[Closed] Women "tidying up"

my wife does this all the time in our house. she likes everything tidied away and out of sight.

sometimes I think it would be easier if I didn't live there, cluttering up the place with my posessions.

🙂

of course, it's important not to get confused between 'tidying up' with 'just shoving things anywhere out of sight to make the place look tidy'

there's a place for everything and everything in its place. Until Mrs Stoner redefines "place".

In our house, I am THE MASTER of loosing things. Even when I KNOW where it is, it's not there......
😕 😉

My other half insists that she always puts things in the "proper place". It's just that she invents a new proper place every time. Often literally. A new, labelled box or drawer containing that one item will appear.

I was trying to find a mobile phone charger for the car the other day. Gave up eventually. Certainly wasn't in the "batteries & chargers" drawer. Mrs triumphantly pulled it out of the "car" slot in the filing cabinet (where we keep insurance documents, etc.)!!! 🙄

Did you look for them properly though? Or did you just have a 'man-look'?

We had some big fights about 'tidying' when we first got married. Now if I misplace something, it is my fault and mine alone.

"Have you seen my keys?"
"Sorry" 😉

The proper place for something is where they happen to fall. Anything else will not end well.

"Labelled boxes and drawers"???!!!!!! (Above)

Answer: don't leave your crap lying about the place? 😆

Yes I looked properly - checked all the places I might have left them (down the side of the sofa, in the pockets of any trousers I'd been wearing, still in the door of the car etc.) several times. I even checked the officially designated shelf for keys. Clearly I should have remembered that the kitchen windowsill is the place she likes to tidy things up to.

I would have put in lots of censored swear words, random caps etc., but still fuming too much to manage that.

Mine does the same. Decides that something that has lived perfect well in one place is now going to leave somewherte else and sees no reason to consult or inform me.

I might pay half the mortgage but I still end up feeling like a visitor in her house!

when I was younger, my mum was fanatical about things being left on the side and would 'tidy' things away. when I ask where my things are, she would reply with 'where they should be'. I thought they 'should be' where I left them but apparently not!

My Grandparents, when they began getting old and confused, somehow went into this "tidying up" mode where they'd move random crap around the place. Anything and everything, if they got fed up of it, the stuff would end up in the garage or the garden or the bathroom with no thought given as to how important it was.

When my Mum had to clear the house out after they died, it took her months to find all the deeds, legal stuff, statements etc cos they were randomly scattered about the house with no organisation whatsoever

I might pay half the mortgage but I still end up feeling like a visitor in her house

+1, but visitors get treated better

but I still end up feeling like a visitor in her house!

The girl I've been seeing has now tidied my house top to bottom. I have absolutely no problem with women who like to keep the place clean as long as I don't have to be involved in the process.

Did you look for them properly though? Or did you just have a 'man-look'?

Bloody hell, I though we made that phrase up!

The girl I've been seeing has now tidied my house top to bottom

ah, she's performed the cleansing ritual
all your house are belong to her now

Mrs Votchy goes one better than that, she tidies up then when I ask where something is she says she can't remember where she put it, leave it the f*ck alone then is my immediate thought!!!!

When my ex was still at home, If I stood still for longer than 5 minuets I found myself in a draw.

As soon as I saw this I knew Onzadog would be in here 😆

(Mrs Onzadog)

Give him hell when he gets home 🙂

Infact - just move his favourite chair!

I may live in a mess (understatement perhaps!), but I also know where everything is.

Enter a woman in my life, and things get "tidied away" 😕

Exit woman from my life, and I can find everything again! 😀

Mrs BigJohn thinks the proper place for anything is a drawer.

There are only 38 drawers in our house.

Oh, and a psychologist will confirm that if you go round looking while muttering "I've lost the car keys" you won't see them, even when you're looking at them. You need to chant "I'm looking for my keys".

my missus likes to put things 'away'. this can mean any number of things, but normally it means that it gets put inside or on top of whatever is nearby.

we have some bankers boxes in the study for filing. I looked in one of the boxes the other day to find a utility bill and I found:
- Paperwork (meant to be there)
- Picture hooks
- Head torch
- Penknife
- USB stick
- Pot of pens (a jam jar full of pens - why does this need to be filed!!)

Crazy.

Dave

Boys, boys, I do tidy up, but it all has a proper place and as Lowey says mr bh will one day be 'put in his place' 🙂

The trick is just to ask, because I know where everything is, then there isn't the frantic searching around that used to happen when we lived in 2 different parts of the country.

The trick is just to ask

Quite disappointed, I thought this was going to be a 'foliage' thread.

- Picture hooks

At least one in every drawer, unless needed.

We've had a few fallings out of the tidying up system that I have.
So mr bh is in charge of the garage (which is a shambles and he can never find anything) and I'm in charge of the shed, green house and house. Where everything has proper place and God help mr bh if he moves the object/article.

My job to pay the bills etc. So a bill arrives, I open it and leave it in sight so I don't forget to pay it. Immediatly she moves it to a pile of 'important' papers. this pile can randomly move around the house and contains shuch important things as the free newspaper adverts and vouchers.

We also used to have 3 fruit bowls - 2 are now just bowls with crap in them. But you can't see all the crap so it's tidy.

I do what bunnyhop says.

As soon as I need soemthing I ask Mrs B.

She is now p*ssed off though as now I don't bother looking for anything - she's made a rod for her back though as she always knows, just makes me less likely to look myself. Not going to pointlessly waste energy.

My response is generally 'Why have a dog and bark yourself'......needless to say a few of my things go missing soon after 😉

We have a stair fairy in our house.

