Yeah I’m a big fan of Shelly relays. I think the belt-and-braces approach for something with a high load is to use a contactor (from Screwfix etc) which you trigger using a WiFi relay.
The Chosry switch linked to earlier is only 13A which I wouldn’t touch for this application. Also it uses Tuya for Smart Control which means you’re dependant on internet access & Chinese servers!
The Shelly relays is also dependant on internet access (although not Chinese!) unless you have something like Home Assistant set up. I see Switchbot now make a Matter relay which in combination with their hub should give you local control I think i.e. not dependant on internet access (although WiFi is still required for most of these solutions)
I wouldn’t use the Switchbot virtual finger thing for this application (although they are cool!) as they don’t provide any positive feedback without the use of other equipment.
You could wire up a webcam pointing at the switch
(I use Google Assistant and it confirms switch status).
love a ridiculously hi-tech approach using lots of processing power to solve a simple problem 🙂