[Closed] Xmas eve: dumped by the missus via text

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Craigslist, personal ad's, her number

Not the best time but she obviously wasn't worth it!

Hope you kept the receipts for her presents and you have found your pressies.

Time to head to your Ma and Pa or a good friends.

The mark of the woman. Only mourn a good woman/man who lives by good breeding and morals

Sounds like a lucky escape SM, look forward to a fresh new start in 2014

...by good breeding

Unless he was dating a Spaniel, I don't know if that should be a concern.

Time to head to your Ma and Pa or a good friends.

Agreed. Get on the rebound....erm...hang on.

Unless he was dating a Spaniel, I don't know if that should be a concern.

I think he was on about technique.

new start, pubs are still open

I think he was on about technique.

Yep, long term and a little fella. Not sure what to feel right now. Mashed is probably the polite term.

Spaniel's ears are a way to see a lot about the breeding.

*Edit -Please accept my heart felt apologies, OP, was thinking this deserved banter. It clearly doesn't, given your post re a little chap. Fingers crossed that you can make the best of this situation.

Yep, long term and a little fella. Not sure what to feel right now. Mashed is probably the polite term.

Aw crap. Swift edits may be coming up...

Am in the pub but it doesn't feel right. My duty is to my son's wellbeing so I'll be heading back after this one.

It's a shite night for me as I have contracted the bloody man flu winter bug yesterday while shopping for presents.

Now my entire body aches and my head is spinning with very bad sore throat ...

Haven't eaten anything proper yet as I could hardly open my eyes.

👿

Yep, long term and a little fella.

Damn a little.... oh wait you mean you have a kid.

Well it's all about him now mate so give him all the attention he deserves.

Damn a little.... oh wait you mean you have a kid.

*guilty chortle*

Sounds like longterm material. Firmly not. Resolve to move on.

Good to see the hive doesn't let domestic sh1t get in the way of mirthful expression 🙂

Good to see the hive doesn't let domestic sh1t get in the way of mirthful expression

We also do heartbreak songs 8)

You lucky S.O.B

chin up fella, life usually turns out good for good people.... 🙂

What's for you won't go by you. Bad news though. I'm sat in a dark room in my inlaws, singing flower of Scotland to a screaming 8 week old while they (edit: by "they" I mean the adults!) eat the best meat and drink the best wine. I hate Christmas with passion. I have been singing for at least an hour.

I'm sat in a dark room in my inlaws, singing flower of Scotland to a screaming 8 week old

Maybe stop singing.

Tomorrow bourbon, or whiskey, is your friend, then pick yourself up and do all the things you want to in 2014!

Nightmare! Sorry mate...must be tough.

If it is any consolation i've just had a barney with the wife and i think we're headed in the same direction 🙁

Edit Father Teds on...so its not all bad!

Oooohhh flour o scotch land ...

Just read the posts I skipped over. Sorry if I was flippant. Sounds like a shit situation, best luck and hope a new year sorts it out for you.

[I]then pick yourself up and do all the things you want to in 2014[\i]

Yep, sounds like a good time to set yourself some goals for the year ahead, plan a biking holiday etc.

anyone else had a good Barney with the mrs tonight,aarrrggggg bloody xmas.

Christ - that's a shitty thing to do.

Until your long term/chap comment I was going to ask if the pair of you were teenagers.

If I was in your situation it'd make it easier for me - At least I would be acting like an adult and not being so flippant over something like this.

Your're well out of it, keep the moral high ground, don't get drunk and do something daft (but getting drunk and maudlin is cool). Despite any bollocks from her always keep access to your kid as the number one, so nothing stupid that she can bring up later to make you look a baby fish.

if you need a break I'll show you the trails around dublin.

TTFN

anyone else had a good Barney with the mrs tonight,aarrrggggg bloody xmas.

one of my baby mothers needs to see a doctor, pronto, escalating illness, coughing, short of breath etc, went to the doctors earlier, they sent her for a chest x-ray which she went to, but there was a queue, then rang me from tescos to tell me this,

get here 2 hours ago and she has drove me crackers with the coughing, seriously, i could do her in,

flat out refuses to go to a&e as she's pretty sure they will admit her,

doing, my, head, in

Just focus on your little man having a good xmas and it will get you through it.

