[Closed] Divorced, what did you do with your pictures?

I'd use photoshop to superimpose kelly brook over the ex, then put them on the wall.

I have all mine in boxes. I don't really agree with the "cleansing" thing - there were some good times and good memories even though it ended in tears.

all went in the bin just like the marriage, no point in holding on to bad memories - it's how I moved on afterwards.

I'd use photoshop to superimpose kelly brook over the ex, then put them on the wall.

I have a photo of a time when the ex- met the current-. I like to look at it to remind myslef what a good decision I made :-))

Interesting question. I'm in a similar position.

[i]Do I remove any evidence of 8 years of my life[/i]

I think that's the key, it all still happened. Unless the memories are too painful, why deny them?

I have thousands of photos of wife and kids - and many happy times - I can't think why I'd want to get rid of them because we fell out!

Put them on all on a huge bonfire with most of her clothes and other possessions (although not her as well, unfortunately).

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Me, though I've never married.

[i]Anyone on STW not divorced??[/i]

Well, technically, me. But only 'cos we're waiting for the Decree Absolute.

I was also thinking what it must be like for the current lady if she flicked through my photo albums and saw the ex. If they were rather insignficant events then they would go and some would, but there were some land mark holidays with some great memories that weren't neccesarily linked to her, she was just there, like seeing family, abroad, going to Oz etc.

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I have pics of an ex-girlfriend, if the wife found them I would be!! 😛

I ended up just throwing them all out. There was nothing that I really wanted to keep and I felt better after doing it. I even threw the negatives out.

not a divorce but once got a text from the ex saying 'Shame our love didn't burn as brightly as your stuff' along with a photo of our shared possesions on a bonfire.

That was a hoot.

I tend to get rid of pics of ex's as they are like kryptonite to new crumpet.

Married 25 years this year, together for 28.

I was also thinking what it must be like for the current lady if she flicked through my photo albums and saw the ex.

so what? You cannot undo the past!

so what? You cannot undo the past!

No, but any new flames will expect you to forget it. One of many areas where male logic is trumped by female emotion.

[EDIT] All in my personal experience of course, certainly wouldn't wish to offend any ladies reading.

but any new flames will expect you to forget it

I wouldn't want to forget it or her, despite the heartache. Amusingly, my ex-wife flounced out of the house when we had a fling and she found a photo of a girlfriend I'd had meanwhile...

Thats a bit sad. Did you have kids ? Put them away for them, future family history tv shows etc.

And to stand up for women in general it's an insecure female who can't accept that she isn't the first. The best obviously, but who wants to be the practice bird ?

I think it's a mark of good character that people can get on with their exes, although there are limits of taste and diplomany with this !

Any kids? Save the photos for them.

Think it depends on whether you have kids.

If so definately no harm in keeping the pics for them! Stick them in a box and put them in the attic - the current Mrs can't be offended and the kids won't be upset either. Jobs a goodun!

All got whizzed in the bin or deleted unless the kids were on them.
Only photos of us together before kids are on a mates facebook, unfortunately its a group photo of all the lads doing the easter walk to the Pike after getting home from Back to Basics in '92. I wouldnt expect him to take the pic down so ive un tagged & binned him off my contacts list...

As for the remarks about upsetting your current wife, she has to understand that your time with all your exes are what have made you the person you are today, surely?

can you get your virginity restored too ?

can you get your virginity restored too ?

Not necessary ... you didn't know my ex 🙂

I was intentionally taking the piss! I wouldn't want a virgin but a woman who knew what she wanted, but the idea that one might seek to expunge one's past is similarly unrealistic.

she has to understand

Oh does she. I'll be sure to let her know that.

[b]Torminalis [/b]- Member
...male logic is trumped by female emotion...

great phrase 🙂

To OP, keep the pics if you have children

Nope no kids.

..male logic is trumped by female emotion...

[b]male logic[/b] = oxymoron :o)

but the idea that one might seek to expunge one's past is similarly unrealistic.

F**cking hell! You should meet my ex!
The woman the 18 year old me fell for, and spent half my adult life with , in less then a week ceased to exist, to be replaced with what can only be described as an unrecogniseable heartless monster.

[b]Expunge[/b].

I like that word. It has a nice sound. I'm going to try and use it at least once today. 🙂

Elfinsafety= divorced from reality.

Wasnt 18 but same here. Pictures went to the kids rest in the bin. Move on. What makes women change like this?

The woman the 18 year old me fell for, and spent half my adult life with , in less then a week ceased to exist, to be replaced with what can only be described as an unrecogniseable heartless monster.

