Right to be peeved? Kids nativity content

Not at all! If God is real, he must have a basis on which He exists. This basis must be knowable by someone or something, if not by humans.

If you want to say that god is pretty much anything we don’t understand or have no way of understanding at the moment then I guess that’s fair enough.

I would just consider calling it something else because some people might think you’re talking about the man with the big white beard who knows when I’m masturbating.

I didn’t use to believe in God but now we have our own Christmas miracle; TJ has risen again (to judge by the arguing on this thread)!

I didn’t use to believe in God but now we have our own Christmas miracle; TJ has risen again (to judge by the arguing on this thread)!

My work here is done 😀

Interesting thread.
My 2 eldest grand kids have the occasional interesting discussion around this time.
Sons daughter goes to a Catholic school because mum and her family are of that religion but don’t actually go to church. DiL is a divorcee.
Grandsons(daughters son) father is a lapsed Jehovah(as are his sisters & brothers). He how ever would seem to know more about the Bible etc than grand daughter who attends the catholic school with its emphasis on religion?
MrsT & I are in theory Church of Scotland, kids live south of the border 😀

Likewise, there’s a big difference that you all are missing between saying

“It was God that did it” and

“I believe that God did it”
is the difference that one is true and one is false?

The second coming of TJ would be a miracle indeed !

he is not the messiah he is a very naughty boy 😉

Wow.
I like the way you pitched it that the minister was attempting to ‘convert’ your son. It really brings out the increasing pitch and rising hysteria in your complete over reaction.

Pick your fights. Your life as a parent is going to be life-shortening and combatant if you got your big girl panties in such a twist over this.

My “rising hysteria” by sending one polite email? I don’t think I’m the one being hysterical 😉

I wouldn’t say that God is “pretty much anything we don’t understand”. As science progresses, and we understand more, the logical progression from that would be that God shrinks away to nothing.
God is supposed to be incomprehensible and indescribable, but I don’t really want to carry on as someone will take the ****

vickypea – you’re dead right its called “god of the gaps”.

So you require faith to cling on to the concept of god in the face of all evidence. Fair enough if thats what you want to do i suppose.

Good on you pal. Religion has no place in schools other than RE.

molgrips – Member

Not at all! If God is real, he must have a basis on which He exists.

I spy with my little eye, something beginning with subliminal imposition of gender bias. The old story book that men wrote states that the almighty is a man (and so is his son). Nuddie Calendar anyone? 😀

perchypanther – Member

It’s Christmas. It’s the story of the birth of Christ.

whats the birth of christ got to do with christmas????????

God is supposed to be incomprehensible and indescribable, but I don’t really want to carry on as someone will take the ****

You are right and they will but the problem is you wish to worship something you cannot comprehend not describe

TBH when i studied theology this was what surprised me most . Even if one assumes god is true we still cannot explain the motives of said deity – its very hard to write sentences not saying a gender but I see i can still do it ! * 😉 .

It is a completely different mindset and we atheists just shrug about the stuff we dont know and then apply Occam’s razor to the evidence

* I remember how hard it was to write sentence without saying a gender for gd – a real weakness in our language. I also remember losing marks for refusing to use a capital for god. Now its just laziness.

I remember how hard it was to write sentence without saying a gender for gd – a real weakness in our language. I also remember losing marks for refusing to use a capital for god.

Wow! You are the man! King of the Sixth form Common Room.

whats the birth of christ got to do with christmas????????

A lot. The people who organised the Christian religion couldn’t stop people celebrating the old pagan festivals as they were good fun, so hundreds of years ago they nicked and put their own slant on them.

Not even the most fundamental Christian thinks that the 25th December is the actual date that Jesus Christ was born.

It’s a bit like the Queens birthday.

How this has ended up as a theology debate I don’t know.

Basically, Ben may be right that some “guidelines” have been breached but has acted like a bellend for suggesting that it was an attempt “of conversion” and sneding his passive aggressive email.

How this has ended up as a theology debate I don’t know.

Offspring’s nativity show today, was very cute – though not keen on all these modern pop songs. But all nice and inclusive telling of the story.

But at the end there was “a few words from our local minister” who told everyone that the story was really true, God was really watching over us all and Jesus is with us every day, and then “let us pray”.

Pretty uncomfortable for us atheists – I assume pretty uncomfortable for the Muslim and Hindu kids and parents too.

Have fired off a email to the school reminding them of their obligations under guidelines regarding worship. Over-reaction or reasonable?

Here is the first post

Thankfully my awesome 6th form level* of debating skills and knowledge of STW have enabled me to work it out even if your are lost in confusion.