Cash in all her presents and buy some bike bits and go for a ride.
Probably be the best ride you had all year 😉

spacemonkey - Member
Yep, long term and a little fella. Not sure what to feel right now. Mashed is probably the polite term.

Thinking of you and your boy. It is a crappy thing for her to do.

Take care,

J

Sounds like a few of us are in a similar boat. I hope you get things sorted.

Only had a couple in the pub last night so returned home and kept it civil.

Little fella super excited and on good form. Feeling mightily ****** off myself though. Seriously considering taking her presents back. Would expect her to do the same.

Ggrrhh.

Kept the receipts for her presents yeh?

Sure have. Feels like a sh1tty thing to do but probably the right thing.

Take hers back.And exchange them for more pressies for the bairn.Double win.

Take a huge shit in all of her pressies then re wrap them. Childish I know but nothing compared to a dumping via text on chrimbo eve!

Thinking of you fella, hope the little in doesn't have a clue and still has a great day.

Seems to be a very common occurance 2 people i know got dumped on christmas eve a few years ago, and they also knew quite a few that had got dumped.

Perhaps good christmas reading would be , Men are from Mars, women are from Venus.

So sad for the child, but best of luck for you all.

chin up mate,concentrate on you and him

Crappy way to do it, and just as crappy timing.

Thoughts go out to you OP, good luck and chin up.

I have no words of comfort I'm afraid, but that sounds a bit shit OP. Hope you come out the other side ok dude. 🙁

Where are you in the UK, OP? I imagine there will be a STW agent available in your area, to take you out for a pie and a pint.

They make surprisingly good listeners.

Agree with Jamie, the kindness of strangers etc. Could even be combined with a ride. I mean this is a bike site occasionally isn't it?

My ex did this in 2011 so you have my sympathy. I got back with her stupidly after Christmas. But she cheated again may 2012. Got with my work collegue and we're getting married next year.

Get to your parents, close friends stuff your face have a drink and look to the future. Selfish, weak bitch doing it by text.

How you holding up, OP?

I've been in a similar situation. Shitty thing to do. Of course you probably feel very angry about this right now. It will pass eventually. And you will meet the awesome woman you deserve one day. It's hard to take in at the time, but you're better off without someone who'd pull a ****'s trick like that on you.
Hope you're ok, OP.

I know it was likely to be a shit day - but how are you OP?

Cheers for the comments guys.

Quick update. Pretty sh1t day yesterday albeit a day of two halves. Currently with the in-laws and being treated like a leper by the missus.

Good for you - going to the inlaws. Not so sure I could have done that.

Has she told inlaws of the situation?

Tough times, very obnoxious behaviour by her. I signed my divorce settlement a few days before Christmas but it was a relief to get that part behind me, my only regret is not having done this 5 or more years ago. I imagine right now things look quite dark but the future is what you make of it. Time to move on, you have your son and it's you and he who are the priorities now.

Just focus on your little man having a good xmas and it will get you through it.

Spacemonkey. Huge kudos for visiting the inlaws that must have been tough. Are they aware of their daughters actions? May she burn for being such a coward

Timing - appalling.
Method - disgraceful.

OP - she sounds like a real piece of work. I can't believe that somebody would do that.

Take care of yourself and Spacemonkey Junior.

For me, the crux of the issue is it's ok to dump someone by text if your 14. Not when you're an adult with a kid. People break up, it's just one of the facts of life, but there are ways of doing things.

This used to be my break up tune. Always made me feel better.
Dwight Yoakam...Since I Started Drinking Again.

mightymule - Member

Timing - appalling.
Method - disgraceful.

This +1.
Wishing you the best mate. Can't really say much more that hasn't been said. Just hope things take a turn in the right direction for you sharply.

Can't believe this, nor can I believe you went to your in laws! I hope you told them as you all sat together for a meal?

Disgusting behaviour by her. Good luck!

Oh dear, that's awful. Individually, the timing and the method are bad enough, but together... that sucks.

(I wonder what was the catalyst that inspired this at this time).

Good luck for the future.

Now the dust has settled a bit - how are you chap?

J

Got dumped once on boxing day! So couldn't take gifts back and didn't take it well but I was a lot younger then.

See if you can swap her presents to buy her a spine or a turd in a box!

Very poor form on her part but your probably better out of it mate and sounds like your handling it.

Hope you have a great 2014 and meet someone special when you are ready.