molgrips – Member
if she’s been sleeping with a married man, she’s really not worth the time dude,
You can’t judge a person’s entire worth by a single fact.
Agreed. You’re only getting one side of the story. haven’t read the whole thread – is she sleeping with him, or just in love with him? There’s not a necessary relationship between the two…
It also takes two to tango, so to speak. Tricky moral balance / scale as to where you apportion moral wrong where you’ve got a couple, one of whom is cheating on their wife. Whilst you could argue the bulk of that must lie with the husband, I think there’s also a natural reaction that also leads people to make a value judgement on her and her actions as the third party. Without knowing the ins-and-outs (pun intended) it’s hard to know where to be on the Daily Mail scale of Moral Indignation (TM); at one end she’s a brazen tart breaking up a marriage, or she’s a poor, hard-done-by victim of a bastard cheating man…
The former – you’ll get messages telling you to steer clear / fill-yer-boots as she’s obviously of dubious moral characters, the latter – you’ll get posts telling you to be there to support her as a friend / fill-yer-boots as she’s obviously up for a rebound and sympathy sh*g.
And why has no-one mentioned the kids 🙂
(personally, sounds like a recipe for disaster from start to finish – declarations of love for someone else doesn’t generally make for the basis of a good relationship. It’s imbalanced from the outset. As the recipe for some short-term fun, different story. Sounds like it might be hard for you to remain sufficiently detached though)