Online dating help…
I thought it was a if you both say maybe you find out about each other type thing.
Whats with the distances they think are acceptable? Pretty unlikely i am going to travel up to angus for a cup of coffee if i am in edinburgh!
I was trying to be genuine as that what every girl seems to want but i might just lie and unleash my true personality on the second date.Posted 4 years ago
adjustablewench – Member
love that video, makes the t-shirt one look soooo tame
(feel its safe to say on here – but will keep that comment away from the other thread!)
They admit in their documentary that a lot of “fun” went on that day after filming and more than just the saddles got sniffed 😉Posted 4 years ago
I was trying to be genuine as that what every girl seems to want but i might just lie and unleash my true personality on the second date.
You have to bear in mind that an “average” looking woman will get several emails a day, so you’re going to have to find some way of standing out if you’re going to get noticed. Also, from what I’ve been told, women get so many emails that they don’t even bother opening half of them. I tended to restrict my emails to women who’d viewed my profile winked/expressed-an-interest. Made it easier to use a genuine-sounding, disarming opening gambit, even if it was largely copied-and-pasted, something along the lines of:
“Hey, I noticed you’d looked at my profile but didn’t send a message… So you’re either the type of person that’s not comfortable sending messages to strange men on the internet, or, you found my pics totally repulsive… etc, etc.”
My profile was a very sarcastic dissection of the weird and wonderful world of dating that hinted at a few disastrous dates and contained plenty of observations of the process that gave women plenty of scope to send a message without having to struggle for something to say. It’s a tricky tactic – you know that you’re going to alienate a large proportion of the women who don’t “get” the humour, but I figured that I’d not want to date someone who didn’t have a sarcastic streak!
You bought a mirror
No, I found a perfect 10 a few months ago… I’m still waiting for someone to tell me it’s some sort of wind-up! (Match Dot Com if you’re wondering…)
Likes fat-bottomed girls, comfy saddles and wet-wipes.Posted 4 years agoeuainSubscriber
Do you get to rate your date afterwards?
Like eBay feedback? Could have a few different categories – start with “Did they arrive on time” – 1 to 5 stars.. and then whatever other categories you can imagine 😉
Then at least you could have a date where 99% of people say “He/she looked like picture”..
There must be potential for this..Posted 4 years ago
There is a feedback facility on POF but it’s really not used very much… If you think about it, why would it? If the date went well, you wouldn’t want to big that girl up to other blokes, and it would be rather ungentlemanly to give an honest rating of a disastrous date!Posted 4 years agoMister PMember
Well I took a bit of advice from this thread. Spotted a rather nice blonde lady on a dating site and sent her a message. Turns out she is into mountain bikes although this wasn’t mentioned on her profile. Then on the third message I asked her out for a drink as per Shib’s advice. So far no response but it was later on last night. Fingers crossed.Posted 4 years ago
Then on the third message I asked her out for a drink as per Shib’s advice. So far no response but it was later on last night. Fingers crossed.
Good luck Mister P! Fortune favours the brave… If she doesn’t reply, you can always fall back on the “Sorry, was I rushing things? I just thought we had a lot in common so it would be good to meet, see if we click…” sort of thing.
I tended to include a bit of NLP when asking… On the second or so message (right after she’s asked how you’re finding the website – they always do) I’d throw in something like “Yeah, there seem to be lots of nice people… A lot of people just seem to be looking for pen pals and never actually go on dates!!”
That way, she’ll be keen to prove to you that she’s not one of those people that frustrate you so much… (for all the doubters, shoot me down, but 90% of the time, this works ALL of the time ;))
Then, when you come to ask, you say something like “so, are we going to meet for drink? Or are you one of those girls that just likes emailing…”
It’s just sales… Attract, convert, close. Then seal the deal 😉Posted 4 years agoJunkyardMember
of course you could play games and use his cunning Jedi mind tricks.
Then again you could just have the confidence to be yourself rather than project a façade to cover up your inadequacies and lack of confidence
Likes baiting,honesty and people comfortable enough to be themselvesPosted 4 years ago
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