[Closed] Women "tidying up"

my wife does this all the time in our house. she likes everything tidied away and out of sight.

sometimes I think it would be easier if I didn't live there, cluttering up the place with my posessions.

🙂

of course, it's important not to get confused between 'tidying up' with 'just shoving things anywhere out of sight to make the place look tidy'

there's a place for everything and everything in its place. Until Mrs Stoner redefines "place".

In our house, I am THE MASTER of loosing things. Even when I KNOW where it is, it's not there......
😕 😉

My other half insists that she always puts things in the "proper place". It's just that she invents a new proper place every time. Often literally. A new, labelled box or drawer containing that one item will appear.

I was trying to find a mobile phone charger for the car the other day. Gave up eventually. Certainly wasn't in the "batteries & chargers" drawer. Mrs triumphantly pulled it out of the "car" slot in the filing cabinet (where we keep insurance documents, etc.)!!! 🙄

Did you look for them properly though? Or did you just have a 'man-look'?

We had some big fights about 'tidying' when we first got married. Now if I misplace something, it is my fault and mine alone.

"Have you seen my keys?"
"Sorry" 😉

The proper place for something is where they happen to fall. Anything else will not end well.

"Labelled boxes and drawers"???!!!!!! (Above)

Answer: don't leave your crap lying about the place? 😆

Yes I looked properly - checked all the places I might have left them (down the side of the sofa, in the pockets of any trousers I'd been wearing, still in the door of the car etc.) several times. I even checked the officially designated shelf for keys. Clearly I should have remembered that the kitchen windowsill is the place she likes to tidy things up to.

I would have put in lots of censored swear words, random caps etc., but still fuming too much to manage that.

Mine does the same. Decides that something that has lived perfect well in one place is now going to leave somewherte else and sees no reason to consult or inform me.

I might pay half the mortgage but I still end up feeling like a visitor in her house!

when I was younger, my mum was fanatical about things being left on the side and would 'tidy' things away. when I ask where my things are, she would reply with 'where they should be'. I thought they 'should be' where I left them but apparently not!

My Grandparents, when they began getting old and confused, somehow went into this "tidying up" mode where they'd move random crap around the place. Anything and everything, if they got fed up of it, the stuff would end up in the garage or the garden or the bathroom with no thought given as to how important it was.

When my Mum had to clear the house out after they died, it took her months to find all the deeds, legal stuff, statements etc cos they were randomly scattered about the house with no organisation whatsoever

I might pay half the mortgage but I still end up feeling like a visitor in her house

+1, but visitors get treated better

but I still end up feeling like a visitor in her house!

The girl I've been seeing has now tidied my house top to bottom. I have absolutely no problem with women who like to keep the place clean as long as I don't have to be involved in the process.

Did you look for them properly though? Or did you just have a 'man-look'?

Bloody hell, I though we made that phrase up!

The girl I've been seeing has now tidied my house top to bottom

ah, she's performed the cleansing ritual
all your house are belong to her now

Mrs Votchy goes one better than that, she tidies up then when I ask where something is she says she can't remember where she put it, leave it the f*ck alone then is my immediate thought!!!!

When my ex was still at home, If I stood still for longer than 5 minuets I found myself in a draw.

As soon as I saw this I knew Onzadog would be in here 😆

(Mrs Onzadog)

Give him hell when he gets home 🙂

Infact - just move his favourite chair!

I may live in a mess (understatement perhaps!), but I also know where everything is.

Enter a woman in my life, and things get "tidied away" 😕

Exit woman from my life, and I can find everything again! 😀

Mrs BigJohn thinks the proper place for anything is a drawer.

There are only 38 drawers in our house.

Oh, and a psychologist will confirm that if you go round looking while muttering "I've lost the car keys" you won't see them, even when you're looking at them. You need to chant "I'm looking for my keys".

my missus likes to put things 'away'. this can mean any number of things, but normally it means that it gets put inside or on top of whatever is nearby.

we have some bankers boxes in the study for filing. I looked in one of the boxes the other day to find a utility bill and I found:
- Paperwork (meant to be there)
- Picture hooks
- Head torch
- Penknife
- USB stick
- Pot of pens (a jam jar full of pens - why does this need to be filed!!)

Crazy.

Dave

Boys, boys, I do tidy up, but it all has a proper place and as Lowey says mr bh will one day be 'put in his place' 🙂

The trick is just to ask, because I know where everything is, then there isn't the frantic searching around that used to happen when we lived in 2 different parts of the country.

The trick is just to ask

Quite disappointed, I thought this was going to be a 'foliage' thread.

- Picture hooks

At least one in every drawer, unless needed.

