Shall I sell my Ex's car whilst she's just jetted off for 2wks with another man?

IF I was the OP I think I’d become a hermit, sell everything and live in a yurt, shunning all human interaction.
Clearly whoever he gets involved with be it personal or professional just seems to turn into a disaster, if his posting history is anything to go by.

This has almost as much potential as the 19 year old and the hired (but non-insured) R32 thread on pistonheads!

Link please 🙂

Sell the car.

In fact, sell your house, move to another town, change your phone number. Hell, emigrate. I hear Australia is nice this time of year.

In short, RUN! She sounds like a complete disaster area.

While you’re at it, give yourself ten hail Marys for getting yourself in this mess.

Hell, emigrate. I hear Australia is nice this time of year.

Nope, it’s shit. Don’t come here 😀

I think she has 2 options.

a) she pays up and keeps the car, puts the finance in her own name or whatever
b) you sell it and give her back what she put into it.

I think out of courtesy you should tell her what you plan to do and give her the option of taking the car (and the finance) off you, whilst reimbursing you for anything you have paid towards it. She should, however, get what she has put in to it back.

She hasn’t behaved very well at all, but that does not mean that it’s ok to withhold money or sell her car without notice. Two wrongs not making a right and all that….after I left my ex partner, he left me paying off a loan that I’d taken out for him to help because he was in mortgage arrears, stating that I “forfeited the money when I left him”. Money and relationship issues are separate things IMO.

Link please

http://www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&f=23&t=1316567&mid=49649&nmt=Got+stopped+driving+without+insurance+in+an+R32+please+help%2E

Was a good read for a couple of days.

Has there been a follow up thread with any updates?

She hasn’t behaved very well at all, but that does not mean that it’s ok to withhold money or sell her car without notice.

It may very well transpire that it never was her car, he just let her use it

Flippin heck, the PH thread is now at 40+ pages! I was on top of it until about 20… Gives me something to read at lunchtime…

OP – sell the car, everything of hers that you might be in possession of etc. Forget about it. Move on… Sounds like a slag.

How old are you? Forgive me, but you sound very young. I’d say you have your own psychological issues which keep you drawn to this girl. I think you may have low self esteem and little or no self-confidence. Do you come from a troubled home background? Sympathies.

This girl is poison for you. I know it’s all exciting – fighting and then amazing making- up sex, but it’s doing your head in.

Sell the car, if it really is legally yours, give her some of her stake back – maybe a grand – she can easily get new wheels with that. And never have anything to do with her again.

Do you come from a troubled home background? Sympathies.

This has to be a contender for most patronising post EVER on STW, no?

This thread has such potential, please don’t let it fizzle out…

She has been knobbing him for months – you don’t on vacation “just like that”

Sell the car. Shag her best mate …

If she’s reasonable and you’re up for it, maybe ask her for the main key when she gets back from her… friend… holiday? It’ll be tough to flog that bad boy otherwise.

She has been knobbing him for months – you don’t on vacation “just like that”

I would. 😳 But, then, I haven’t been abroad in 10 years, so I’m an easy crack target.

Surely taking the car on a tour of the local dogging spots and leaving some used “Evidence” in the back would be suitable.

Don’t forget the note “Apologies I had to use the car as mine was having a service and I needed to keep up my appearances. I’ll clean it when I get chance.”

The V5 is not proof of ownership, only who the registered keeper is. If there is outstanding finance on it, then much like a house it belongs to the finance company. You can, without prejudice return the vehicle back to Toyota and call-in the loan irrespective of Insurance and V5 details. Tell her to bog-off

I can guarantee you that she WILL NOT keep up any repayments – first 2-3 months she will, then she will be short one month, then nothing the next…. been there done that, so has a mate..

To the OP: to correct Shibboleth’s incorrect interpretation: I am not patronising you, just extending an empathetic virtual hand is all.

dooosuk – Member
http://www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&f=23&t=1316567&mid=49649&nmt=Got+stopped+driving+without+insurance+in+an+R32+please+help%2E

That R32 thread is just getting good – I’m 7 pages in and new evidence indicates it could be genuine – who knows how it’ll end!