Posted the nude ones on the internet and chucked the rest away...

Partners strop because you have photos of your ex? Really?

There's a difference, I think, between having photos in a box in a cupboard, and having them on the mantelpiece. Building a shrine in the basement is probably a bad idea too.

I've got a shedload of pictures of old friends, which invariably will have the odd ex here and there. I don't see any point in going through and systematically removing any photos of anyone I happened to play Hide The Sausage with twenty years ago; at the time they may have been lovely or evil by degrees, but time moves on and by now they just don't feature on my radar any more.

That said, I've not got eight years of "me and the wife" pictures taking up acres of room, I'm talking fairly small scale. If I had a wardrobe's worth, I'd probably take 'getting rid' a bit more seriously.

I left all mine with the ex, she wanted them, 5yrs worth of world travel photos too.

Can't say i miss them.

My first wife kept all our photos too.

This is a good thread, not thought much about it before.

'Shame our love didn't burn as brightly as your stuff'

Tourmalis, I'm sorry if that hurt, but it is a brilliant line

Expunge.

I like that word. It has a nice sound. I'm going to try and use it at least once today

Excuse me while I wander wildly off topic, but my new word is

Occulting

It's the opposite of flashing. Flashing, mostly on, with bits of off, eg off off off off on off off off off on = flashing
Occulting mostly on with bits of off, eg on on on on off on on on on off = occulting.
it occults when it goes dark

I think I need to get out more

Oh, and I just lost all the stuff, I'm good at that sort of thing

my other half says that all her photos and wedding memorabilia are in her old dears loft... except for the good wedding presents such as chefs knives etc..

one day she will get round to getting rid of them.. probably

EDIT: just found out that her mum has started pimping out loads of the actual wedding accoutrements for other peoples weddings.. birthday parties.. anniversary does etc.. I want a percentage of that action cheeky old duffer..!

Got all the wedding pics in the loft in the leather case they came in, wedding rings in it too just in case the kids want them when they're older, if not I'll make them into a flip book in reverse so I'll see her walk back down the aisle get into the car a f-off leaving me in peace and with all my hair.

if not I'll make them into a flip book in reverse so I'll see her walk back down the aisle get into the car a f-off leaving me in peace and with all my hair

Genius.

Left the wedding albums with the former Mrs MM.
There's the odd photo in the 'box in the attic' which feature said lady, I'd not bin them, that was then, this is now - and, in the 'now' the preset MrsMM does not have an issue with the pictures being there - it was, after all, a part of my life..
Still deciding what to do with the wedding ring though - sat in the same box of memories - no reason whatsoever that I want to keep it - just seems a shame to 'weigh it in' for just scrap value...

OP - my thoughts - if you were going to 'torch the lot' i'm guessing you'd have done it by now, stick em in a box, out of the way for now. If you come back to them in the years to come, and chose to bin them then, then fair enough..

Problem is all my photo's from our 7 years of marriage are stored on my work computer hard drive, so to keep em would mean spending ages moving them onto a file storage site or external hard drive... not sure I can be bothered...

Still the delete key does not hold as much satisfaction as a conflagration

ahh, I always wanted to use that word in a sentence...

Still the delete key does not hold as much satisfaction as a conflagration

ahh, I always wanted to use that word in a sentence...

damn, had to google that

Not divorced but split after 9yrs, 8 of which we lived together & got engaged.
Deleted any pics on the PC after she had copied the ones she wanted.

Engagement ring went into a tarn as i rode past it one evening - made a nice, final, 'splash'.

I binned 9 years worth of photo's following a break up, pretty much the whole photographic record of the 90's ended up in landfill. Hated my ex at the time and thought it was the best thing to do to get over it all. 10 years later I so wish I didn't do that as I have nothing to show for parties, birthdays, christmas's and nothig of friends and family.

Advice to the OP - box them up and store them away, you might just regret throwing them away in years to come.

relationships - the route of all evil!

Not sure I could erase someone I loved for so long from my life as easily as some of you guys !!!

Bazzer

relationships - the route of all evil!

and the meaning of life
without relationships aren't we just toy-fiddlers ?

DezB - Member
(Anyone on STW not divorced?? )

I have pics of an ex-girlfriend, if the wife found them I would be!!

Share the love Dez and let us be the judges, since that staement is meaningless without pics. I take it they're fairly saucy? 😈

 

This is quite a good thread, in fact I was thinking of posting a similar one myself.

My fiancee walked out on me 2 weeks ago today, with just under 3 months until the wedding date. I've just put all the photo's of us/her into a box along with other setimental things from our time together (including her engagement ring, but thats because I've not got around to having it valued yet!) so that I can decide what I want to do with them once I'm in a better place mentally.

