Internet dating dilemma
Ok, so it’s probably a case of the grass is greener and that sort of thing, but the scenario is this, for my, err, mate…
He’s met a girl through the Internet, about a month ago and seen her about 8 or so times and has got on well, to the extent that it could be considered the early stages of a relationship. But say yesterday he got an email from someone through the same website that he’s seen around the local area and thought ‘cor blimey, she’s gorgeous!’ and comes across really well in a description too.
So, he’s tempted to reply, but at the same time recognizes that he’s currently seeing a really nice girl and is it worth jeopardizing that? My gut feel is no but, err, he’s not sure.
So, is there a standard protocol to this? Should my advice to him be to be more than happy with the nice girl he’s got and could conceivably be considered as punching above his weight anyway?
It’s a modern dilemma for the modern man. What say the socially skilled and socially underskilled that frequent these parts?Posted 9 years ago
Honest opinion? Your mate has seen a nice girl 8 times already. Give it a chance. (When do you stop browsing/shopping? springs to mind otherwise).
Ps. I’d also mention to your mate to remove his ‘single’/available tag or profile from there as well. If this relationship develops, the first girl may pop on there to see if you are still on/active then its dumpsville. Not bad? What happens if you mate felt a fool and really liked her?Posted 9 years agoshortcutSubscriber
Having experienced this first hand and also talked to some girl friends about it, imho your ‘friend’ should think take up the offer of the second girl he also fancies.
This is because, although he may have seen the other girl a number of times he has no idea what else she is up to. So if he feels he wants to go for it he should. If however he is considering ‘going exclusive’ with the 8 date girl he should have that conversation with her so they both know where they stand.
Don’t let him restrict himself when he doesn’t have to. She won’t. Probably.
Good luck!Posted 9 years agoaleighMember
I can assure you he is, he just wants to be sure about it as he genuinely wants to settle down with a great person.
But in my eyes if she was the right one there would be no hesitation. Tell him to stop being a plank and enjoy being with the girl he’s been seeing! Also tell him to forget anyone else that may flutter their eyelashes at him (unlike hora who just can’t help himself 😉 )Posted 9 years ago
You have known the girl for a total of one month and been out 8 times FFS – hardly the point at which you owe her anything.
Had it been 8 months then maybe it would be a little bit different a dilemma.
I say go out with the other girl once or twice, just see how you get on, if you still think she is a better bet the Girl A then you know what to do.Posted 9 years ago
^^^ Agree with Aleigh that if Girl A was perfect and you already know it, then you wouldn’t be asking the question. But it doesn’t alway happen like that – sometimes relationships are instantly right, sometimes it takes a little longer to know what you want from them.Posted 9 years ago
Any adult who thinks s/he has any say on what someone else does after only knowing them a month has serious issues IMO. Surely after such a short time it is open season?
I know I would never expect anything from a girl after knowing her for such a short time and if someone expected more from me I would walk away myself because if they are like that at month one, what TF would they be like after a year…Posted 9 years ago
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