!!

I’m currently holding myself back from having a go at my sister-in-law.

Giggidy!

walking across the road a couple of weeks ago, pushing my son in his buggy, green man was on. I was in the middle of the road and a car comes past within a foot of the buggy having gone left at the crossing where there was no left turn.
I wasn’t going to do anything as I was glad we hadn’t been hit by the car, but I saw him pull over up the road and felt my blood began to boil.
I walked up the road, knocked on his window and calmy told him what he’d done wrong. He was completely oblivious to what he’d done, lit up his fag and kept saying he was sorry, and that he was old… as if that was an excuse for nearly mowing us down.
I could sense a rage coming on (something I’m not familiar with) so was giving him my parting statement about taking more care, and his phone rang… he only went and answered it. Something snapped and I went ballistic, leaned into the car and started pointing and shouting incoherently about CCTV, losing his license, number plates and other unpublishable things. He just seemed so feeble of mind, and wasn’t reacting apart from saying “I’m old” so just short of dragging him through the window and pushing him under a bus, I walked off twitching with rage. Took me about 30 minutes of pacing around before I’d calmed down.
I didn’t like being like that, but it’s nice to know there’s a rage inside of me should I ever need it.

A slap errr maybe, “beating the crap out of them” not really.

Sorry.. maybe I described it wrong. I was about 40 at the time. I’m 5’11 12.5 stone.. he was about 25.. 6’5 aprox 18 stone. He liked to use his size to menace people. I had him coming down on me.. poking me in the chest and calling me an old man. I am a very chilled person but ashamedly I lost it and hit him a couple of times.. he went down. My mistake was assuming when he got up, that he was coming at me so I hit him a couple more times and he went down again. To which I gently kicked him (more of a nudge but he called it a kick) and called him something derogatory (no idea what it was). Then I got on my bike and left.

(that sounds just as bad 😳 )

when i was 18. ended up having a all inclusive holiday for a couple of months for it….. 🙁

He does sound like an arse I give you that.

Ok I can’t recall the last time I really lost my rag, get a bit shouty on rare occasions but even then it’s rare. Don’t see the point in loosing your temper I have no respect for anyone who does that for no just reason.

Just last night I got asked to play in a badminton match for some friends to fill in for someone. It’s just a mini league sort of thing at uni, real friendly and casual, all the teams have stupid names, that sort of stuff. The majority of the players can barely hit the shuttle, but everyone has fun.

Anyway, early on in the first game, and this dude on the other team is getting real frustrated when he makes mistakes – which I think is pretty normal, everyone hates making mistakes. But it escalates really quickly, and after about 10-15 minutes of playing, he throws his racket across the hall, hard enough to smash it into several pieces when it hits the wall. At this point he gets a racket from someone else and continues to play, but pretty much having a mini tantrum after every rally that they lose (we beat them 15-9 and 15-6 or something).

Had another game after that, much of the same. After the second game he stormed off. Apparently he’s quite normal outside of badminton, but whilst I found the entire thing hilariously pathetic and thought he was a complete tool, he could be real intimidating to newer players. Wouldn’t want to play with him.

brakes – I always imagine myself grabbing their car keys and dropping them down a drain in that situation. Not sure if I would/could or not.

I think ‘on behalf of my children’ is when I become most wound up. If I see someone has done/is doing them wrong or potentially injuring them it’s very difficult to stay calm.

there are a lot of angry people here ! “Alone” time may help your anger…

brakes – Member
walking across the road a couple of weeks ago, pushing my son in his buggy, green man was on. I was in the middle of the road and a car comes past within a foot of the buggy having gone left at the crossing where there was no left turn.
I wasn’t going to do anything as I was glad we hadn’t been hit by the car, but I saw him pull over up the road and felt my blood began to boil.
I walked up the road, knocked on his window and calmy told him what he’d done wrong. He was completely oblivious to what he’d done, lit up his fag and kept saying he was sorry, and that he was old… as if that was an excuse for nearly mowing us down.
I could sense a rage coming on (something I’m not familiar with) so was giving him my parting statement about taking more care, and his phone rang… he only went and answered it. Something snapped and I went ballistic, leaned into the car and started pointing and shouting incoherently about CCTV, losing his license, number plates and other unpublishable things. He just seemed so feeble of mind, and wasn’t reacting apart from saying “I’m old” so just short of dragging him through the window and pushing him under a bus, I walked off twitching with rage. Took me about 30 minutes of pacing around before I’d calmed down.
I didn’t like being like that, but it’s nice to know there’s a rage inside of me should I ever need it.

You seem to have got angrier about how he interacted with you than the initial danger to your kid.

brakes – I always imagine myself grabbing their car keys and dropping them down a drain

I spent a lot of time thinking about it afterwards and what I should have done, and that was one of the things.

You seem to have got angrier about how he interacted with you than the initial danger to your kid.

I did. Weird isn’t it. I was shocked at first and then I guess the sheer horror of what could have happened sunk in combined with this guy being completely oblivious to what had happened.

My old schoolmates dad always had a reputation for being a bit hot headed..

He picked us up once in his van. As he was driving along someone did something to force him to break sharp (no idea what). My mate/his son, banged his head on the dash. His dad calmly got out the van, walked around the back and knocked this fella out cold without a word spoken, then got back in the van and we drove on. 😯

Yesterday.
Just finished getting the Syncro ready for it’s MOT as it went cold and dark.
Took it for a quick spin round the block only to snap the handbrake cable.
Stripped the rear hub under the light of a headtorch – cables were rotten and it had been into a garage for a full strip & check including rebuilding the back brakes less than a year ago.
Ended up tapping the gate post gently with a lump hammer.

Only other time was at Uni in a post party ambush by some townies (28 years ago).

I did become very wound up in a similar situation to Brake, I was crossing the road after seeing it was clear. I’d seen a woman pull over about a 100 yards up the road to check out a space, as there’s was less than 3 miles either side of her car she couldn’t get in the space. So she pulled away at unnecessary speed towards me and then had to jump on the brakes to avoid hitting me, my eldest holding onto the buggy with her sister in and me pushing the buggy.

I got very very annoyed and sweary. She screamed about it being a road which is for cars only and that over there is the pavement for pedestrains, so I marched toward her window at this point shouting and swearing. So took off again at speed nearly hitting a parked car and pulling in front of another.

There was lots of people watching this happen, took me a very long time to calm down and had her registration but never passed it to the Police. However, that’s not an argument that’s some idiot nearly squashing my kids, good luck with anyone not losing their temper in that situation.

wrecker – Member
Only once this year. Ended up in a fist fight with another driver.

It’s the winning, not the taking part in these situations. 😉