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I cannot believe anybody writes this stuff and I'm even more surprised that anyone would read it.

and yet you visit STW ? Life is mostly made up of minutiae, and blogs are where they are documented, surely ? One person's storm-in-a-teacup is another's world-shaking trauma.

FYI this thread would be much shorter if all the I-couldn't-care-lessers hadn't contributed 🙂


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 6:47 pm
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this is straying from the point but yer might chuckle.
my lass has a book club once a month.when its her turn to host it i tend to cook for them and so get to hear some right choice pearls of wisdom.
my mrs was talking about how hard it had been for her breast feeding whilst holding down a full time job (twas a fine effort she did us proud)
when one of the mums pipes up with..well i couldnt be bothered with the first two but i might try with the next one as I dont want to feel like I missed out.
nearly burnt the pizza that night.
same lady once looked at a bag of carrots that i had in my hand and then asked what organic is.
She allso happens to be the wife of an MP.
Mind you spose you can be an MP and marry a daft lass if you want.


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 6:56 pm
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Is it me or is everyone getting a bit sensitive these days.

meh.

J


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 6:57 pm
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Ive said it before on here, but having kids sounds well shite. If my social life ever involves talking about breast feeding then it's time to visit dignitas to end my suffering.


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 7:06 pm
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but having kids sounds well shite

it depends who you are - I enjoyed it, and it didn't destroy my reason


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 7:09 pm
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I can't believe anybody still regularly writes a blog. It must take a certain kind of person to believe the world has such an interest in one's inner-most thoughts to go and splatter them across the internet. And how your friends came to discover the blog is a little beyond me unless the said blog was well publicised in your circle of friends. But then again I really can't grasp the need to blog in the first place.

Some things are better off not said. Other things are better off not published.


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 7:27 pm
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Crikey, I was just about to post almost word for word what mudsux has said... not very helpful really. But Blogs..? Why?

I've just driven home from work, got in, changed, had a play-fight with the dog who ran face first into the French doors. Then I had my tea. Pasta and tuna. Then I thought I'd check my email and got involved in rather strange thread on stzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 7:34 pm
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pretty silly of your wife to go spouting her thoughts into the public domain i should think. she's talking to the whole world behind your friend's backs, not surprised they're p1ssed off about it 🙄


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 7:36 pm
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gonna be helpful now:
Q: [i]Have we upset our friends? [/i]

[i]his morning I get a text from a mate (the one expecting twins) saying how upset he is, and if we had anything to say, why didn't we say it to his face?[/i]

A: Yes.


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 7:37 pm
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But Blogs..? Why?

why [b]anything[/b] ? We have to do something twixt birth (whether breastfed or bottle) to all-to-soon demise, so why not ?


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 7:42 pm
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Coffeeking "A holey roof" you were lucky.....


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 7:51 pm
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Well, I think SimonFBarnes has the right sort of sense.

I'm a little confused about all the middle class jibes, I've always considered myself to be the lowest of the lower class, (scum, me) but apparently I must be wrong! I'd like to point out, if the definition of middle class is disposable income, and spare time, then almost everyone on STW must qualify?
Yeah, I'm not too sure about blogs in general, and I see Twitter as a total waste of time. But still, it's my wife's blog/life, and she does have the odd spare minute when the baby is asleep, so why not? As pointed out earlier, it's really for people in her breast-feeding classes, not for general consumption (although we realise it's a public forum - yet not well publicised.)


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 8:00 pm
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My Dad used to cut us in two wit breadknife, and dance on our graves.......if we were lucky!


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 8:01 pm
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At the cafe at GT a few weeks ago, sitting enjoying a coffee in the sun and a couple of GUYS at the table behind were discussing their wives' experiences with breastfeeding.

C'mon to f*ck guys, get a f*cking grip.


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 8:01 pm
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LOL @ "babe".


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 8:13 pm
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bob you sound a bit shallow if you dont mind me saying.


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 8:16 pm
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Well I'm with Bob on this one


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 8:20 pm
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Well tits usually come in pairs!


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 8:21 pm
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and a couple of GUYS at the table behind were discussing their wives' experiences with breastfeeding.

as we covered last week in another thread, making new people is quite strongly ingrained into us, and if you're going to do it you might as well enjoy it to the full, talk about it, blog it etc. The standoffish type of dad that didn't get involved was always dysfunctional.


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 8:29 pm
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put the women in a room together, you and the lads go down the pub quite happily. It's the girls argument after all, the blokes are all just standing up for their wives. It'll be sorted out when you get back and you'll be the bads guys again (for some reason), back to normality.


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 8:35 pm
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making new people is quite strongly ingrained into us

Thankfully it's not ingrained into me or the wife


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 8:38 pm
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not sure why bob but i am pleased 😉


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 8:40 pm
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At the cafe at GT a few weeks ago, sitting enjoying a coffee in the sun and a couple of GUYS at the table behind were discussing their wives' experiences with breastfeeding.

C'mon to f*ck guys, get a f*cking grip.

Why not? You seem really uncomfortable with teh subject B_B; why don't you lay down on the couch and tell us about your mother....

😉 btw.

