yeah a tip, do not approach new parents with any perception of rational behaviour. babies are tiny little demons that wee poo spew and cry. I don't for the life of me know why we had 2!! 
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interaction with my neighbour this evening
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TL:DR.
Ive often had, while land drilling, shop owners come over in the middle of a week day and say "does that have to be so noisey?"
standard response from rough neck drillers: "of course, sorry mate/luv, ill just pop it onto quiet mode"
its unfortunate, but youve only as much of a leg to stand on as he has to say "how inconsiderate of you to try and raise a baby near my V8s"
if its a resi area, you could get a noise survey done, as there are probably upper limits for a sunday afternoon....
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sorry edukator took some marriage vows that kinda contracted me to be supportive, caring and to look out for her best interests. as it turns out its an absolute pleasure to do so and she pretty much feels the same way. hope you've something similar in your life.
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those cold beers do sound very tempting though ..and they are lovely looking vehicles.....
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see you all tomorrw i'm off to wake my baby up to give her her bottle. Funny that.....
Nighty night gang its been fun.Posted 2 years ago # -
sorry edukator took some marriage vows that kinda contracted me to be supportive, caring and to look out for her best interests. as it turns out its an absolute pleasure to do so and she pretty much feels the same way. hope you've something similar in your life.
Occasional tough love doesn't hurt. I will also be applying to this to my son to be.
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I found it was useful to get our kids used to us playing loud music/drilling/hammering etc while they slept, though in later life it proved hard to rouse them from their beds as teenagers as they could also sleep though any amount of shouting
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I do slimtubing, sometimes looking after her best interests means arming her to the teeth and at other times dragging her away from the battle front with one hand whilst waving a white flag with the other.
Might I suggest feeding your baby girl when she wakes up, babies are happier left to follow their own rythmes. Exposing them to lots of different sounds, sights and sensations stimulates them and makes them less anxious when confronted with new sounds. When she does wake up, roll her around (support her neck if she's really little), play some music, talk to her, tuck her under your arm and do some vacuum cleaning, and only feed her when she starts whinging. You'll soon have a bomb proof baby.
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I am a parent and think the OP is being completely unreasonable. Better that your kids get used to a bit of noise.
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Do people have the right to bear arms in NZ? Maybe a bit of target practise in the back garden with a wide variety of firearms would get the message across.Maybe let him see you doing sentry duty armed to the teeth at night when working on his cars. If that fails tell him you think he is part of the zog conspiracy, once he googles it he will move or get very quiet. This all maybe seems a bit extreme, but it worked for me.
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God what a lot of intolerant lot some people on here are. I dont think the OP was being particularly unreasonable, given that he asked nicely.
We all have to live together apparently.
Plenty of child haters too, which is probably a good thing, should inhibit their reproduction. Funny how people feel the need to express that, rather than STFU.
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Yet you're reduced to having to shout SHUT THE F*CK UP when people have different views to you. Speaks volumes about tolerance
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Can you point out who the child haters are because I certainly can't tell.
We all have to live together apparently.
Yes that is why most people said the engine thing was out of order but that noise at 6-30pm wasn't. Living together means compromise on both sides. No matter how much a parent of a small child might want to believe it, the world does not revolve around the child and other people have a right to their own lives too.
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Ok, perhaps the STFU was a bit strong, but there are people on here making comments that didn't really need to be made, did they?
Example:-
TandemJeremy - Member
I don't care about your child and certainly your choice to have children should not impinge on anyone else
Was there any real need to say that quitre so bluntly TJ?
I agreee 6.30pm is not late, but dont forget if someone worked shifts it could be to them!
Personally i think the OP made a reasonable request in a reasonable manner and was confronted with an unecessarily negative response from his neighbour. Clearly there is a consideration problem from his neighbours side if its been going on for 4 years.Posted 2 years ago # -
bigyinn. Yes it needs to be said. You chose to have children. I dson't. Just because you have children you suddenly need more consideration than you would give to anyone else?