It must be a pretty tough thing to go through knowing that she’s away with someone else. If I was in your position I’d like to think that my advice to myself would be to maintain my dignity and show the respect that she should have shown to you. But I think that if you wait and tell her of your wish to separate and get rid of the car/debt on her return then she’ll play to your emotions to keep what she wants.
So maybe tell her, prepare yourself her response and then do what you need to sever ties. For what it’s worth, I’ve never been able to do that with any degree of ease so good luck.

Sell the car, buy a 9 year old Yaris and give it to her to cover her loss. Find out what colour she likes first. Probably best not to go back her to be honest, sounds like a pattern….

Sell the car and buy her a biscuit, more like.

I think she has 2 options.

a) she pays up and keeps the car, puts the finance in her own name or whatever
b) you sell it and give her back what she put into it.
c) just say sorry and let the loser OP keep paying for the car whilst being a bit more discrete about her “back-waxing” activities

Don’t sell the car; it isn’t yours. Nor is it hers with the finance I assume is outstanding. £200 a month on a new car? No doubt there is a balloon payment at the end, too.

Read the small print on the Finance docs, there will be clauses for getting out early. Don’t expect them to be great for you; usually 50% of payments trigger a release.

The best you can hope for is to walk away with nothing.

And keep walking, plenty more fish on the beach and everything. She’s toxic.

The Piston Heads R32 thread link is epic. It just keeps getting better and better, a real roller coaster and worth a read. I followed it live and I couldn’t believe the sheer stupidity of some people.
Back on to Roller Girl…. She’s a guaranteed wrong un so walk away with what little dignity you have left. You’ll need it to drive the Yaris 🙂

shermer75 – Member
Sell the car, buy a 9 year old Yaris and give it to her to cover her loss. Find out what colour she likes first. Probably best not to go back her to be honest, sounds like a pattern….

I think you mean find out what colour she likes and then get one in a violently different shade?

Dear OP,

You have made our day, on top of a great thread read , dozens of male STWers now feel so much better about their own relationships , many thanks( toddles off to make missus a cuppa and gives her a cuddle)

My tuppence ha’ppeny – ring finance company explain situation and possibly give the car back , DONT go back to her as she is gonna shaft you financially and emotionally
Another one will be along soon enough who will actually respect monogomy

You own it and financed the debt then pull your socks up and sell it !
And put the money in your Daughters account.

another charmer who goes to the roller rink she works at has seen a crack and gone for it. 😯

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GROW. SOME. BALLS.

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GROW. SOME. BALLS.
And get them waxed.

Surely this is an option – soup kitchen!

That PH thread was a disappointment in the end. Went all STWish and got closed. Now we’ll never know…

Check the finance, if it’s less than 14 days ago you may be within the cooling off period.

hypnotoad – Member

Check the finance, if it’s less than 14 days ago you may be within the cooling off period

Try actually reading the first post in the thread before making usefuluseless suggestions.

Check the finance, if it’s less than 14 days ago you may be within the cooling off period.

Wow.

Didn’t even read the first post.

Well played sir 😉

Waynes World- you know its got an underground cult following? You’d think by now people would find it abit dated/sad.

Cassandra…sha-wing!

Move the car to a mate’s house where you can park it out of sight? It’s yours after all. Then you get time to sort out finances and sell / return or whatever. And she can’t do nothing.

You idiot O.P.

Sell the car and dump the b&tch.

Move on with and there are plenty of fish out there.

You love her. She doesn’t love you. You found out. Thank god. It hurts but you’ll live.

Never date a woman who is just divorced! Wait till a year min or you’ll be the rebound.

Keep all receipts and loan details in case she takes you to small claims court for the car.

MICK

sell the car and move on. cut the ties and be happy.

that 200 quid a month can buy you alot of things. put it towards a new bike or a holiday for yourself and go enjoy yourself instead of making yourself ill over something which isnt going to work….EVER

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