Luckily the jewelers have agreed to take the wedding rings back for a full refund (there's no emotional attatchment to the rings for me, I never had chance to wear it!)

My fiancee walked out on me 2 weeks ago today, with just under 3 months until the wedding date

I have a fair few photo's in different albums that I could never see the point in sorting or throwing.

Just about all the pics I have are digital and on the computer. Never felt the need to hide or delete them. Every so often when the kids are watching random slideshows on media centre an ex will pop up on the screen. Really should move them to a different folder 😆

Have my wedding ring in a box with a load of cuff links in at work. Every now and then I try it on to see if my fingers are getting fat...

She was just the practice wife anyway!

i recently put all the pics( many of them) of my ex and me in a padded envelope and put them thru her family home letter box. But had to be said i couldnt help putting in all the letters,wee trinkets and everything with shared memorys attached in too. i shold have binned them really but i have to admit i wanted to tug on a few heartstrings - as soon as id done it i felt releif then guilt id added the letters,jewelery ect in it too!! it was petty of me after 9 years.

worse of all i didnt realise the price you get for gold nowadays !!!

Sorry to hear that momo- but keep the chin up and be positive and you'll meet someone else

Well I've not been married but I have a handful of pics of ex-es from some time back on my flickr site. I think it's different when you look back over the years, and think well there were quite a lot of good times and even the really tough times were learning times too so it's always good to be positive (even though I certainly haven't been in the past). Maybe marriage is different though?

Kept most of mine, although she had the wedding photos (no idea if she still has them).
I've got box fulls of pictures from over the years with god knows how many ex girlfriends in them, can't see any reason to ditch them and the wife doesn't care so they'll sit in the loft and for years probably and i'll get them out for a laugh every now and then i'd imagine.

Well, this thread has been most enlightening. 🙂

Ex-husband has got all the photos, including the baby ones. 🙁 It's just not the sort of thing you can agree on, is it?

Mind you, I still have the wedding ring. Suppose I should do something with it, suggestions please. 🙄

Mind you, I still have the wedding ring. Suppose I should do something with it, suggestions please.

Make it into nipple rings? Just a suggestion like

Really TJ, I'm just not that kind of gal! [s]And too much of a wuss also[/s]

Not married, and, sadly, not many photos of exes, but the ones I have I treasure, as they were, and are friends, and there are memories attached that I do not want to lose. Anyone taking me on does so understanding that I remained friends with virtually all my ex girlfriends, there are several I don't know the whereabouts anymore, but there was no animosity anyway. Maybe that's the difference, my girlfriends were, most importantly, friends, and remain so. To be otherwise would upset me greatly. I recently came across some slides taken at Christmas around 79/80 at my then girlfriend Kim's family home, and one included her dad, who died some years back. I'm going to scan them and send them to her. She's been my best friend for thirty years and will be thrilled to have them.

If all I had lost when getting divorced had been photographs then I would have been laughing.

My ex and I split up while I was working away, I eventually tracked the few belongings of mine she didnt give away or throw away to a storage depot about 50 miles away from where we were living. And then it was mostly furniture neither of us liked or a couple of bags of mouldy clothes.

The wedding ring is somewhere in the Bohai sea.

This thread is fascinating, heartbreaking and horrifying in equal measure.

I don't think I ever want to marry now, I'm 'only' 30 though so I guess there's time for a change of heart.

Sorry to hear what you're going through momo. I had a medium calibre girlfriend go rogue on me earlier this year, nothing compared to what you're going through though. Better that you found out now rather than later or (God forbid) after.

@ Edward - Jeez, she must have hated you!!

I scanned all photos including the wedding album and have them on an external hard drive. Don't look at them really but I wouldn't want to loose them as it was an inportant part of my life - in terms of the travelling we did.

And I found some video of an ex-GF the other day that I can't remember taking - so much spunk on her face, I was very proud 😀

Plum

You Tube link, you know the drill. 😈

Not a chance 👿

@ Plumber - Seeing as though you couldn't remember making the video are you sure the 'harry' is yours?

I kept a number to give to our daughter when she was older - she is still not quite settled though. I was going to chuck them years ago but a neignbour suggested our daughter might like them, otherwise they would have been dumped years ago.

bravehotel9er - no no, don't be put off by comments from a few of us jaded souls. We are continually evolving as people and many of us come out of these experiences as a much better person.

Actually, I've just realised, the only photo I have is of my departed beloved dog.