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Kinda 😀

When we say engaged.. We're engaged to celebrate our relationship in a formal way, making a public declaration of our happiness and our plans to spend the rest of our lives together, celebrating it in a non-religious way.. Our way :mrgreen: We're going to say some vows, exchange rings and then have a massive party with all our family and friends. No dress code, no wedding presents (maybe charity donations if people want to give something) and most importantly to us both....

No paying somebody for a written contract saying we're married, "HANG THE HELL ON!" I hear you say, "you're not getting married then are you? How can you even say you're engaged?!"... Well let me try to explain: proving to other people how we feel has always been something we've never felt the need to do, Becca's family are very traditional and have always seen us as not a serious relationship, despite us living together and having been together for longer than most people we know who are married, including our parents. Not to say we wont do the legal bit at some point in the future if we think it would benefit us financially or legally (if one of us got ill for example) but when it comes down to it we've known we want to spend the rest of our lives together for a long time, no piece of paper could make those feelings stronger so we're in no rush to pay for a piece of paper at the moment 🙂

We're buzzing, hearts racing at a million miles an hour and we can't stop grinning.

Happy times!


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 8:42 pm
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yeti is so Lucky to have you 😉

Congrats to you both may it last a lifetime and make you both very happy


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 8:43 pm
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Congratulations 😀

My one small piece of advice is... if you ever decide to move countries for work etc then that piece of paper becomes much more useful.....just something to keep in mind.


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 8:46 pm
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including our parents.

You have the same parents!! 😯

More seriously congrats and I applaude your values, can you get a civil partnership or is that only for same sex couples?


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 8:50 pm
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yayeeee congratulations again. Now get off here and celebrate!!!


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 8:50 pm
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thank you 🙂 in that situation we'd pop down the registry office and get something signed!

EDIT: ^moving abroad that is.

Emma the valentines 'celebration' when i arrived home from work was enough to convince me i was onto a good thing 😉


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 8:50 pm
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Marriage is over rated commitment to somebody else is highly rated and recommended. Whether it's a church or something else just make, and keep the commitment and have a great time! Congrats to you both.

As for advice, it doesn't matter, you will argue and fall out, what matters is how you make up each time.


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 8:53 pm
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Hey Phil - congrats to both you and Becca. 8) Also kudos for doing exactly what you both want, rather than pleasing your respective rellies.

Dare I ask if Sammie-Louise will be Chief Bridesmaid? 😉

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Posted : 14/02/2012 8:53 pm
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I love it when a plan comes together 8)


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 8:57 pm
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Congratulations & what's been said about doing what you want above + 1 and all that.

I've been engaged for 2 weeks now. Why the eff she said yes I will never quote know.


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 8:58 pm
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Congratulations Phil! What a great day to do it.

SB


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 8:58 pm
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haha phil - nuff said - there are some things the STW family do not need to know!!

Sammie Louise in a meringue would be such a lovely sight! 🙂


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 8:59 pm
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*wipes away a tear*
Sniff


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 9:01 pm
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yay!


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 9:04 pm
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Congrats Phil!

Now where's those pics...time to do some editing 😉


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 9:04 pm
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If you are having nookies with each other you are married regardless ... 😆


 
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congratulations dude 🙂

The other half and I are signing the documents so we as a family all have the same name, Me, OH, and our son.

Then we are going to have a big party just like you.

I second Buzz's yay!


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 9:08 pm
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Congrats man!


 
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Yay! 🙂
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Posted : 14/02/2012 9:11 pm
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thank you guys and gals 😀


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 9:27 pm
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Have you considered the tax benefits in getting married?

Congratulations 😆 8)


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 9:30 pm
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Hearty congrats!

We're buzzing, hearts racing at a million miles an hour and we can't stop grinning.

Most people just have a quiet drink to celebrate.....
but, if you must:


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 9:36 pm
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arggggh happy times! enjoy 😆


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 9:54 pm
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congrats!

We're going to say some vows, exchange rings and then have a massive party with all our family and friends

why not do the official marriage bit on top then?
save you doing it twice.


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 10:31 pm
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Congratulations - although also what brakes said.

The important thing's the commitment at the end of the day.


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 10:37 pm
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Congratulations to you both. May it all go to plan! 🙂


 
Posted : 14/02/2012 10:37 pm
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Congratulations to the both of you, may you have a long and truly happy life together.
The wedding thing doesn't have to be formal, my brother and sister-in-law had a registry office wedding, followed by a blessing by an RAF minister at their bike club. The ladies at the registry office said it was one of the most relaxed weddings they could remember.
Jon and Tess just after the actual wedding:
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Tess is a witch, BTW.
And an anaesthetist; which could come in handy... 😀


 
Posted : 15/02/2012 1:37 am
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Some friends of mine held a "celebration of significant committment". Then quietly signed the papers a few years later. They wanted to marry but it had implications for his student grant(NZ not UK). Was all a bit barf up a lung, has to be said. But good for you !


 
Posted : 15/02/2012 5:30 am
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no issues like student visas or anything that would stop us doing the legal bit, we figured we'd save the money that would be spent on a certificate and put it towards a holiday together.


 
Posted : 15/02/2012 7:22 am
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Woo and indeed hoo, congrats to you both.


 
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Posted : 15/02/2012 8:47 am
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lol thanks yeti, i'm expecting you and jedi to perform a stunt show at the occasion 😛


 
Posted : 15/02/2012 8:56 am
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😀


 
Posted : 15/02/2012 9:12 am
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Congratulations!

Hope you have a lifetime together with ultimate happiness!


 
Posted : 15/02/2012 9:15 am
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I suppose this is my fault too, is it?

Well done fella! 😀

*does manly slap on the back thing, though really should have opted for a hug*


 
Posted : 15/02/2012 9:16 am
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Congratulations 😀

A bit of proper romance on a Wednesday ftw!


 
Posted : 15/02/2012 9:17 am
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well done, may theconsequencesbegreat!!


 
Posted : 15/02/2012 9:20 am
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I think the only appropriate thing to say is

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Posted : 15/02/2012 9:26 am
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congratulations


 
Posted : 15/02/2012 9:27 am
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Congrats to you both 😀


 
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Posted : 15/02/2012 9:37 am
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Congratulations to the Consequences. Nice feel good story to start the day 🙂


 
Posted : 15/02/2012 9:47 am
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Phil.

Congrats on deciding to make a statement of committment.

Sorting out legal estates and next of kin, can all come later.

You're both young and in love.

Carry On !.

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Posted : 15/02/2012 9:50 am
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Congratulations, you do realise you're now condemned to massively sickeningly sloppy Valentine's days from here to eternity, right?

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Good news feller! Now could be the right time to start the breeding programme - The hen of destiny says yeeeees.


 
Posted : 15/02/2012 10:03 am
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This is verry very cool

happy for you both :mrgreen:


 
Posted : 15/02/2012 10:13 am
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This made me bid on an engagement ring, if I win the auction, then I'll pop the question on our dating anniversary in April. If not...


 
Posted : 15/02/2012 10:31 pm
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Brilliant!!

When's the mass STW invite arriving ?


 
Posted : 15/02/2012 11:16 pm
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lol i was thinking last night who from the forum i'd like to invite, i'm scared my compulsary helmet rule might put a few people off 😆


 
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