If I put something on the bottom few steps of the stairs 'to take up later' I find that if I go upstairs saying 'I'll take that next time I go up' 3 or 4 times then, magically, it'll be not only upstairs, but put away when I finally think 'I'll do it now'.

this has only happened since I've not been single so I can only imagine that my wife brought this magical creature with her.

My son has started to make use of it as well, I notice.

Wow!

There genuinely are others with this problem!
My OH has a great nack of tidying things away so they are out of sight, but as mentioned above, they don't go in their 'proper place', they just get put out of sight.
I have purposefully left paperwork out before that needs dealing with so in the morning I see it and remember i need to act on it. But, it has been tidied away (but not where we normally put all our paperwork) by the morning & gets forgotten.

The places things get put are so illogical, they can only be dreamt up in the female mind!

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Oh hold on, just realised it is actually about women tidying up. Sorry, as you were.

Women find it easier to tidy-up downstairs as they can use their hand as a template
®JohnBishop

ah, but do any of you suffer from the even worse fate....

of being asked if *you* know where *she* put her $lost_thing

the other one that infuriates me, which is not specific to a gender, is people who disturb you from whatever it is you're doing to ask verbally where something is, before they've looked, only to stop almost mid-sentence as they realise they are looking directly at it. Arrrgh!

Ha! The wife followed me here, made comment but still had nothing to offer in her defence.

If anyone can't find singletrack right now, it's because she's moved it to a different draw without telling anyone.

As I'm a foot taller than Mrs Wombat I find that storing things on the top shelf is sufficient to make sure that they stay where I want them. 8)

I do on occasion have a "reorganise" of the bookshelves/drawers/kitchen cupboards if I'm left to my own devices for a day or so just to make sure that everything is where it should be for at least a couple of days.

I have purposefully left paperwork out before that needs dealing with so in the morning I see it and remember i need to act on it. But, it has been tidied away (but not where we normally put all our paperwork) by the morning & gets forgotten

This. Or it's something I have received in the post and needs to go in the garage/on the bike (which reminds me, where is that spare mech hanger and set of bearings?)

I have given up, she has broken me. I don't even ask where it has been put any more, as I usually get something along the lines of, 'where it should have been in the first place'. Another alternative is, 'In the paperwork box', of which there are about 10 secreted away in or on various shelves, cupboards and drawers around the house.

only to stop almost mid-sentence as they realise they are looking directly at it. Arrrgh

If this happens when they are actually talking to you, surely that can only be because you have the thing they are looking for. What the bloody hell are you doing with it anyway?

[i]because you have the the thing they are looking for.[/i]

"Have you seen my husband? Don't worry, here he is"

Mine does the paperwork thing too. I think the next stage to this will be for her to leave her birthday list lying around. No doubt she'll then tidy it away, and I need no longer worry...

i had only had the option of 3 pairs of shoes to wear to wear to work on monday -

option 1 - patent leather brothel creepers
option 2 - size small fake havaianas
option 3 - 10 year old battered converse, bit muddy from the last festival i went to!!

Cheers love.

If this happens when they are actually talking to you, surely that can only be because you have the thing they are looking for. What the bloody hell are you doing with it anyway?

you must have missed the bit about

people who disturb you from whatever it is you're doing

ie: calling you into another room to say "have you seen my..." only to be swifty followed by "oh there it is"

at which point you're allowed to go back to whaetever it was you were doing in the first place.

For the record this is normally when you are deep in the middle of either a very interesting book, mid-way through the pivotal scene of a great dramatic movie, or doing some very delicate job requiring 8 fingers and the steady hand of a surgeon to perform

My Missus has a Long History of this sort of thing, Generally we agree Important Letters, Bills, etc will go in a Certain place (I have bought and labeled various box files and folders over the years), and I'll put them there, then find they've gone walkabout, she "Tidys up" about once a month, it's a sort of Fraught Whirlwind combining disorganisation and whinging that normally results in various items being dumped in the spare room, and anything useful I previously knew the location of is now missing, If I dare ask where it's gone I'm informed that I should Stop "having a Go" at Her and should Keep track of things, pointing out that I had done just this until she decided to bollocks up the system does not seem to help her mood. It's often easier is I just do a bit of forensic archeology and find things for myself...

The odd thing is that I never loose my keys (Touch wood) where she probably only ever knows where Hers are ~20% or the time, she once called me at work (2 hours overdue herself) informing me that she was unable to leave the house as I'd locked the Door when I left (At her request to deter the various Imaginary criminals that roam our neighbourhood) and she couldn't find her own keys to free herself, I suggested various locations none of which yielded her keys, Eventually she climbed out of a Window (and of course left it slightly Ajar to Aid any passing burglars) and made it in to work 3 hours late. The Keys were found 2 days later in one of Her various Bags (many of which also contain uneaten Fruit for some reason)....

I also do the washing up most days While Her take on this particular task is to leave various things in 2" of Bacteria ridden water for 12 hours and then complain that I need to wash up as she "did it this morning"....

If she cooks she'll use most of the pans and leave any packaging or stuff that should go back in the fridge or cupboard out on the side and complain that there isn't enough space...

If she changes our Daugters Nappy during the Day she'll leave the Bag(s) by the change mat rather than take them out to the bin (Assuming there are Nappy sacks easily to hand, if not the nappy is just left to one side and ignored), Most days I will comehome and imediately have to take out 4-5 stinking nappies the smell of which she has smoehow become immune to....

Basically She is not been properly Domesticated, But then that's not really what attracted me to her in the first place, every "Domestic Godess" I've ever know has bee as boring as Sin, My Missus is Fun and there is never a Dull Day with her, I'll put up with the Mess and the Sporadic stab at "Tidying" as overall I'm still rather fond of her... For now at least.