Online dating help…

(for all the doubters, shoot me down, but 90% of the time, this works ALL of the time ;))

I better dig out my Sex Panther aftershave.

What happens when you meet for the first time and tnink they are nice but I dont fancy them at all. Whats is Lurve meister Shibs advice for that?

Whats is Lurve meister Shibs advice for that?

Er, tell them?

(sorry that’s my advice!)

I just said, “I don’t think we’re destined for romance” something like that. They’ll know anyway (or be broken hearted!)

I’m not sure the “be yourself” bit really applies when it comes to sending messages on dating sites.

Presumably you are on there hoping to get into a relationship. It’s impossible to do that unless you meet first. Getting a date on a dating site can be surprisingly difficult. You need to be fairly assertive/ aggressive to make it happen

Once you are actually meeting a real life person face to face then you should definitely be yourself and not attempt creepy pick up artist techniques you read about in “the game”

What happens when you meet for the first time and tnink they are nice but I dont fancy them at all.

You have the best time you possibly can, and with a bit of luck, you might make a friend out of it. I have to say, the worst thing about the process is having to let people down, but as long as you’re not unkind, it shouldn’t be a problem.

There have only been a few dates where it’s been so clear that we don’t get on, and in those instances, it’s come as no surprise to either of us that the other one didn’t text back!

But if she’s keen and you’re not, you’ve just got to be decisive and fair. Obviously, once you’ve met, it’s real life, so real life rules apply – be a gentleman and consider her feelings.

Generally, I would stress what a good time you had, what a lovely person she is (they usually are if you’ve got to the date stage) but that you’re disappointed that there wasn’t that spark… Maybe you’re just a fussy bugger, etc, etc, etc. It gets harder after a few dates…

It’s impossible to do that unless you meet first.

How is it impossible to be yourself unless you meet 😕
be yourself when you chat/e-mail text

Getting a date on a dating site can be surprisingly difficult. You need to be fairly assertive/ aggressive to make it happen

MLEH think it depends tbh
i think if you are right for each other you will end up dating but yes it might be harder if your competition is Shib 😉

Junkyard, my advice to you would be to NEVER, under ANY circumstances, try to be yourself…

They’ll just think you’re an irritating, argumentative, obtuse prick and that they’d rather become a lonely old cat lady than date you.

Lolz at the irony as that is your true self right there and I doubt it appeals to many hence you NLP them with your patter

Its been a light hearted thread no need to do that and drag it into the personal

Oops, soz Junk, I forgot the winky smiley… 😉

Junkyard – lazarus
It’s impossible to do that unless you meet first.
How is it impossible to be yourself unless you meet
be yourself when you chat/e-mail text

I said it’s impossible to get into a relationship unless you meet. Not it’s impossible to be yourself when messaging. I’m just offering advice, you seem to want to get into a pointless, pedantic argument for some reason.

Still time to edit Shibboleth…

I’m not sure the “be yourself” bit really applies when it comes to sending messages on dating sites.

Sorry for my confusion
I am not trying to start an argument at all

Wow Shibb where did that little tantrum come from?

Ah the edit saves the day 😀

Ah the edit saves the day

Unfortunately not. Mod intervention needed?

🙁

you seem to want to get into a pointless, pedantic argument for some reason.

You’ll get used to him.

Does that warrant editing? All I was doing was suggesting what women might think of him if he was foolish enough to be himself… All in good humour, just like his posts… 😉

Now now boys – this was an amusing thread dont spoil it 😀

Yes the last few posts it sure does look like me trying to argue and provoke a reaction 😕

this was an amusing thread dont spoil it

Apologies, just my attempt to diffuse Junky’s nitpicking in an amusing way… 😉

Blimey chaps, get a room! 😉 😀

But if you do get a room we definitely dont need pictures!

“So, Junky… Are you the kinda gal that meets for a drink? Or are you one of those that just likes picking arguments on the internet?”

Likes making grown men squirm, Vaseline and zip ties…

*likes cold shoulders, single word responses & snubbing 😛

likes cold shoulders, single word responses & snubbing

Then dating isn’t for you… You should try marriage instead 😉

Just about to phone a lady, to arrange a date. I’m shitting myself! Pathetic. I used to be so smooth and confident.
I’ve turned into Raj

She’ll be far more nervous Dez, talk to her the same way you might talk to he lady in the nutty shop… That way, if it doesn’t go well, at least you might walk away with a BLT and a slice of flapjack 😉

Good luck, you’re a tiger… Grrrrrrrr

No flippin answer. Must’ve known it was me.

Obviously, that was “butty shop”… Damn predictive iPads!!

Did you leave a message?

nah, don’t like leaving messages.

@shib – is “butty shop” a euphamisim? just checkin…

Not leaving a message hmmm… you could try again and just keep it short. Talk slowly and breathe, high pitched breathy squealing is unappealing! Good luck.

Leave a message – what have you got to lose?

Unless of course the lovely lady’s profile is a bogus one set up by bored STW members – then probably just your dignity and any hope of a quiet life for some time . . . . 😆

O – you’re cruel Wench.

“Likes phone hacking, message writing and twisted women”

Cruel to sew a seed of paranoia . . . But luckily not cruel enough to set up false accounts 🙂

@hammyuk – are you friends with Rebecca and Andy?

Dez – I’m on plentyoffist.com – want to borrow my login ?

You know, spread your net*

*yes, it was

“Plentyoffist”… Won’t be his net that gets spread 😯

“Plentyoffist” got to be the best misspell/predictive text error yet 😆

adjustablewench – Member
Cruel to sew a seed of paranoia . . . But luckily not cruel enough to set up false accounts

Merely providing inspiration for those who are 😀
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Have you called again Dez?

This is still salvageable Dez, text messaging is your friend… Something like “hey, tried to ring last night but must have missed you, let me know when you’re available for a chat… 🙂 x.”

It doesn’t sound desperate – you’ve waited til the following day – and if she’s got anything about her, it’ll make her feel a bit guilty for not taking your call when you’d arranged to ring. She might just have bottled in, in which case it’ll probably help her confidence to know that you’re still interested, and as I mentioned last night, it shows she’s just as, or more nervous than you. So you can take a bit of confidence from that.

Stick with it, she’s not dead in the water yet!

Plentyoffist

You could make millions with that company!! 🙂