Right.
The only time I get really really annoyed is when I try and contribute something valid and someone tells me I'm an idiot and I've been easily led by some nonsense. That really winds me up, since my personal life is largely taken up by an impassioned search for knowledge, truth and understanding…
So that's basically TJ. I think he's a decent enough bloke, but he just refuses point blank to accept anything I say if I disagree with him, because he seems to think I'm genuinely stupid.
And when I point out that he is just not quite as well informed as some other people, he goes quiet and then comes back a few months later to do the same damn thing.
Do say:
"Well that's an interesting idea, that's not how I understood it – perhaps you could clarify and maybe we can both learn something"
Don't say:
"You're an imbecile!"
I did threaten to punch him, but I was in no way ever going to do this clearly. And he knew it too. It was just catharsis 🙂