We've had a few fallings out of the tidying up system that I have.
So mr bh is in charge of the garage (which is a shambles and he can never find anything) and I'm in charge of the shed, green house and house. Where everything has proper place and God help mr bh if he moves the object/article.

My job to pay the bills etc. So a bill arrives, I open it and leave it in sight so I don't forget to pay it. Immediatly she moves it to a pile of 'important' papers. this pile can randomly move around the house and contains shuch important things as the free newspaper adverts and vouchers.

We also used to have 3 fruit bowls - 2 are now just bowls with crap in them. But you can't see all the crap so it's tidy.

I do what bunnyhop says.

As soon as I need soemthing I ask Mrs B.

She is now p*ssed off though as now I don't bother looking for anything - she's made a rod for her back though as she always knows, just makes me less likely to look myself. Not going to pointlessly waste energy.

My response is generally 'Why have a dog and bark yourself'......needless to say a few of my things go missing soon after 😉

We have a stair fairy in our house.

If I put something on the bottom few steps of the stairs 'to take up later' I find that if I go upstairs saying 'I'll take that next time I go up' 3 or 4 times then, magically, it'll be not only upstairs, but put away when I finally think 'I'll do it now'.

this has only happened since I've not been single so I can only imagine that my wife brought this magical creature with her.

My son has started to make use of it as well, I notice.

Wow!

There genuinely are others with this problem!
My OH has a great nack of tidying things away so they are out of sight, but as mentioned above, they don't go in their 'proper place', they just get put out of sight.
I have purposefully left paperwork out before that needs dealing with so in the morning I see it and remember i need to act on it. But, it has been tidied away (but not where we normally put all our paperwork) by the morning & gets forgotten.

The places things get put are so illogical, they can only be dreamt up in the female mind!

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Oh hold on, just realised it is actually about women tidying up. Sorry, as you were.

Women find it easier to tidy-up downstairs as they can use their hand as a template
®JohnBishop

ah, but do any of you suffer from the even worse fate....

of being asked if *you* know where *she* put her $lost_thing

the other one that infuriates me, which is not specific to a gender, is people who disturb you from whatever it is you're doing to ask verbally where something is, before they've looked, only to stop almost mid-sentence as they realise they are looking directly at it. Arrrgh!

Ha! The wife followed me here, made comment but still had nothing to offer in her defence.

If anyone can't find singletrack right now, it's because she's moved it to a different draw without telling anyone.

As I'm a foot taller than Mrs Wombat I find that storing things on the top shelf is sufficient to make sure that they stay where I want them. 8)

I do on occasion have a "reorganise" of the bookshelves/drawers/kitchen cupboards if I'm left to my own devices for a day or so just to make sure that everything is where it should be for at least a couple of days.

I have purposefully left paperwork out before that needs dealing with so in the morning I see it and remember i need to act on it. But, it has been tidied away (but not where we normally put all our paperwork) by the morning & gets forgotten

This. Or it's something I have received in the post and needs to go in the garage/on the bike (which reminds me, where is that spare mech hanger and set of bearings?)

I have given up, she has broken me. I don't even ask where it has been put any more, as I usually get something along the lines of, 'where it should have been in the first place'. Another alternative is, 'In the paperwork box', of which there are about 10 secreted away in or on various shelves, cupboards and drawers around the house.

only to stop almost mid-sentence as they realise they are looking directly at it. Arrrgh

If this happens when they are actually talking to you, surely that can only be because you have the thing they are looking for. What the bloody hell are you doing with it anyway?

[i]because you have the the thing they are looking for.[/i]

"Have you seen my husband? Don't worry, here he is"

Mine does the paperwork thing too. I think the next stage to this will be for her to leave her birthday list lying around. No doubt she'll then tidy it away, and I need no longer worry...

i had only had the option of 3 pairs of shoes to wear to wear to work on monday -

option 1 - patent leather brothel creepers
option 2 - size small fake havaianas
option 3 - 10 year old battered converse, bit muddy from the last festival i went to!!

Cheers love.

If this happens when they are actually talking to you, surely that can only be because you have the thing they are looking for. What the bloody hell are you doing with it anyway?

you must have missed the bit about

people who disturb you from whatever it is you're doing

ie: calling you into another room to say "have you seen my..." only to be swifty followed by "oh there it is"

at which point you're allowed to go back to whaetever it was you were doing in the first place.

