Have you ever made a sexual advance that you subsequently found out was unwanted?
I have had several turned down over the years. But these are verbal advances, I think any physical contact without getting permission is a bit 1970’s.
And if you have (assuiming you did the right thing and stop immediately)
Since for me it just involves accepting a verbal ‘no’, there isn’t much to stop. I don’t then feel a prolonged period of unwanted courting/ stalking will change the response.
do you retrospectively feel that that constituted either harassment or abuse?
No, as I just accepted an answer. But I do think if you have just initiated some unwanted physical advance without permission then yes it could be seen as harassment or abuse.
I always think asking is the best way to understand if another party is consenting.