registered pretty highly on the lobometer scale

I initially read that as “lobotometer” and it made for a very different post.

Are we programmed to find people of roughly the same age attractive

I’ve often idly wondered this.

Like, for a (heterosexual) bloke at least, attraction seems to be “my age or younger.” In my mid-30s I’d have considered pulling someone in their mid-20s to be quite a coup, but in my mid-20s I wouldn’t have looked twice at someone in their mid-30s. Maybe we’re just shallow? 😎 Yet the ladies don’t appear to suffer from a similar affliction.

It’s probably the balaclava that does it

You think they find you attractive, but they’re just pulling the wool over your eyes?

I mean – that Holliday Grainger on the telly, I could look at her all bleedin day, but there’s no way she’ll ever get a chance to reject me!

Hey! Eyes off! I’ve got dibs on looking at Holliday Grainger on the television and thinking that she’ll never get the chance to reject me!

I know, right?
It’s probably the balaclava that does it

You know when people say they are owed a new keyboard? Well, that actually happens. **** me, that was funny.

50 here. Still in good shape, OK so I am not Mark Wahlberg or Jason stathan but still got flat stomach and reasonable abs. Not as good as they were in my 30s but better than 99 % of 40+ blokes.
Rest of me.. Falling apart with quickening pace. No women have looked at me in the last 20 years so nothing changed in that department, as for standing up straighter etc nope why bother

Im mid 40s, divorced, got a teenager, have a serious professional job, I’m covered in tattoos and piercings (and still adding to the collection) have beard and am probably the sort of person that binners thinks is a bit sad. However I’ve been a freak since I was a teenager and I’m ******** if I’m going to become some beige wearing nobend just to make others feel all comfy in their worldview.

according to the younger ladies i know in their 20’s and 30’s I’m either hench and a silver fox or a scary looking serial killer. I’m happy with both i think

Im getting married to a rather delightful younger lady next year, so clearly not too invisible and bland yet.

I’ll be the old git looking like a convict version of santaclaus if I make into a ripe old age and i’ll still be as happy in my skin as I am now. If you are confident and happy in yourself, you’ll always be attractive to someone (even if not conventionally pretty/handsome/good looking)

I am however looking forward to getting to middle-rage, where I can shout at the telly, swear about the youth of today and get all flustered that everyone else is just clearly an idiot.

so in summary:
To others, I’m probably a desperate pathetic saddo who refuses to grow up/old/whatever the hell that is.
To me, I’m having a great time having survived drug addictions, suicide attempts and all sorts of carnage in my life, so every day is a wonderful bonus that should be celebrated in its fullest, wrinkly bits, grey hairs, random fluffy ears and all

To get reach pathetic you have to start from desperate.
The older I get,the more comfortable I am with who I am.
I like me and so do the people that I care about,it’s enough.

I think im at this stage now at 48

Last night in Tesco I remembered I needed a new pair of slippers. As they had a security tag, decided it was easier to go to a staffed checkout. I chose the less attractive middle aged checkout assistant rather than the cute uni age one, just in case she had low expectations

I would do exactly the same thing. We’re pathetic.
Actually, I’m so pathetic I buy my slippers online so nobody sees.

In the video for the Verves Bitter sweet symphony, theres a bit where he passes a young lady who gives him a ‘look’.

My mate always said that she was looking at him in disdain and thats all he ever got from women. I disagreed and said she was giving him the eye and he was probably missing loads of opportunities!!

I still get looks like that from ladies even at 43, but now i’m starting to think my mate was right all along…..

Actually, I’m so pathetic I buy my slippers online so nobody sees.

I get the wife to get them so I dont have to worry about what color to choose.

I’m still in my dressing gown.

I’m either hench

You know you’re a pathetic middle-aged man when you have to google what “hench” means.

If you are confident and happy in yourself, you’ll always be attractive to someone (even if not conventionally pretty/handsome/good looking)

True dat. Some of the most, ah, interesting ladies I’ve been fortunate enough to enjoy the company of over the years have not been what you’d call conventionally beautiful.

I’m 51. My colleague told me yesterday that So and So (25) in the office thinks I’m in my “late 30’s”. I was chuffed. After reading this stuff I realise she hasn’t really bothered looking at me, or she’s thinking of somebody completely different 🙁

You know you’re a pathetic middle-aged man when you have to google what “hench” means.

I assumed it was a typo.

Ah, that reminds me.

MrsIHN and I used to work for the same company. One afternoon, I nipped up to her floor to have an exciting married couple conversation about who was picking up the milk on the way home or something similarly mind-blowing.

When I left, the (early 20s) fella who sits next to her asked “is that your dad?”.

At the time Mrs IHN was 40.

42 here, widowed with 4 kids. One hell of a catch! As in a post in one of my previous posts, realising my situation isn’t exactly appealing to anyone if and when I decide I would like to see other people, isn’t exactly a confidence booster.

I’ve come to realise that, whenever I see an attractive lady from the age of, I dunno, early twenties upwards, I stand up straighter, pull my shoulders back a bit and suck in my gut.

Despite trying this, even when I suck my gut in I still look like I’ve swallowed a beach ball. Between that and wearing shorts all year round whatever the weather, I think there could be a number of reasons why I am invisible to everyone.

You know you’re a pathetic middle-aged man when you have to google what “hench” means.

I is well peng innit

48 here and my missus is 54. She is waaaaay better looking a female than i am a male. The fact i am younger than her is the only thing stopping me panicking that i am actually punching well above my weight.