For the record this is normally when you are deep in the middle of either a very interesting book, mid-way through the pivotal scene of a great dramatic movie, or doing some very delicate job requiring 8 fingers and the steady hand of a surgeon to perform

My Missus has a Long History of this sort of thing, Generally we agree Important Letters, Bills, etc will go in a Certain place (I have bought and labeled various box files and folders over the years), and I'll put them there, then find they've gone walkabout, she "Tidys up" about once a month, it's a sort of Fraught Whirlwind combining disorganisation and whinging that normally results in various items being dumped in the spare room, and anything useful I previously knew the location of is now missing, If I dare ask where it's gone I'm informed that I should Stop "having a Go" at Her and should Keep track of things, pointing out that I had done just this until she decided to bollocks up the system does not seem to help her mood. It's often easier is I just do a bit of forensic archeology and find things for myself...

The odd thing is that I never loose my keys (Touch wood) where she probably only ever knows where Hers are ~20% or the time, she once called me at work (2 hours overdue herself) informing me that she was unable to leave the house as I'd locked the Door when I left (At her request to deter the various Imaginary criminals that roam our neighbourhood) and she couldn't find her own keys to free herself, I suggested various locations none of which yielded her keys, Eventually she climbed out of a Window (and of course left it slightly Ajar to Aid any passing burglars) and made it in to work 3 hours late. The Keys were found 2 days later in one of Her various Bags (many of which also contain uneaten Fruit for some reason)....

I also do the washing up most days While Her take on this particular task is to leave various things in 2" of Bacteria ridden water for 12 hours and then complain that I need to wash up as she "did it this morning"....

If she cooks she'll use most of the pans and leave any packaging or stuff that should go back in the fridge or cupboard out on the side and complain that there isn't enough space...

If she changes our Daugters Nappy during the Day she'll leave the Bag(s) by the change mat rather than take them out to the bin (Assuming there are Nappy sacks easily to hand, if not the nappy is just left to one side and ignored), Most days I will comehome and imediately have to take out 4-5 stinking nappies the smell of which she has smoehow become immune to....

Basically She is not been properly Domesticated, But then that's not really what attracted me to her in the first place, every "Domestic Godess" I've ever know has bee as boring as Sin, My Missus is Fun and there is never a Dull Day with her, I'll put up with the Mess and the Sporadic stab at "Tidying" as overall I'm still rather fond of her... For now at least.

When my wife moved in I gave her complete autonomy over the cleaning, tidying and general room layout etc etc

The only caveat being DON'T TOUCH/MOVE MY BIKE STUFF.

She moves/touches my bike stuff 😡

🙄

She moves/touches my bike stuff

yeah, but she also lets you boink her, seems like a reasonable exchange.

My wife has an interesting take on this - a bit like a stately home. We have public rooms, the Hallway, Living Room, Dining Room, Downstairs Loo etc where everything has to be neat and tidy, no outward signs that they might be lived in. This is because people might come round and think badly of us if there was an abandoned pair of shoes in the hall.

In the rooms where visitors are unlikely she is like a normal person.

It's completely irrational as the only people who ever call round are friends and family.

Nope. I'm the one who tidies up after my wife much of the time. Had to impose a system of hooks for keys otherwise she took mine.. She's not very bad but is a b****** for hiding important paperwork or ignoring it..

So anybody like to take a guess at whose fault it actually was my keys got tidied away somewhere I couldn't find them?

Yours, for leaving them in a place they did not belong?

I never lose anything, it's always in the pockets of the trousers I wore the previous day, (because I wear the trousers).

(because I wear the trousers).

lolololol - yeah - you think so!!

Rachel

My personal favourite is when things get moved and there is the "I haven't touched it" denial. Then why is it now in this drawer?
Mrs S visited her mother recently and the kitchen drawers received a clear out. What a lot of crap went in the bin, old film canisters, cracker novelties and dead batteries.

We have 86,000 labelled shoe boxes for everything other than shoes. However, despite this alphabetical, organised system my stuff still ends up rammed in various drawers etc.

My other half is useless at finding things, even when I tell him exactly where it is although I won't lie, I do tidy things up to random places sometimes, usually because I'm in a rush. I do find things sometimes when we are both looking and move it discretely to somewhere really obvious just to make him paranoid 🙂

I got for the "Where does the XXXXXX live today?" aproach. Gets right on her tits.

Cookeaa - Are you married to my wife as well? 😯

The missus's mum tidies stuff away with the caveat "I leave it where I know you'll find it!".

Which is why half the stuff I need at any one time ends up in the kids' bedroom.

Typically, I've got it all wrong. I'm the one who gets wound up by the house being messy while my wife could just take it or leave it. She'll tidy up if someone is coming round but apart from that, our house is normally a shithole.

When she does tidy up for a special visitor, she'll complain like mad about how messy the house is. She'll start clearing off all her crap from the kitchen table while simultaneously stating how nobody ever tidies up round here.

Yep, that'll be because you hit the roof if I try tidying your stuff up.