Seriously, I think your friends are freaking out about the imminent arrival of their twins and are so worried that everything's going to go tits-up that they've decided to get high and mighty about everything and everyone else in order to cover up the fact that they're shitting themselves over what the next few years have in store.

Suggest that they come round and watch Cronenberg's [i]Dead Ringers[/i] and have a chat.


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 8:42 pm
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lol @ surfer


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 8:46 pm
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Its a slippery slope from blogging to the most ostentatious stalwart of middle class gossip - THE FAMILY NEWSLETTER

ARGGGGGGGG


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 9:05 pm
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with the photo card with examples of the year past. ahh yer cant beat them can you.


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 9:09 pm
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Thankfully it's not ingrained into me or the wife

Congratulations, keep it up.

Dunno what the problem is, your wife seemed to be commenting upon her own reaction to what they said and no names mentioned so they should chill. Weird how people get worked up about breast feeding, bet if it was another subject of conversation from that night your wife was blogging about they wouldn't be upset.


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 9:40 pm
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I think the subject matter is a red herring


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 9:43 pm
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I think the subject matter is a red herring

babies should always be fed red herrings ?


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 10:12 pm
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I'm sure you and your wife are totaly innocent. But I think the "Breast Is Best" taliban should desist from ramming their opinions down the throats of new mothers, who have enough on their plates without the guilt trip!
"Babe" yeugh!


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 10:32 pm
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The misery of mediocre adulthood.


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 10:37 pm
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The misery of mediocre adulthood.

surely most of us fall into that category ? We can't all be amazing, or even interesting to anyone else - but I don't see that it matters.


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 10:39 pm
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so long as your entertaining yourself your ok.


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 10:41 pm
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The misery of mediocre adulthood.

Indeed. Me and a mate used to fear what we called "mid table mediocrity"

Semi detached home in a new build estate, Toyota Avensis for him, Yaris for her, dinner parties where the Lighthouse Family was the soundtrack.

😳


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 10:47 pm
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Me and a mate used to fear what we called "mid table mediocrity"
= snobbery


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 10:48 pm
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is that what we are all doing is it?
or do you just need to roll your eyes at some sector of society so you feel young and rad.


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 10:52 pm
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"surely most of us fall into that category ?"

Few of us excell at anything, but few are so pitiful to be concerned to such a degree at what a herd of she-cows care about any aspect of our pitiful existence. And it's even worse if he/she considers them "friends". And it's worse still to post he/she's concerns on a public forum, there for the suckling whelp to discover in ten year's time should nobody decide to wipe out the forum again over any time over that period should the moderator insult a contributing member, for example.


 
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but few are so pitiful to be concerned to such a degree at what a herd of she-cows care about any aspect of our pitiful existence

it take it you actually mean women ?

there for the suckling whelp to discover in ten year's time

would a child be so damaged to know its mother cared about it ?


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 10:57 pm
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I think sodafarls is just bitter that he will never reach the dizzy heights of such mediocrity!


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 11:03 pm
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My eldest was breastfed for fourteen months, my youngest for eleven.

For all the things I'd criticise my psycho ex for -she was a bloody trooper for this, feeding through mastitis, teeth and everything, but she was committed to breastfeeding, and gave it 100%

I'd say your missus has something to be really, really proud of, and those being shocked, or criticising her for extended feeding are probably doing so because, deep down, they realise that, and feel inferior.


 
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"it take it you actually mean women ?"

Yes I do, but I suppose some "men" may exhibit the same fundamental failings.

"would a child be so damaged to know its mother cared about it ? "

It may well be damaged to discover the effeminacy exhibited by the OP.

I'm of the opinion that anyone who either cares about the supposed issues raised by the OP, or would feel inclined to bleat about it rather than laugh at the pathetic Stepford Wives scenario, is a T.W.A.T. And if that includes you, well please accept my most insincere apologies.


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 11:07 pm
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sfb -

FYI this thread would be much shorter if all the I-couldn't-care-lessers hadn't contributed

You of all people should know the second your press the [publish] button on your computer, your little prose becomes analysed and critcised from every angle and the little devils advocate comes a creeping out from the readership. So why publish - if you're not prepared for this?

On the other hand had these words been spoken face-to-face you wouldn't get nearly the same level of response.

This is nothing to do with Breast is Best vs. Cow & Gate. It's about the [i]written[/i] word.

Publish and be damned.


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 11:09 pm
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you do care and you are bleating. 😆


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 11:10 pm
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I don't see why anyone has to be upset, or to impute inferiority. The original blog post discussed varying opinions anonymously (apart from the author herself) and non judgementally. People are free to choose to breastfeed or not, depending on convenience, practicality and opinion of what is best, and coming to different conclusions is not offensive in itself


 
Posted : 09/11/2009 11:11 pm
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You of all people should know the second your press the [publish] button on your computer, your little prose becomes analysed and critcised from every angle and the little devils advocate comes a creeping out from the readership. So why publish - if you're not prepared for this?

so what? I'm also the last to be cowed by criticism, but I agree the real subject is not breastfeeding but the extent to which people can take offence at the expressed opinions of another, when they're not even critical, just different.


 
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