Kids – How many and are you happy with the choice?

4 – 27, 23, 13 & 11

And yes I’m happy, if things were different I think I would have gone for 6 but I’m happy. Love the crazy chaos a large family brings. 🙂

0. Thrilled.

I just hope none of mine have kids ,I don`t want grandchildren

Looking at the OP’s question. I have 2 aged 20 and 14.5. We wanted three closer but that isn’t what happened. And actually a 5 year + age gap between them has worked very well and given them a structured loving supportive relationship which is obviously going to carry on for ever. So don’t fear that age gap.

None and its my biggest regret in life. Damn sperm 🙁

2 (3yr old twins – one of each).

Yes – a boy and a girl was always the plan for both me and mrs wsf.

Doing it as twins rather rather than 2 yrs apart as per the plan has been tough but there’s so many upsides it’s crazy – they are best friends.

0 – DrHappyofHappyVille

One, 13 days old 😀

She’s amazing. We’ll see what happens in the future.

2 boys of 4 and very nearly 6. Mostly happy but sometimes its tough. Didn’t really want kids but ran out of good reasons why not. They’ve exceeded my expectations, that’s for sure…

0, I’m if it happens great, the boss didn’t – issues from her childhood and her mother left her mentally scared.

3 kids all adults now. Started our family while we were still young with the idea that when we have grand kids then we would still be fit and healthy enough to enjoy having them around and enjoy life in general. Now we also have 3 grand kids with one more on the way and the idea of having the family while we were still young has really paid off.

One. Two+ and I question whether you’d have a regular sex life and a good relationship like you used too. Everyone that I know with two seems not to have the same levels of pre-children fun.

We’ve got 4. Three boys and a girl and because we weren’t busy enough we’ve just taken on a foster child. 😉

Two girls, 12 and 10. Eldest is a proper girl, loves dance, acting, make up and shopping. Youngest is the opposite; skateboards, football, basketball, XBox, etc.

What’s interesting is the ‘so they play together’ bit. My two never really did, despite the proximity of age and gender, because from quite early the youngest had her own ideas. In turn this might have been because my eldest’s friends’ siblings (the siblings of the friends of my eldest) were all boys and so she was lumped in with them as much as with her sister.

Now they’re both older the youngest is becoming a bit more girly – but only in the sense of realising that girls can be girls and still smash it up on the basketball court or football pitch. So she’ll maybe tolerate a bit of eyeliner or an alice band to keep her hair out of her eyes whereas before that was girls shit and had no place.

Will they eventually become a dynamic duo terrorising the young men of Guildford with their looks and attitude. I hope so 😉 but I dread it at the same time.

Girls are ace.

Two, 10 year old boy, 7 year old girl. Couldn’t be happier, and so I’ve had the snip. They get on great 95% of the time!

Dave Vanderspek – Member
Boy 7
Girl 4
They fight ALL the time, its really putting a strain on the family, we have to do separate activities if we want a “normal” day out, they have ruined so many occasions its depressing, its really backfired having the second one.
Don’t assume if you have another that they’ll play together.
Some days I’m glad to see the back of ’em. The missus took them for a weeks uk break in the summer and to be honest it was heaven until they came back & started fighting.
That is all.

Fair play, there are very few people who’d be that candid.

Two+ and I question whether you’d have a regular sex life

Hora is our very own Dr Ruth 🙂

Two+ and I question whether you’d have a regular sex life

its not that bad, ill send you a an invite to our next webcam session 😉

one on the way, chuffed about it. Will wait and see how this one pans out before deciding on more or not. One thing I find funny is the assumption of many that you’ll naturally want more than one. I’m very ambivalent at the moment, can see the pros and cons of both. I was an only child and just learnt to entertain myself, plus I got good birthday presents :lol:.

0.7 of a child. Due December 14th. I’ll update then. Happy with the decision presently.

Firstly, congratulations to you and Ferrals.
Secondly, please spend at least 3 years considering your pre-influenced update
Thirdly, Matching junior Oakley’s?

None.
I never wanted kids. The mrs did, but she has a dicky ticker, so doesn’t have the energy to raise them let alone have them.

Oh sorry, my response:

2, 7yo&3yo soon to be 8 & 4. Love them to bits, don’t regret having one or the other at all.

Life is significantly different with them, and compromised from the single life as parents will know. IMO parenting is the hardest, yet most rewarding job in the world.

I’m a of very average ability and an emotionally reticent person, but the achievements my 7yo has made, and the emotional attachment I have toward my daughter that I never thought I’d have transcends any material, social, financial or lifestyle gain that I can possibly think of.

Very happy.

2 and, despite some stressful (but not that worrying) health issues on the younger one, glad we have. That said, we have a smaller age gap, but I think you’d still find they played together to some extent (our oldest still often ignores the youngest, but when they are nice to each other it gives me a warm fuzzy feeling).

I’m not sure about more at the moment for me, but that’s nothing to do with how the 2 we have are and more to do with me/wife/house size etc.

2, one of each, 22 months apart, not planned like that and we didn’t know which sex before they arrived. They get on great most of the time. Wouldn’t have had more, now too old and MrsH’s health means she can’t.

Tbh if we had the family support network and no need for 2xfulltime to pay nursery etc fees we’d have zillions but we are in the earn too little to have 1xfulltime parent and just not enough with 2 to create 2+

@kimbers using your head or chest mounted gopro?

That’s the most exciting vids that I’d shoot with a gopro. My biking ain’t one of them 😀

She would be shouting ‘oh Conan run me through with your sword’!

“I’m a of very average ability and an emotionally reticent person, but the achievements my 7yo has made, and the emotional attachment I have toward my daughter that I never thought I’d have transcends any material, social, financial or lifestyle gain that I can possibly think of.
Very happy.”
Bravo.

We have one, the missus wants another. I’m think I’m too old. Then she told me the “egg” we had frozen ,was fertilised.
I didn’t realise this. Stupido. It plays on my mind .
Even though things aren’t perfect ,money,work…the possibility of what Kryton has described has my spidersenses tingling.