Parents need to understand that the universe does not revolve round their child
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Simple
buy a drum kit
Have the wife and baby spend one night at a relatives house.[keep changing the day so the problem neighbours cant adjust]
have a drum session with a few mates,as back up in case he doesnt understand the 'youll just have to get used to it' retort.Better still
A set of bagpipes,because its a known fact that bagpipes sound the same no matter the skill of the musician
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I do like the sound of the V8. Mind you I love the sounds of a decent engine much more than a nagging wife or wimpering child:
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I can empathise with your situation, with my brother having just become a dad, but 1pm and 6pm are not particularly bad times to be doing things in the non-new-baby-world.
I guess it's possible that you sounded irritated when you asked the bloke's wife if he could be quiet, which is why she said your baby would have to learn to deal with noise, she might have felt like she'd been put on the defensive?
While eating Chirstmas dinner my brother seemed quite keen to keep jiggling his foot up and down on the bar of my chair while his daughter was on his knee, because he thought it was helping her to be at peace. I did want to ask if he could stop the jiggling and see if his daughter was still at peace because it was a bit irritating, but extended family who i'm not related to were round and I didn't want to seem to be making a fuss, and my brother looked pretty tired and like just wanted a bit of peace, and it stopped being irritating once i'd decided it didn't really matter.
While empathising with how important your new baby is too you, and how important it is that it sleeps so that you can do, not everybody has the same understanding of what the implications may be of what they're doing could be, on new babys which may be trying to get to sleep.
Good luck with your new baby, and I wish it a happy childhood. :o)
Cheers
TimPosted 2 years ago # -
PS
If it had been me who'd been asked to keep the noise down, i'd have started being quiet pretty much straight away though.
Tim
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OP- your neighbour is normal. My bestmate had arguably the neighbour from hell for a whole year. Put him on sleeping tablets, antidepressants etc.
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TJ where did i state i had children (I do as it happens)? and why the need to say that in such an agressive manner? By your logic shift workers should MTFU also, after all its their choice to work shifts isn't it?
BTW I do actually agree that the world does not revolve around my offspring, but its a bit like windmilling your arms around in a crowd saying Im going to walk towards you and if you get hit, thats your lookout! We (parents and brush washers lol) all need to accept that we can't all do what we want, where we want, when we want at times.
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I don't know how anyone can live with neighbours. I couldnt.....
C
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Given the choice I'd happily live away from everyone in the middile of a large cordoned off field.
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I don't know how anyone can live with neighbours.
ChrisE lives in a farmhouse with the nearest dwelling about 200m away. The closest thing he has to neighbours is passing mountain bikers at whom he throws rocks
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Simon,
I only throw rocks at you. The rest call in for tea and cakes.......
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PMSL @ ChrisE. just glad you don't have a frozen canal going past your house, you'd never be rid of him!
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I thought that the op had said the guy is revving his engine at 1am.
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Not sure if it's been posted before (can't be bothered to read whole thread) but legally speaking the hours in which you should be able to "peacefully enjoy" your property i.e. not be disturbed are 11pm to 7am.
Generally speaking the council won't get involved unless the disturbance is within these times.
I'm currently months into a battle with students next door - getting woken up at 4/5am every saturday and wednesday morning for the last 4 months... takes it's toll after a while..
Posted 2 years ago # -
RRR you're just anti student because you chose not to be one. lol
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I was a student for 6 years!!
Dan
BSc(Hons) MSc.
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Aaah, but you're not one now are you?!!!
Lets face it, even most ex-students are anti student these days!Posted 2 years ago # -
The rest call in for tea and cakes.......
I hadn't realised that was an option - next time I'll hide behind the wall till the others are ensconced :o)
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ensconced or probably 'en-sconed" !!
C
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RRR the guy lives in New Zealand.
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She says "Your baby will have to learn to deal with noise"
Am I wrong in thinking that she was a) rude
b) doing nothing wrongI'm inclined to agree with her to be honest, they were doing nothing unusual at a perfectly reasonable time of day, their life doesn't revolve around your child. It's very unreasonable to expect your neighbours to be quiet as of your childs bed-time, both legally and morally you have no feet to stand on IMO. 11 at night, sure, otherwise shut the windows and let the kid learn to sleep with noise. All of my siblings slept through housing renovations, hammer drills, car repairs/runnings etc, if you pamper to them too much you'll end up sorry in the long-run! Just my 2p.
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