My colleague told me yesterday that So and So (25) in the office thinks I’m in my “late 30’s”. I was chuffed.

Don’t worry school kids come out with that regularly; it’s the oldest age they can conceive someone can still get around independently without being institutionalised.

Two years ago I was 7kg heavier and was in the gym 5 times a week. Now, my knees and elbows are giving up on me slowly and the thought of going back to heavy olympic lifting scares me. I have a hard time doing anything other than cycle to work and back and I just want to spend weekends either (good weather) skydiving or (bad weather) doing DIY.

I own a pair of slippers. They keep my feet warm. Two weekends ago I BBQ’d wearing them. I have even been given a pair of not-Crocs so that I do not have to keep putting boots on to walk the dogs.

I regret nothing.

I clicked into, and almost commented on, the Pylon chat on here yday

My name is Ro5ey and I am pathetic

but aged 42 I attracted the eye of a stunning 25 year old lass..

Says millionaire hodgynd 😉

realising my situation isn’t exactly appealing to anyone if and when I decide I would like to see other people, isn’t exactly a confidence booster.

You say that, but.

Yes, in your 20s being a single parent might well be a major turn-off for many people. In your 40s though, simply “not being a complete mentalist” means you’re way ahead of the curve.

Plus if you’re job-seeking, being made redundant is a far more appealing reason to be unemployed than if you’d just been sacked.

I is well peng innit

I’ve never been, but I hear it’s quite nice.

All this talk about how middle aged Men feel and the fact that they think “they’re overlooked” or “seen as invisible”

Think how a middle aged Woman feels.

Centuries of peer pressure to “look good” all the bloody time and for what when you turn 50? Passed over for promotions, new jobs, new husbands…

Thankfully not everyone thinks the same.

Someone wrote “be happy in your own skin” that’s got more meaning than the words typed.

FWIW I find older elegant ladies very attractive. The 30-something’s bore me with their lack of attention and glancing over your shoulder types.

Be nice, be kind, be considerate because that’s all they want from you.

Be nice, be kind, be considerate because that’s all they want from you.

^^ this.

Plus, you can buy Viagra on the Internet these days.

You can buy Viagra in Boots, it’s sold next to Nightol sleeping tablets

@taxi25..if only!..😁
No millionaire and far from it …Just extremely lucky ..mind you I think she was pissed at the time ..😂

FWIW I find older elegant ladies very attractive.

One of my neighbours came out to chat about her garden (not a euphemism) a few weeks back, she even invited me into the back garden (not a euphemism) to look at her big plants (not a euphemism). I actually, briefly thought “Would I?”… She was at least 65. I’m so pathetic. But you know, not being noticed means chances are rare 😆

You can buy Viagra in Boots

Of course, but can you buy it in your slippers?

I met a woman in a pub not so long ago. She was older than I’d normally go for, not so much pushing 50 as dragging it (on probably quite a long rope). But despite that she was still hot as ****, she must have been devastating in her younger days.

We got talking, got on really well, and she invited me back to her place. We had a bit of a snog and a fumble, then she said to me “do you fancy a bit of… you know… mother and daughter action?”

Quids in! “Hell yes,” I said.

So she got up, went to the door and yelled up the stairs, “hey, mum!”

^^^😂😂

A very attractive lady in her mid 20s has moved into the area and joined our Karate club. Don’t know what grade she is as she hadn’t unpacked her Gi and belt last week, so turned up in gym kit much to the excitement of the “senior” grades.

At the end of the session we had to pick a partner for kumite (free fighting) and she ended up with the one closest in age to her, my 12 year old lad. We then moved on to melee where you fight anyone and everyone, so I did the fatherly thing and kicked his legs out from underneath him from behind.

I’m expecting there to be a full turnout of middle-aged men all trying to batter the crap out of each other tonight.

I’m attending a conference today and theres a raven haired good looking early 40’s woman on another vendors stand that keeps smiling at me.

After reading this thread i dont know what to think.

I’m pathetic and 66.
I occasionally have a brief chat with the lass in the greengrocers, who is mid-20s, Brazilian & friendly.
A couple of months ago she asked if I was single…..

“because my mum needs a boyfriend”

We are still speaking, but her mum’s left the area.

I’m ******** if I’m going to become some beige wearing nobend just to make others feel all comfy in their worldview.

Yeah this ^^^ definitely this ^^^.

I clicked into, and almost commented on, the Pylon chat on here yday

Oh.

Am 36, so according to up there ^ somewhere am now bordering on invisible to women.

Got a couple of looks and a wee smile from a girl in Costa today though, probably in her early 30s, redhead, just my type. Unfortunately I was so surprised by this I forgot to smile back, moment passed, bugger. Probably very pathetically middle aged to constantly dwell on wee moments like that hours after they’ve passed though….

I’m actually quite confident in myself otherwise, have decided that ‘young professional daddy’ is still an attractive look* and thankfully our 2 year old is nauseatingly cute and can shout ‘hiya’ in a cute way on command.

*although the only girls who see it are typically the girls at nursery, who probably see 20 or 30 identical young professional daddies every morning…

LOL @Moses 🙂

I’m attending a conference today and theres a raven haired good looking early 40’s woman on another vendors stand that keeps smiling at me.

Are you still wearing your slippers?

Im quite impressed that Moses knows she’s got a Brazilian..😉

I’m attending a conference today and theres a raven haired good looking early 40’s woman on another vendors stand that keeps smiling at me.

You should go over and give her guide dog a biscuit. 😉