This might seem a strange post, but some of my friends are upset at my wife, and by extension me, and I'm not really sure why? Could the STW massive shed a little light on it?
Bear with me.....
We went out for a few beers with some mates, spent a few hours chatting to all and sundry, no arguments, I remember commenting on the way home what a nice time we'd had. The next day, my wife is experimenting with blogging, so writes the following blog;
So we were out last night with a group of friends.
It meant leaving my babe with the mother in law. This should be fine, he sleeps in the evenings, undisturbed normally. But the opportunity to go out hasn't happened very often, and I have issues leaving him. I feel lost without him. I feel like I'm missing something when he's not with me, which is silly in the evenings because he sleeps in a room by himself and I wouldn't normally see him anyway. So of course, he woke 5 minutes after she arrived, and I had to go down and soothe him back to sleep. He slept well all evening after this, so I needn't have worried!
We were out with four other couples, all of whom have children, three of them currently pregnant again. Most of them breastfed for a little while.
We got chatting to one couple who are pregnant with twins. Talking about my babe, how he's just started crawling, how he's been poorly, how he doesn't really eat solids and just mainly has milk feeds. The husband said to me 'You're not still feeding him yourself are you?' in a disbelieving tone, and when I replied sheepishly, 'Well, yes, of course' the look of shock on their faces! It kind of made me laugh a little, 1 at me feeling sheepish in my answer, and 2 why would I feed him any other way? He's 10 months old.
I've recently completed my breastfeeding Peer Support training, and I'm eager to help other new mummies out. And yet, a friend asking me if I'm still feeding made me feel sheepish, and kind of like I'm being a bit weird to still be feeding? I know it's thoroughly against the norm to still be breastfeeding at this age, and even more so that my babe has never ever had a drop of formula milk. It shouldn't be this way though.
My husband and I were raised soley on breastmilk, and I wouldn't have it any other way for my babe. Just think of all the money we've saved!
This morning I get a text from a mate (the one expecting twins) saying how upset he is, and if we had anything to say, why didn't we say it to his face? Apparently another friend is a bit miffed too?
Now, I had to search out the blog to find out what they could be upset about, but I'll be blowed if there is anything controversial in it? Am I being dim?
I am surprised any of my friends even knew about this blog, I didn't know it had been written at the time. More to the point, as mentioned in the blog, it was more directed towards the Breastfeeding community that my wife in involved in, not my friends, and that's why no names were mentioned?
So, what's the big deal, are my mates being oversensitive, and what's the best way to apologise?
Sorry for the long post, but I know I can rely on the STW collective!