Despite my actions and choices on this one if I or my kids broke something at someones place I'd pay for it without hesitation. It seems to me to be the right thing to do. Personal responsibilty and all that.
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Slight moral dilemma
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Posted 8 months ago #
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Personally I would not buy a £500 stylus because of the risk that it would get damaged. If I did had one I would keep it under the cover at all times, or keep a cheaper one on!
Its your decision to have such a ridiculously expensive item somewhere where it can get broken and if I were you I would not take any money of the neighbour.
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Personal responsibilty and all that.
Maybe you didn't read my post right. I was happy to take responsibility but there was really no need to alert us of the issue as soon as we got home, if at all.
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there was no need to call us it's not like they're hard up or anything.
Ah, that's different then. "My kid damaged their sofa, but they're loaded so balls to them."
I was happy to take responsibility but there was really no need to alert us of the issue as soon as we got home, if at all.
Not sure how you can take responsibility without them telling you what happened?
Stains are best treated immediately, before it has time to fix, so finding out what it was ASAP would have been pretty important. Maybe you're just not explaining things that well here, but I'm struggling to see why you feel so aggrieved about something that was, frankly, your own negligence in not supervising your kids properly.
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Maybe she wanted to get rid of the stain before it became too permanent?
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Jools; I can totally understand and relate to your dilemma here, but I think you're doing the right thing by just taking it on the chin. Unless your friends are very wealthy, I really think a bill for five hundred pounds is the kind of thing which could damage a friendship, so you're doing the far better thing.
Of course, the lady may need to feel she's made amends, so maybe a happy compromise would be to say 'well actually it will cost £x if you insist on paying', but obviously not tell her the real amount. £X can be an amount you feel she would accept as suitable recompense.
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I broke my friends sun glasses, £150 worth ish. I said I would replace them, he said it was an accident and not to worry. In the end we split the bill and ended up paying about £75 each. This seemed like a reasonable compromise and one that I would happily do again. By the same token, if he had said "thanks, they were £150" I would also have paid this, I broke it so I expect the cost of fixing it.
Re. the kid drawing on the sofa, the sofa was fine before your kid got anywhere near it so why would they not want some help to fix it? Your kid, your problem.
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Re. the kid drawing on the sofa, the sofa was fine before your kid got anywhere near it so why would they not want some help to fix it? Your kid, your problem.
It all comes down to what's more valuable to you - your precious little posessions, or peoples friendship/relationship ...
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cinnamon_girl - Member
Hmmm, difficult one. How much do you value their friendship?
Or indeed, how much does she value your friendship?
Personally, I wouldn't want a friend that wouldn't put right something they broke - accidentally or not.
Posted 8 months ago # -
I once witnessed a lady customer in a HiFi shop get a right bollocking from a sales assistant; "STOP, NOOOOO, DON'T TOUCH IT!!!!!" as she reached for the record player.
Needless to say the shop emptied pretty quickly thereafter!
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£500 is a lot of money, I'd be your friend for £350.
Waddya say?
Posted 8 months ago # -
I think you made the right decision. But £500 for a needle ... can you really say that you notice the difference of it and the a £175 one? really ?
This must send a chill up your spine then:
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I can get an OK replacement for £175 which is fine
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How about suggesting she buys you a bottle of brandy or Scotch then at least that way she will feel a little better?
Or at least not be able to notice the difference!
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I don't get it. You can afford to spend £500 on a stylus, but then your too tight to pay for insurance that adequately covers you. Ie you went for a high excess to lower your premium.
That's just rubbish.
If his expensive stereo is anything like my expensive bike he blew every penny he could afford on the best kit he could get. I spent 6 months wages on the bike plus bits of overdraft, for all we know the OP did the same. Now nothing left for insurance/repairs.
Sometimes those with the really nice kit have the least cash, just a really nice piece of kit and different priorities.
Doesn't answer the question mind...Posted 8 months ago # -
Glad that it's worked out OK for the OP.
For what it's worth I think it is best to suck it up in these situations. £500 is a lot of money in anyone's book but on balance, over the course of a lifetime, is it worth more than a friendship? Patently not.
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Actually, come to think of it, we've all been trolled because if you spend 500 pounds on a cartridge then you don't have friends, at least not ones that don't know about hi-fi, and especially not ladies. (Unless you're a superstar Dee-Jay?)
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