* how very dare you it was University 😉

Anyone here able to answer if god is ‘in-time’ or ‘outside-time’?… 😀

A lot. The people who organised the Christian religion couldn’t stop people celebrating the old pagan festivals as they were good fun, so hundreds of years ago they nicked and put their own slant on them.

Not even the most fundamental Christian thinks that the 25th December is the actual date that Jesus Christ was born

someone missed the subtle sarcasm in my post 🙁

I get the impression that religious observance is a bit more formal and explicit in England and Wales. Scottish schools (excluding RC schools) are generally pretty secular, and tend to address religion educationally, rather than practising it, so I can understand where Ben is coming from. Our local Minister often tries to shoehorn rather heavy handed Christian observance into the school activities he is involved in.

My son has been asked to speak a line at the primary school Christmas service next week. As an atheist I don’t subscribe to the references about remembering God and Jesus, but it’s an opportunity to talk about this stuff with him. In the long term, I think the best way to inoculate him against God Bothering is controlled exposure and open discussion!

OP. You did the right thing. Well done. It is an issue. Years of religious hegemony has given some people a sense of spiritual and moral entitlement. One inoffensive email to make those in charge question their assumptions and practice was entirely justified. Any more than that would be pointless and petty.

Basically, Ben may be right that some “guidelines” have been breached but has acted like a bellend for suggesting that it was an attempt “of conversion” and sneding his passive aggressive email.

How do you know it was passive-aggressive? Or do you think any email that you disagree with is passive-aggressive?

I like the way you’ve put “guidelines” in quotes, though – that makes them sound less important in a Daily Mail way. Do you think guidelines on what is taught in schools are unimportant?

Ok. Fair point.

I will change what I wrote.

Basically, Ben has acted like a WG bellend for stating that it was a breach of guidelines as it was an attempt “of conversion”.

I like the way you’ve put “guidelines” in quotes, though – that makes them sound less important in a Daily Mail way. Do you think guidelines on what is taught in schools are unimportant?

Well it’s guidelines written by GCC so make of that as you will 😉

My opinion – over reaction. ‘Let us pray’ is a request, not a command and I sincerely don’t believe a sermon and prayer is really an attempt to convert anyone. At the end of the day it’s your job as a parent to equip your children with the tools they need to form their own opinions and if you feel threatened by the above then perhaps you need to reassess how you are going about this.

Religion was never rammed down my throat (in fact our chaplain was also the philosophy teacher and always encouraged us to come to our own conclusions) so I’m a lot less hostile towards it than others, the same seems true for most folk I know (and vice versa) that the less it has been imposed the more accepting they are of it later in life.

Pretty uncomfortable for us atheists – I assume pretty uncomfortable for the Muslim and Hindu kids and parents too.

I am also an atheist, however you need to develop a tolerance of religion. I would like to see preachers of various religions, atheists and humanists talk in environments outside pf places of worship. How do we expect to develop an understanding of faiths if we don’t get a feel for their beliefs?

Why should Hindu and Muslim parents feel awkward. Have they displayed their concern to you? To me at heart most mainstream religions have more in common than differences. I am sure following a ministers comments, everyone could use the time for reflection in their own way without fear of brainwashing.

You needn’t worry bencooper, I don’t think a suceptibility to brainwashing is hereditary! 😉

Complete over reaction. Whatever happens at school the biggest influence on a child is the home. All you have done is probably ruined the head’s Christmas and possibly yours. You are obviously worried about what you have done, and all for what you got upset because at the end of a nativity play a minister said some prays. I assume you don’t celebrate Christmas at home. Send the head an apology as soon as possible.

All you have done is probably ruined the head’s Christmas and possibly yours.

And you speak of over reaction?!? He wrote an email expressing his concerns. I expect the head teacher gets emails expressing concerns every single day, and some (most) would be a great deal more pressing than this one. There is nothing wrong with expressing an opinion, and this was the right way to do it. No burning FSMs were placed in any lawns. Jeez. Some people. ( 😉 )

Edit; Oh, and if you’re going to express YOUR opinion, why not at least have the courtesy to read the blimmin’ thread. The prerogative for atheists/agnostics to celebrate ‘Christmas’ has been roundly covered already.

I would like to see preachers of various religions, atheists and humanists talk in environments outside pf places of worship. How do we expect to develop an understanding of faiths if we don’t get a feel for their belief

do you think was well served by someone making a mixed group join then in a prayer?