My ex was a nightmare, at least she was consistent though. If you lost something you just had to remember where it was and then locate the nearest drawer as things always got swept to the nearest out of sight point. Things did get silly though when the drawers got full. Not sure what's worse though as the currant OH never puts anything away and the place is a shithole.

I "man look" all the time, but in my defence your honour I do have specific places for stuff, just my OH has different places for the same stuff..
hahaha.

aracer - Member

So anybody like to take a guess at whose fault it actually was my keys got tidied away somewhere I couldn't find them?

Yours of course.

Did you look for them properly though? Or did you just have a 'man-look'?

Bloody hell, I though we made that phrase up!

Brilliant, my son and I have the same 'man look' genes, its hilarious. Daughter can always find stuff. freaky!

I also have a famous 'Man Drawer' in the kitchen sideboard, you know, random screws, batteries, wallet, keys, passport, screwdrivers, ikea allen key, old but diritcal receipts, free dust caps, you know.

Mrs BSN puts son's passport into MY man drawer, me in rush leaving for flight... I'll leave you to figure out consequences!

not. my. fault! 😉

Kev

Cookeaa - Are you married to my wife as well?

Could be, Although we've been together a bit over 5 years, we only tied the knot a week and a half ago, considering the number of quite significant things she looses/forgets a previous Marriage could well have been overlooked...

Although I'm technically a "Newly Wed" I think my time served "living in sin" fully qualifies me to comment on the various failuires of all Woman kind with some authority, my life prior to marriage was effectively the same but we had more savings and 2 less bits of Jewelry (Yet another thing for Her to missplace)...

Actually that's another one, Accessorize have alot to answer for! Like many of you no doubt any evidence that I'm into bikes has to be kept out of sight all my kit in the garage, or stuffed in random cupboards but her ever expanding collection of Cheap plastic Jewelry has a habit of spreading it's official "homes" are the 2 substantial Jewelry boxes on to of a chest of drawers in our Bedroom, but it now covers the entire top of those and both bedside tables, various places in the kitchen, Lounge and Bathroom have a couple of bits, and just about every door or drawer handle, Banister or coat hook is apparently fair game for the storage of Necklaces and Bracelets...

I want to know that seeing as women are so organised about the house and know where everything is, then why do they not know that they have lip balm / perfume / moisturiser / water / sun lotion / deodorant / random liquid in their handbag when they go through airport check in?!

i'm moving in with girlfriend on the weekend. We'll have a 24m^2 studio with two bikes in it. Tidying for two will be a nightmare 😀

@Hans your own personal clutter will expand/contract to suit the volume allowed by your missus, you have no say in this matter, effectively you agreed to it when you signed the joint lease... Good Luck. I'd start looking for a bigger place NOW!

My wife 'lost' her takeaway sushi under the passenger seat of my RS4. I mean lost as in she ate half then forgot it was there. I thought I had inadvertently run something over that was jammed in the radiator from the smell. She is now frisked before entering my vehicle, intimately. 😀

cookeaa - Thanks - that's really tickled me this morning 😀

If you think you've got problems with her 'expanding collection of Cheap plastic Jewelry', then pray you never have daughters. There really is no limit to the number of hair-slides, bobbles, bracelets, and headbands. They accumulate on every surface, apparently breeding like bacteria

we have a truce whereby i`m allowed a 'useful drawer'. she is apparently allowed a 'useful house' although i dont remember signing up to this.

she has a habit of writing important things on scrap paper/envelopes etc. i generally do the recycling and i cant tell whats scrap and whats important. this causes issues.

Oh god. I have a daughter. she's just reaching the age of 'accoutriments'(sp?) now.

The nearest I've found to a solution is to remove as many flat surfaces from the house as possible. This way, they can't have things put on them.

Replace with cupboards or drawers wherever possible and hold the only key to the garage if you wish it to remain sacrosanct.

I do realise the floor is flat - but using the side of your foot can, when mastered well, act like a snow plough for 'stuff'.

On Saturday, as we left to go to freinds' for a BBQ, Mrs North announced "I cannot live with this mess any more." She had a point - we had let things slide quite badly.

So, I spent much of Sunday (thankfully it was raining, and I had no desire for riding) tidying up and cleaning. What did she - the instigator of the displeasure at the untidiness - do? Absolutely SFA. Watched me do the whole lot.

However, I'm nice, so I didn't harrangue her into [url= http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Knoll_(verb) ]knolling her knicker drawer....[/url]

Tidying up:

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I thought this was going to be about lady gardens, disappointed.

Wife asked me where several bits of her biking kit was thi morning. I was able to tell he exactly where all of it was and also where other bits of kit were that she would probably need before the day is out. She was gutted at this. I was slightly satisfied.