‘Let us pray’ is a request, not a command

it’s an instruction rather than asking if you want to join him in prayer

Send the head an apology as soon as possible and ask for forgiveness 😉
FTFY

bencooper was obviously in the right to expect a school to recognise that not all the audience are god fans. However, observe across the pond what happens when religion is banned from schools – it attains the glamour of a forbidden fruit and large numbers of folk over-indulge. The good thing about “RE” as taught here is that kids quickly find out that it’s a load of boring old bollox Think of it like an innoculation.

EDIT – kcr said the same thing already

Teaching RE in schools is very important. Holding worship in schools is not.

Complete over reaction … probably ruined the head’s Christmas and possibly yours … obviously worried about what you have done … you got upset… Send the head an apology as soon as possible.

What was that about a complete over-reaction? Sending one polite email isn’t getting upset, it’s not ruining everyone’s Christmas.

It’s funny how some people have got about this. Insults, wildly overblown hyperbole, some people are really, really defensive about this subject. I wonder why?

Atheists and Christmas, only curious thing is why they call it Christmas; and not the winter break like some US companies

Historical accident – much like why Christians celebrate the birth of Jesus on a day when he wasn’t born.

Atheists and Christmas, only curious thing is why they call it Christmas; and not the winter break like some US companies

its not that long ago that Scots (where Ben lives) worked Christmas day and New Years day was the focus for winter celebrations. If I don’t call it Christmas someone will tell me I am “PC gone mad”

I get the impression that religious observance is a bit more formal and explicit in England and Wales. Scottish schools (excluding RC schools) are generally pretty secular, and tend to address religion educationally, rather than practising it, so I can understand where Ben is coming from.

actually its highly variable – i’d say it depends largely on the beliefs of the head teacher and that is wrong. Its also written into law that there should be worship in scottish schools and that is ridiculous.

some people are really, really defensive about this subject. I wonder why?

It’s not the subject that has annoyed me.

It’s the “offended” stance and the quoting of guidelines.

You went to a celebration of the Christmas story and got offended when somebody brought religion into it. Then sent an email to complain, suggesting that someone was trying to convert your children.

If the priest/minster/vicar handn’t said “Let us pray”, I’m sure you would of found something to else be offended about.

You seem really pleased that it happened, to the point of on your return home, you looked up the formal guidelines on line and quoted them.

It’s pathetic.

It’s the “offended” stance and the quoting of guidelines.

I’m not offended, I’ve repeatedly said I’m not offended. You, however, seem to be. I wonder why?

Again with the guidelines – what other school teaching guidelines do you think are unimportant?

I’m sure you would of found something to else be offended about. You seem really pleased that it happened

Nope, the rest of it was lovely, as I said. You seem desperate to paint me as some kind of radical atheist, again I’m wondering why?

Right to be peeved?

But at the end there was “a few words from our local minister” who told everyone that the story was really true, God was really watching over us all and Jesus is with us every day, and then “let us pray”.

Pretty uncomfortable for us atheists – I assume pretty uncomfortable for the Muslim and Hindu kids and parents too.

Why were you peeved? Why did it make you feel uncomfortable?

You attended a Christian clelbration in your local community and “reported” a local clergyman from that community for attempting to convert you and your family.

offended

1. To cause displeasure, anger, resentment, or wounded feelings in: We were offended by his tasteless jokes.
2. To be displeasing or disagreeable to: Onions offend my sense of smell.
v.intr.
1. To result in displeasure: Bad manners may offend.
2.
a. To violate a moral or divine law; sin.
b. To violate a rule or law: offended against the curfew.

Thesaurus
offended
adjective upset, pained, hurt, bothered, disturbed, distressed, outraged, stung, put out (informal), grieved, disgruntled, agitated, ruffled, resentful, affronted, miffed (informal), displeased, in a huff, piqued, huffy

it’s an instruction rather than asking if you want to join him in prayer

Well since neither one of us was there neither could really say for sure by context I suppose.

However, from my experiences of various CoS ministers the run up is usually an invitation followed by ‘let us pray’ as a signal that the prayer is beginning.

I think gobuchul’s got you on this one, bencooper- to me, peeved and offended are virtually synonymous, and as the title of your thread is “right to be peeved”…..

I suppose it’s a language thing then – to me, to be offended is a much more emotional thing than just being a bit peeved. Just because words are listed in a thesaurus doesn’t make them exactly equal.

For example, if I was the kind of person who got offended easily, I’d be offended at being called a bawbag. Not peeved.

Things can be annoying without being offensive.
Offended carries a particular connotation of moral indignation.
Words adjacent to each other in a thesaurus are not synonyms.

Yeah, I know that. Ok, better question bc, and one you’ve not really been asked/not talked about…..

….just why are you bothered?

Serious question. I would just have let it go.